365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 168: HOW Do You Love?

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The question is not how much you love someone.

The real question is HOW do you love them?

And I am not only talking about romantic love, but about the love you have for your children, parents, siblings and friends.

Possessive love is about your unsatisfied need for attention; if you love possessively, you take from the other person, rather than give.

Jealous  love is about your feeling undeserving, small and insecure; you are afraid you will lose the person you love when someone better than you comes along.

Controlling love is attempting to over-ride or take away the other person’s choice. You want them to behave the way you want them to and disregard what they want and how they feel.

Desperate love is about giving away your power. Your belief that you cannot live without the other person gives your power away, and in the same time puts a great weight load on the other.

Doesn’t really sound like love, does it?

Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh said:

“You must love in such a way, that the other person feels free.”

Reading this made me stop with a gasp: do I love in such a way that the people I love feel free?

Do you?

Love,

Rucsandra

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 28: The Inner Child – Part 4

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The Inner Child series continues: from the understanding of the two parts of the mind, you have two choices: to CONSCIOUSLY create your life or to SUBCONSCIOUSLY react to it.

In the second post about the Inner Child I mentioned that according to the Ho’oponopono tradition the subconscious mind is considered to be the inner Child; it is important to have the Inner Child work for you, with you and not against you, because that is the more powerful part of the mind and you want it on board with your desires and aspirations.

Your adult self is ready to take charge and CONSCIOUSLY create your DESIRED life. Your SUBCONSCIOUS SELF might be stuck at the age your limiting beliefs were created. Your adult aspect is pulling in one direction and your Inner Child might be suspended and frozen in fear, loneliness or deep hurt.

Old limiting beliefs that are holding you back and prevent you from living your desired life and fulfilling your dreams can be released and cleared by working with your Inner Child.

This concept is very well known and many authors and speakers have written and talked about it. Here’s a great book “Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child” by  Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. Thich Nhat Hanh is a global spiritual leader, poet and peace activist, revered throughout the world for his powerful teachings and bestselling writings on mindfulness and peace.

Remember the quote from Louise Hay:

“IT DOESN’T MATTER how old you are, there is a little child within who needs love and acceptance. If you’re a woman, no matter how self-reliant you are, you have a little girl who’s very tender and needs help. If you’re a man, no matter how macho you are, you still have a little boy inside who craves warmth and affection.

 As children, when something went wrong, we tended to believe that there was something wrong with us. Children develop the idea that if they could only do it right, then parents and caregivers would love them, and they wouldn’t punish them. In time, the child believes, There is something wrong with me. I’m not good enough. As we grow older, we carry these false beliefs with us. We learn to reject ourselves.”

I am so grateful that I have stopped rejecting myself, my ideas and my own view of the world. I am grateful that I have the opportunity to be me, fully me and to continue to become more authentic every day. What I desire for you is to heal your Inner Child and start living your most authentic life!

Tomorrow might be the last Inner Child post in this series, so I will teach you how to approach your Inner Child and bring him or her home. Until then, I am sending you much love.