365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 140: Stop Believing Your Limiting Beliefs

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I am following up on my post entitled What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?Yesterday I wrote about unresolved emotional issues. Today I want to talk to you about limiting beliefs, such as “I am powerless”, “I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, ” I am helpless”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.

Tony Robbins explains:

“What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means. The challenge is that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences.”

Your positive beliefs help you create what you desire. Your limiting, negative beliefs block the way to the life you want to create for yourself. If you want to achieve your goals and reach your dreams, you must break free from your limiting beliefs.

So, as Tony Robbins says, start to question your beliefs:

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing your old, dis-empowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.”

Do you know what your limiting beliefs are? Can you pinpoint them?

Examine your life, determine what is not working according to your liking and you’ve found the areas where you are led by limiting beliefs.

If you can’t figure it out by yourself, ask for help. Work with a personal coach. Find a mentor. But do what you need to do in order to free yourself up from what is holding you back.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 139: Unresolved Emotional Issues? Here’s What You Do.

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First of all, how do you know you have unresolved emotional issues?

Let me ask you these questions first:

  • Are you angry with yourself, your mother or father, your teachers, your siblings or children, your spouse or ex-spouse?
  • Do you feel like a victim?
  • Are you unable to have a conversation with someone without having to prove yourself?
  • DO you feel shame for something you did?
  • Do you feel you’re not good enough?
  • Are you jealous of other people’s success?
  • Do you feel undeserving?
  • Are you jealous of your partner/lover/friend/spouse?
  • Do you get angry without any apparent reason?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you do have unresolved emotional issues. They prevent you from living your life the way you want it. They create stress and misery. Eventually, if uncleared, they will affect your health.

So what can you do?

Go to the list above and start writing down all the things, events and circumstances you feel that you have unresolved emotional ties to.

This is exactly what I did about 8 years ago: I took a full day of silence, I stayed home and kept writing everything I remembered. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, until I felt that there was nothing more to add to the list.

I then took two differently colored markers, one for big issues and one for small issues, and marked down my list. And then, I started to work through them.

Some days I could only deal with a small thing, and that’s what I did. If I had to tell someone that I was sorry for something I did, I called them or wrote them a note. If I had to tell someone how their actions made me feel hurt or angry, I connected with them and voiced my feelings. If I realized that I could let go of things right then and there, without further action, then I let them go.

And every once in a while, I chose to deal with a bigger issue on my list. If I needed the help and support of a good friend, I asked them to assist me. I also worked with teachers and mentors who helped me make sense of what I was feeling and showed me how to clear my unresolved emotions.

Bottom line is this: I did not stop until I worked through all the things on my list. Some were easy, some required strength and determination on my part, but I DID NOT STOP.

With every single thing crossed off my list, I felt stronger, clearer, more joyful.

I felt proud of myself. My life began to change and reflect my clearer emotional state.

I am now inviting you to take the same steps. You will never look back.

Ask for help when you need it and keep going.

I am holding a strong vision for you: I see you emotionally cleansed and FREE.

And I KNOW you can do it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 138: Clear The Path And Change Your Life

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In yesterday’s post I wrote about things that stand between where you are now and where you desire to be. These things prevent you from creating the life you want. Here’s the little list again. You can add to it or subtract from it, as you please.

  • Unresolved emotional issues
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Physical clutter in your living and working space
  • Lack of clarity and goals
  • Lack of support
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success

I want you think about these things on the list as clutter. Pure clutter. Some emotional, some physical, some mental… but clutter non the less.

What do you think? How does it feel to view them as pure and plain clutter?

It diminishes their power, doesn’t it? It releases your apprehension, don’t you think?

What do you do with clutter?

You clear it!

It might take a few days, a few weeks, a few months or maybe a few years, depending on where you are starting.

But I want you to know that with every little piece cleared and out of the way, your life will change. A small change tomorrow, another one in a few days, a great breakthrough in  a few weeks. The sum of all these changes will increase its power day by day and the momentum will increase many fold.

You will start to notice your life flowing with more ease, you will feel less pressure and less stress, you will feel lighter and happier.

In a few months your life will be so different, that you will want to de-clutter even more.

Start now. Chose one little thing and clear it, let go of it or change your mind about it.

Don’t delay.

Your life is waiting!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 137: What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?

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The distance between where you are right now and where you desire to be is in direct proportion with a few things. Here’s a little list, and if you think is not complete, please feel free to add or subtract from it:

  • Unresolved emotional issues (anger, blame, shame, etc.)
  • Limiting beliefs (“I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.)
  • Physical clutter (your desk, your office, your car and your home reflect your energy and can either help you or hinder your efforts)
  • Lack of clarity and goals (nothing can be achieved if you don’t sit down and decide to make a plan and follow it)
  • Lack of support (asking for help does not mean you are weak, but that you are determined to achieve what you want and if somebody can help you with that, then you will get their help; we are not meant to live in a vacuum or reinvent the wheel all the time)
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success (this is a big one! celebrating and being proud of your accomplishments lift you up and increase your energy and self esteem)

So start right here, right now.

Agree or disagree.

But do start thinking about it.

Contemplate it.

Have an opinion about it.

Start right now and right here.

Love,

Rucsandra