DAY 315: Parenting in the New Age – Dr. Saloni Singh

shutterstock_172913915Chapter 9 in the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge entitled “Parenting in the New Age” is written by Dr. Saloni Singh.

Saloni Singh MD became a Life and Parenting Coach to help parents and couples enhance their relationship with each other and their children and bring joy and harmony in their families. www.salonisingh.com

“Our kids require us most to love and accept them for who they are, not to spend our whole time trying to make them into who we think they should be. Also they need our love the most when we feel they deserve it the least. […]

To teach anything to your children, first you need to earn their unshakable trust and faith in everything you do and say. Let your children feel and learn from your attitude that they are important to you, more significant than anything else. Let them know your trust in them is unshakable. And if you think they already know, you are mistaken dear friend.

Many surveys show that children feel unloved or loved conditionally, untrusted and insignificant in the modern age because they feel work, money, status, society, even the laptop and phone calls are more important to their parents than them. […]

Bring the qualities in yourself that you want to see in your child. Be the person you want your child to be and feel the magic.”

Powerful! Parenting for the New Age.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 314: Spiritual Healing Through Storytelling – Dr. Amit Nagpal

shutterstock_21205978Chapter 8 in the the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge entitled “Spiritual Healing Through Storytelling” is written by Dr. Amit Nagpal.

Dr. Amit Nagpal is a social media influencer, author, speaker, trainer and coach. His special interest and expertise lie in inspirational storytelling, anecdotes and visual storytelling. www.dramitnagpal.com

Dr. Nagpal teaches his clients to learn how to tell their story so that they can heal their emotional wounds and live free from pain, shame, guilt or anger.

Here’s an excerpt from this chapter:

“How can we use storytelling to heal ourselves of the past and unburden our soul? In my opinion, the process requires the following five steps:

  • Get conscious of your story – The Consciousness
  • Decide to what extent you would want to share – The Content
  • Turn wounds into gifts – The Cure
  • Look at tragedy as if it were comedy – The Comedy
  • Become a witness to your story – The Context

[…]

The Universe designed us for storytelling and story listening. Our hearts connect to stories, our brains are wired for stories and our ears want to listen to stories. We want our stories to be heard because our experiences are stories, our complaints are stories and sometimes the biggest burdens on our soul are our untold stories.”

Telling your story from a place of compassion and love for yourself, without feeling like a victim and having a compassionate listener who knows how to listen fully will bring about lightness of heart and deep healing.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 313: The Power of Forgiveness – Water E. Jacobson MD

forgivenessChapter 7 in the the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge teaches about the power of forgiveness.

Walter E. Jacobson MD, psychiatrist, therapist, spiritual advisor, mastery of life mentor, author and speaker, motivates audiences to break free from self-limiting concepts and negative behaviors getting in the way of their happiness and success. He emphasizes on the power of spiritual techniques and cognitive tools to generate happiness, well-being and material success. He is the author of bestselling book “Forgive to Win”.  www.walterjacobsonmd.com

“Forgiving others is an act of compassion. We know this. Nonetheless, often times we don’t do it. We want those who hurt us to suffer for what they did. By withholding forgiveness we think we are punishing them. We think we are keeping them stuck in a prison of guilt and shame. But the fact is we’re just punishing ourselves.

We’re prolonging our own suffering. We’re withholding from ourselves our own piece of mind. We’re essentially keeping ourselves locked in an emotional prison cell that is of our own making. We victimize ourselves long after having been victimized by our offenders.”

Isn’t that powerful?

Is there someone in your life you have not yet forgiven?

Do it. Forgive them. Free yourself from the burden of un-forgiveness.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 312: Ho’oponopono – The Magical Prayer Healing – Rashminder Kaur

shutterstock_146595713Chapter 6 in the the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge brings us back to something that I love and believe in wholeheartedly: Ho’oponopono.

I wrote about it in the early days of this gratitude project and since then people have asked me about it many times.

The author of this chapter, Rashminder Kaur is a Reiki and EFT teacher and a student of Non Dual Awareness. Living in Ahmedabad, India, she offers healing and counselling services and leads workshops to raise awareness in both the social and spiritual domains. Her volunteer contributions are with nonprofit organizations supporting organic and sustainable living.

Here’s what she says about Ho’oponopono:

“If there is something that transcends all boundaries of culture and creed and unites humanity, is the practice of prayer. Prayer is much more than a religious ritual and its essence; when understood it becomes the very purpose of life itself.

As Rumi says: ‘After all, the purpose of prayer is not to stand and bow all day.The purpose is to poses continuously that fragrant state which appears to you in prayer.’ […]

Ho’oponopono is a prayer healing which has been practiced by the people of Hawaii. […] The meaning of Ho’oponopono in Hawaiian is “mental cleansing”.

The essence of Ho’oponopono is the manifestation of three key aspects of Universal Love. These are:

  • Acceptance
  • Forgiveness
  • Gratitude

Universal love, which forms the very fabric of creation, from which all matter and spirit evolve is embodied by these three attributes of Acceptance, Forgiveness and Gratitude. When we focus on these attributes and integrate them with our full acceptance of responsibility for whatever problem is occurring, we easily manifest the universal love which cleanses faulty patterns from our consciousness and fills us with awareness.

Thus Ho’oponopono is not energy based, but a consciousness based practice; that is why it is devoid of any visual or energetic experience, but brings healing through awareness.”

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

Rucsandra

DAY 311: The Willingness Process – Jane Kirby

willingnessChapter 5 in the the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge is entitled “The Willingness Process” and it is written by Jane Kirby.

Jane Kirby is a qualified therapist, international trauma counselor and the creator of The Willingness Process modality. She works full time as a counselor, public speaker, master workshop facilitator, author and master trainer of the NewAge Foundation. She lives in Zambia with her husband Chad. www.janekirby.info

“I would love to share with you a personal story about a meeting I had with the Dalai Lama. […] So my question was:

“How does one best help somebody if they are battling with low self-esteem and beating themselves up? What’s the best thing that one can do to be of assistance?” […]

I was lucky enough that  my question got passed forward and the following is the Dalai Lama’s response:

“The first thing that you need to know is that even if Buddha himself came down to assist you with someone, if that person themselves is unwilling to heal, then there is really nothing that can be done to help them.”

She also says that within the truth of His Holiness’ words there was a beautiful dichotomy, which is that the opposite is also completely true:

“When anyone is really willing … then healing can happen and fights can end so rapidly that it can almost spin one’s head.”

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 86: Promises You Did Not Keep

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There is a great tool that I have used to help me clear emotional clutter, doubts and fears. What I am sharing with you today is powerful and quite easy to do; all it requires is your desire to examine your life with no judgment, understanding and compassion.

I want to go back to the concept of authenticity I wrote about yesterday. Authenticity implies integrity. In order to honor yourself and be authentic you must learn to keep your promises to yourself and others.

You must be able to trust yourself.

Are there still areas of your life where you are not yet authentic? Make a list so that in the upcoming weeks and months you can do what you need to do in order to create full authenticity in your life. Take it one step at a time and clear everything that keeps you apart from your authentic self.

Are there any promises that you have made to others or to yourself that you have not kept? Make a list of all these things. Do not judge yourself for what you find. Make your list and set it aside. Being aware of your patterns and getting out of the habit of ignoring things that nudge at you will strengthen you emotionally and will clear away layers and layers of emotional clutter.

I will talk more about integrity and its sheer POWER in tomorrow’s post.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 84: Forgiving Yourself

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“Remember, we do not have to know how to forgive. All we have to do is be willing to forgive. The Universe will take care of the how. ” – Louise Hay

Forgiveness is a choice. We might not know how to forgive but first we must be willing. I shared with you the painful and powerful moment in my own life when I came face to face with forgiveness as being my choice. In the post entitled Ioana’s Death I wrote:

“In that courtroom, I was fully present in a heightened state of awareness. I was aware of the greatness of that very moment. I knew that it was my choice and my choice only. Life is truly made of what we choose to do with what we encounter.”

Forgiving yourself is no different. You have the power to choose forgiveness over punishment, shame, guilt and blame. You are powerful beyond measure and you have the capacity to set yourself free. But you must want it first and, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says “be willing to entertain the possibility”.

If you are facing the choice of forgiving yourself or continuing to punish yourself for days, months and years to come start here, right now.

Ask yourself if you are willing to forgive the person you were when you did what you did or made the decision that you have been regretting and blaming yourself for ever since. If you are not, accept it as it is, knowing that the possibility exists and revisit the question in a few weeks.

If you are willing, then make the choice right now: choose forgiveness. So far you have been choosing punishment, over and over. Choose differently this time. Choose to forgive yourself.

Trust life to show you how. Your willingness to choose a new path for your life is enough to set the wheels of the Universe in motion. Stay open, allow yourself to be vulnerable, listen and pay attention to the changes that will take place inside you, one step at a time.

Give yourself permission to forgive. You can do it. I know you can, even though you might feel that you cannot. I will hold the torch for you: the torch of refusing to continue limiting yourself by not letting go. YOU CAN DO IT!

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 83: Can’t Forgive Yourself? Shatter some taboos!

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It is easier to forgive someone else than to forgive yourself. Why do you think that is? I will tell you what I came to understand about this inability to forgive ourselves. Our upbringing and what our families, schools and society taught us from a very early age among other things is that we are supposed to have all the answers, to be better than others in order to succeed, to be on top of all things at all timer, to work really hard, to keep our mouths shut and to sacrifice ourselves for other people.

With what I know and understand now, I consider that about %90 percent of what we were taught about relationships, money, wars, sex, intuition, power, love, success, history, failure and life in general does not serve us at all. Shocking? Maybe, but think about it with an open mind. Were you taught with kindness, compassion, forgiveness and unconditional love or were you taught through discipline, through punishment and reward, through judgement and comparison with other kids? Take some time to think. This might be rough for you to look at, but please do. Give yourself the gift of honesty and clarity. Let me know if I can assist you with this. What I now know is that understanding the past through the lens of compassion and with an open heart allows us to grow emotionally, to become aware, to be authentic and access the joyful, non-suffering quality of life.

You might not agree with what I am saying, and that is OK. Do not agree, but allow yourself to look at things from different perspectives, to question everything and then decide for yourself. What I am doing is offer you another option, a different angle and sometimes maybe a breath of fresh air through a new view on things.

I don’t like taboos and believe that we must break free from them. Wikipedia says:

A taboo is a vehement prohibition of an action based on the belief that such behavior is either too sacred or too accursed for ordinary individuals to undertake, under threat of supernatural punishment. Such prohibitions are present in virtually all societies. The word has been somewhat expanded in the social sciences to strong prohibitions relating to any area of human activity or custom that is sacred or forbidden based on moral judgment and religious beliefs.  “Breaking a taboo” is usually considered objectionable by society in general, not merely a subset of a culture.

Let’s break some taboos right now by being willing to look at things that are hard to look at and that are not talked about.

Going back to how you were brought up, you now have a very strong belief in success and failure, right and wrong and you believe that the wrong doings must be punished; you believe that so strongly, that you are willing to punish yourself for years for something you did in your past. You think that you failed or you believe that you were wrong and you look at your past decisions with judgment and with no compassion. You want to punish yourself because you think you did something wrong and you are willing to continue punishing yourself for years and years.

I say that is ENOUGH! Haven’t you suffered enough? Haven’t you felt the pain of it all over and over? Let go, let go, let go. Break the taboos within yourself. You did the best you could at the time, with what you knew to be true at that time. How many more years are you going to make yourself suffer? Be willing to contemplate forgiveness. There’s more to come tomorrow, but for now, just contemplate the possibility of forgiveness.

Louise Hay says:

“Remember, we do not have to know how to forgive. All we have to do is be willing to forgive. The Universe will take care of the how. “

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 81: The Truth Letter

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What I am about to share with you today will allow you to connect with yourself at a really deep level and release emotional clutter. This is powerful and it works, but you must be willing to take responsibility for your own feelings.

If you are ready, let’s do it!

Think about a person in your life whose actions affected you negatively. If you can still feel the hurt, anger, blame or pain than this is the perfect thing for you to do right now. So set aside a half an hour of undisturbed time. Put your phone away, turn off the computer, radio or TV. Take a pen and a paper, sit down in a quiet spot, breathe deeply and write this person a letter. You will not send it to them, so give yourself the gift of honesty and write exactly how you feel. This emotional cleansing technique is not about the other person, it is about you and you only.

In this letter, tell them everything that you want to tell them. How hurt you felt, how hard it was for you, how much trouble their action or inaction created for you. Do not blame them and do not tell them how they should have behaved differently. This letter is not about them, what they did or did not do; this letter is about YOU, how you felt or still feel as a result of their actions. This letter is about you learning to express your feelings and emotions, to own them and to share them without blame.

I want you to pour your heart out into this letter. Be ruthless in your honesty and hold nothing back. Nobody else will ever see this letter, so please do not censor your feelings or your thoughts. You have the right to feel everything that you are feeling, so do not make things lighter or sugar-coat them. Just say it as it is, write down what you truly feel and refrain yourself from judging and finger pointing. Just state the truth of what is in your heart.

You can do it. Sit down, write the letter today.

Once the letter is completed, sit in the awareness of your emotions and notice  how you feel, now that you got off your chest everything you wanted to say.

Tomorrow I will teach you what to do with it.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 79: Clutter?

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I will share a secret with you: whenever I need to feel instantly better during a stressful time when I do not yet know what the answer to my problem will be, I choose a drawer, a closet or a room to de-clutter and clean. From an emotional and energetic perspective, this is a powerful cleansing technique. By throwing or giving away the things that you do not need anymore, your energy becomes clearer. Your environment is an extension of you and if it is cluttered, so are your mind, energy field and emotional system.

Does that seem like a huge task? GREAT! Are you wondering “What do you mean: great!?!?”.

Well, if it does seem like a big job, it means that by completing it, you will feel a huge difference.

Energy is all one. Everything that you are and everything that you have create YOUR ENERGY. You are not separate from your mind, your physical environment, your emotions and everything else around you.

If your physical environment is cluttered, so is your mind. Cluttered drawers and holding on to things you do not need anymore or never really needed or wanted are equally creating and being created by emotional clutter.

Your emotional well-being reflects and is reflected by your clean, clear, clutter free environment.

I know that you might feel quite overwhelmed by the idea of starting such a big job, but it does not have to be that way. Let me show you how to do this.

Take a notebook and a pen and walk around your home, office, garage, storage area and write down everything that needs to be done. Do not hold back, just write everything: laundry, paper stacks, closet stuff, kitchen drawers, bills, magazines, bathroom drawers, books, garage shelves. Write down everything that needs to be done in no particular order, or use different pages for different rooms and areas.

This task might take you a week or two to complete. There is no rush, there is no pressure. Just do it. Write everything down.

With every single thing that you are writing down, your mind will get clearer because you will not carry all these tasks and things to do in your mind all the time. The paper will hold all this for you.

You are in fact decluttering your MIND in the same time.

Your mind is meant to reason, think, judge, create and find solutions. It is not meant to store hundreds of cleaning and repairing tasks.

Go to work, start today!  This holds more power than you think. I will teach you how to do this in an easy and stress free way in tomorrow’s post.

Love,

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