365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 123: Want Answers? Be OK With Not Having Them!

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This is a very interesting fact: finding out what to do next, what path to take from now on or getting the solution you are looking for depends on how comfortable you are with not knowing.

Sounds paradoxical? It is not.

I know how you feel if you are under pressure to know what your next step will be. I know the feeling very well, because I used to toss and turn and drive myself exhausted by trying to figure out what I was supposed to do in various situations. I’ve learned a lot since those days of continuous turmoil.

What I found out is this: the more I relaxed into not knowing the answers just yet, the more I released resistance; and because I releases resistance what I wanted to know was revealed to me.

Try it. Relax. Start accepting that it is OK to not know for a while. Releasing resistance towards the “not knowing” state allows you be in a receptive state, where you are not going against the current of life and therefore solutions and answers are able to come to you with less obstacles.

Eckhart Tolle says:

“Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.”

If you find it hard to accept and believe, start with what I always advise you to start with: take a first step; think of the first level you can accept and go from there. For example, start by saying to yourself: “Well, I do not believe this ‘feeling at ease with not knowing’ concept, but maybe I’ll read more about it; in the meantime, I will accept the fact that it works for other people. And if it works for them, maybe it can work for me as well. It would sure be nice to feel less stressed out in situations when I do not know what to do yet.”

As I always say: start somewhere.

Accept that there might be something that will work better, even if you haven’t heard about it before.

Entertain the new idea.

Contemplate the possibility, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says.

Love,

Rucsandra

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 102: Somewhere Over The Rainbow… REALLY?

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I told you before that I do not believe in taboos. Well, I don’t. And I don’t like them because they create misunderstanding and fear. So, may I dismantle (you know, as in rip to shreds) this famous song?

“Somewhere over the rainbow, way up high
There’s a land that I heard of once in a lullaby
Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream, really do come true.”

The skies are blue right here and right now, not somewhere over a rainbow.

Dreams come true right here and right now, now over imaginary rainbows!

The reason why I want to rip to pieces this song is because I believe that our culture has evolved on concepts like the ones sold in the famous “Somewhere Over The Rainbow”. We were raised to believe that life will be good once we get that degree, that car, that relationship, that job, that particular raise, etc, etc, etc.

Can you see where the problems start? We are trained to race towards goals and achievements and the next big thing. And as we are doing that, WE ARE MISSING OUR LIVES! Can you tell how bothered I am about this?

This very song, these very lyrics… what do they actually teach? That you can dare dream somewhere over a rainbow, but not right here and right now. Maybe this might seem far fetched to you, but it is not.

Every single day is a GIFT. Every single day is unique and it will never come back. Even in the darkest of times, there is the healing to be shared.

Why dream of a rainbow that once you manage to find (in a lullaby to be precise) allows you to dare to dream? Why not reach high right now? Why not dare right now?

Why not be happy right in this very moment? Why not look for the beauty of life, even when it seems that there is none?

You see, if we continue to think that dreams come true somewhere over a rainbow, we’ll never dare to dream.

Wayne Dyer says:

“I am realistic. I expect miracles.”

Please be realistic: expect miracles. You are capable of allowing them into your life. But do it here and now, not somewhere in the future, over a rainbow.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 69: The Willingness to Contemplate

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The willingness to contemplate is extremely powerful. I love these words: the willingness to contemplate. Dr. Wayne Dyer says:

“The law of flotation was not discovered by contemplating the sinking of things. […] The Wright brothers didn’t contemplate the staying on the ground of things. Alexander Graham Bell didn’t contemplate the non-communication of things. Thomas Edison didn’t contemplate the darkness of things. In order to float an idea into your reality, you must be willing to do a somersault into the inconceivable and land on your feet, contemplating what you want instead of what you don’t have.”

I AM INVITING YOU TO HAVE THE WILLINGNESS TO CONTEMPLATE the possibility that in every event, circumstance and interaction with other people there is something to be grateful for. I am not trying to convince you. I am simply inviting you to be willing to contemplate something different and to be willing to look at things in a different light.

Even if it seems quite impossible to you to release something painful or forgive someone who has hurt you and made you suffer, if you open yourself up to the possibility that there might be more to it than what meets the eye, you will soon start to see that there was a touch of grace in that situation and a reason for you to feel grateful.

You do not need to struggle with this; just be willing to see it from a different angle and your openness and willingness alone will create the space for deeper awareness.

I believe that one can only teach from one own’s individual experience, so tomorrow I will tell you about a time in my life when I realized that even in the hardest of times, we have the choice to find that spark of gratitude or be consumed by anger. pain or grief.

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 48: Beyond Fear Part 15 – Are You Fearless Now?

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I am really grateful for everything I have learned about my own fears and for being able to share it all with you. Thank you for coming with me on this journey to let go of fear and live joyously, freely, fearlessly. It will take you a few weeks to go through your list and let your fears go one by one, but you will get it done and you will feel FREE. The fear series has reached its end. Today is day 15 of the “Beyond Fear” posts and so, I will close with a few powerful quotes:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness,  that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

 

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

 

“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” – Dale Carnegie

 

“To fear is one thing.  To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” – Katherine Paterson

 

“FEAR IS BECOMING RAMPANT on the planet. We can see it every day in the news. Fear is a lack of trust in ourselves, and because of this, we don’t trust Life. We don’t trust that we’re being taken care of on a higher level, so we feel we must control everything from the physical level. Obviously, we’re going to feel fear because we can’t control everything in our lives. Trust is what we learn when we want to overcome our fears. It’s called “taking a leap of faith” and trusting in the Power within that’s connected to Universal Intelligence. Remember, the Power that supplies our breath is the same Power that created the Universe.” – Louise Hay

 Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 47: Beyond Fear Part 14 – Out-Sitting Your Fears

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I can’t wait to show you how simple it is to dismantle your fears. It is intense, you will feel your fears intensely, but it is not hard and it does not last a long time. What might feel like hours to you is in fact mere minutes.

What I am teaching you today will have powerful effects in all the aspects of your life. You will have the tools to deal with your fears and CHOOSE TO MOVE PAST THEM and into the life YOU DESIRE.

Are you ready to live FEARLESSLY?

Let’s start! Let’s start! Life is meant to be lived with joy, with courage and with passion.

So here is my invitation to you right now. Set some time aside, when you will not be disturbed. Sit in your favorite chair or armchair, get comfortable and close your eyes. Sit quietly and breathe for a few minutes. If you feel fear and apprehension coming up, read the Litany Against Fear as many times as you need until you feel its calming, soothing power.

Or, repeat the Ho’oponopono words over and over until you feel calmer:

I love you

I’m sorry 

Please forgive me

Thank you

If that does not resonate with you, use Louise Hay’s words:

“I am not my fears. It is safe for me to live without guarding and defending myself all the time. When I feel afraid, I open my heart and let the love dissolve the fear.”

You can also search the Internet and find a quote that resonates with you.

Or, better yet: WRITE YOUR OWN LITANY AGAINST FEAR.

Once you have the words that work for you, use them so that you release the fear of facing your fears.

Then bring out the list you created with all the things and situations you are afraid of. Choose one of the fears on your list and sit with it. Feel it fully. Allow it to become as big, as strong, as frightening as it is. Sit there. Feel it. Look at it. Allow it. Feel it FULLY. Do not pull back, do not retreat, just sit and feel it, in its full intensity.

Repeat your litany against fear over and over if you need to, but do not move. DO NOT MOVE. Breathe deeply and sit in that fear. You are strong, calm and NOTHING can make you move.

The calmer you remain, the weaker the grip your fear will have on you. And after a while, it will dissolve. Once the fear is gone, only YOU, capital letters YOU will remain.

It is this simple and YOU DO have the strength to let go of ALL YOUR FEARS.

Go through your entire list of fears. It might take you a few days, or a few weeks, but you will get it done. And once this task is complete, you will experience a sense of calm and strength inside yourself that you never knew resided there.

This is a powerful cleansing process. It will leave you feeling more YOURSELF than ever before.

Isn’t this exhilarating? Isn’t it empowering to know that YOU can achieve all this in a few days or a few weeks?

I am very excited for you because I know how powerful and clear you will feel very, very soon!

And from then on, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says:

“Hit the delete button every time fear appears.”

Love,

Rucsandra