365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 82: The Truth is Setting You Free

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Today is a great day! I am excited to share with you this extraordinary tool that I used a few times when other methods did not seem to work.

Today, you will feel the power of a Truth Letter, written with full honesty and without judgment.

This is what you do: set aside some time for yourself in a quiet space in your home, in the woods, at the beach, wherever you are. The physical location is not important as long as you have privacy and you set aside about 6o minutes of undisturbed time. It is important to have enough time, so that you do not feel rushed, so that you can be fully present with yourself, your letter and your unique process in the moment.

I want you to stay open and release the resistance of your mind. This process will take place in your heart, in your emotional system, so ask your mind to watch but not interfere. You can do this. Have your Truth Letter handy.

Sit down, close your eyes and do the Square Breathing technique for a few good minutes. Take your time, this is important. Your body will relax; you will feel calmer, quieter, ready to release emotional clutter, ready to let go of what does not serve you. Anger, pain, shame, frustration and hatred eat away at your well-being and weaken your immune system. Breathe and get ready to release this emotional debris that has been holding you captive for a long time.

In this deeply relaxed state, imagine the person your Truth Letter was written to. I want you to close your eyes and call them to join you in their energy form. It does not matter if they are still on this earth or if they have passed away; if you call them from your heart, they will come without hesitation. Breathe and wait a few seconds and then remember them in great detail, as if they are physically right there with you: their face, their hair and their clothes; their posture and facial expression.

One important thing here: when you call this person to join you, he or she will arrive in their essence; there will be no anger, blame, finger pointing or judgment on their part either. They will be the observer and they will listen fully and with compassion. The connection you are creating in this moment is sacred and takes place at soul level, it is above blame and guilt and shame.

Thank them for how quickly they responded to your call and then, keeping eye contact with them in your mind, read them the letter from beginning to end. Read your letter out loud, as if they are right there with you. Keep breathing throughout and remain calm. After all, you are speaking the truth about how you feel. If your emotions become too strong and you start to feel overwhelmed, stop, close your eyes, return to the square breathing until your heart slows down and then continue reading. Read everything you wrote but do not judge them if you are remembering certain events and circumstances. They joined you at your request so that they can truly hear you and be a witness to how you feel, not to be told what they did wrong. Remember, this is not about them; this is about YOU and you alone. As you are reading your Truth Letter, do not get involved with the story, do not get sucked into the past drama of your pain and upset. Just read how you felt then and what you feel now.

Read them the entire letter and at the end hold their gaze. They heard you, they heard every word you said and they understood your pain. You will see it in their eyes; you will hear their words; they will say “I am sorry”; they will truly mean it. Thank them for coming and for listening to you fully and for being a willing witness to your deeply buried pain; then say good bye, thank them again and let them leave your awareness.

Remain in this sacred space of healing and allow the deep release to take place.

By speaking your truth, you are cleansing at a cellular level, releasing deep seated emotional residues.

Breathe.

The truth is setting you free.

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 81: The Truth Letter

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What I am about to share with you today will allow you to connect with yourself at a really deep level and release emotional clutter. This is powerful and it works, but you must be willing to take responsibility for your own feelings.

If you are ready, let’s do it!

Think about a person in your life whose actions affected you negatively. If you can still feel the hurt, anger, blame or pain than this is the perfect thing for you to do right now. So set aside a half an hour of undisturbed time. Put your phone away, turn off the computer, radio or TV. Take a pen and a paper, sit down in a quiet spot, breathe deeply and write this person a letter. You will not send it to them, so give yourself the gift of honesty and write exactly how you feel. This emotional cleansing technique is not about the other person, it is about you and you only.

In this letter, tell them everything that you want to tell them. How hurt you felt, how hard it was for you, how much trouble their action or inaction created for you. Do not blame them and do not tell them how they should have behaved differently. This letter is not about them, what they did or did not do; this letter is about YOU, how you felt or still feel as a result of their actions. This letter is about you learning to express your feelings and emotions, to own them and to share them without blame.

I want you to pour your heart out into this letter. Be ruthless in your honesty and hold nothing back. Nobody else will ever see this letter, so please do not censor your feelings or your thoughts. You have the right to feel everything that you are feeling, so do not make things lighter or sugar-coat them. Just say it as it is, write down what you truly feel and refrain yourself from judging and finger pointing. Just state the truth of what is in your heart.

You can do it. Sit down, write the letter today.

Once the letter is completed, sit in the awareness of your emotions and notice  how you feel, now that you got off your chest everything you wanted to say.

Tomorrow I will teach you what to do with it.

Love,

Rucsandra