This is a very interesting fact: finding out what to do next, what path to take from now on or getting the solution you are looking for depends on how comfortable you are with not knowing.
Sounds paradoxical? It is not.
I know how you feel if you are under pressure to know what your next step will be. I know the feeling very well, because I used to toss and turn and drive myself exhausted by trying to figure out what I was supposed to do in various situations. I’ve learned a lot since those days of continuous turmoil.
What I found out is this: the more I relaxed into not knowing the answers just yet, the more I released resistance; and because I releases resistance what I wanted to know was revealed to me.
Try it. Relax. Start accepting that it is OK to not know for a while. Releasing resistance towards the “not knowing” state allows you be in a receptive state, where you are not going against the current of life and therefore solutions and answers are able to come to you with less obstacles.
Eckhart Tolle says:
“Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.”
If you find it hard to accept and believe, start with what I always advise you to start with: take a first step; think of the first level you can accept and go from there. For example, start by saying to yourself: “Well, I do not believe this ‘feeling at ease with not knowing’ concept, but maybe I’ll read more about it; in the meantime, I will accept the fact that it works for other people. And if it works for them, maybe it can work for me as well. It would sure be nice to feel less stressed out in situations when I do not know what to do yet.”
As I always say: start somewhere.
Accept that there might be something that will work better, even if you haven’t heard about it before.
Entertain the new idea.
Contemplate the possibility, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says.