365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 254: From Me To You!

 

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Being able to help someone feel better is the reason for writing this blog and doing my work, day after day after day. I am grateful every single time my words and my teaching make a difference in someone’s life.

Earlier in this gratitude journey, I offered my “Sacred Oak Tree Meditation” to anyone who wanted to have it.

A few days ago, I received this email from Shelley in South Africa:

“Rucsandra, I just wanted to say thank you so much. I have been doing your meditations everyday. In fact, they are the reason I have been able finally to get some kind of sleep at night! You definitely have a gift! May Spirit return the blessing to you seven-fold.”

It moved me to tears.

I want to offer you my three guided meditations:

  • “The Sacred Oak Tree Meditation” for mental and emotional well-being
  • “The Stress Release Meditation”
  • “The Magic Meadow Meditation” for being in the moment

Just write to me at rucsandra@mitreawellness.com and I will send them to you with my love.

 

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 143: You Need Support!

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So you are ready to take the steps that will create the life you desire. You now know what direction you want to go into and you have an initial plan ready to be followed (read my yesterday’s blog about making a plan).

Many people fail to reach their desired destination and live their dream, because they lose focus and concentration along the way and then lose faith. This happens often and it is a normal occurrence when one decides to reach for a great goal.

If you ever feel like giving up, just know that it happens to everybody. I certainly felt like that many times, but did not give up because I had the support I needed to be able to continue on my journey, even when I felt weaker.

Do you have the support you need in order to make the changes you want to make?

Asking for help does not mean that you are weak, but rather that you are determined to achieve what you want and if somebody can help you with staying on your path, then you will get their help. Getting the support you need will keep you going when you feel like stopping and will give you strength.

You are not meant to live in a vacuum and reinvent the wheel. Make use of the wisdom and knowledge gathered by others who went through the same process before you.

What kind of support do you think you need in order to achieve your goals? What area do you feel you need help with?

Define what you need and then ask for it.

If you need a mentor or a coach, start looking for one. If you need a good talk with a supportive friend, make the call and schedule to see them.

You need support.

We all do.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 142: Can’t Seem To Get Unstuck?

RUCSANDRA's PICTUREAnother thing that can and will stand between where you are right now and where you desire to be is the lack of clarity and specific goals. Nothing can be achieved if you don’t sit down and decide to make a plan first.

Many years back, before I understood the importance of a plan, I remember being quite unhappy with a situation or another, but that is all that I did: felt unhappy. I wanted things to change, but my focus was on how things were not working. Since my focus was on what was not working, I kept creating more of what I focused on.

Things started to change the moment I actually managed to create a mental image of what I actually wanted to happen. Once I had that clear image, I started to think about the actions that I needed to take in order to move closer and closer to my goal. Once I defined a few steps I started to do what I needed to do and things started to change and become more of what I wanted.

Is seems simple and a complete no-brainer, right?

It is.

Once you know what you want, you start focusing on it. You move your attention away from what you do not want and direct your energy towards what you want. You initially create a plan by simply envisioning the end result. Once you have the end result in mind, it is easier to define the step by step actions that will take you there.

What area of your life is stagnant and not what you really want?

Do you know WHAT is it that you truly want?

If you do, then make a plan. It does not have to be complete and perfect. It needs to have the first few actions, so that you can start taking the first few steps. You can define the following steps and refine your plan as you go, but for now just start somewhere. Starting to move, even if you feel uncertain, is better than staying still and stuck. Clarity comes from action.

If you know what you do NOT want, but are not sure what you DO want instead, first define what it is that you want. Once you have that picture, you can put together a plan. You cannot create a plan that leads nowhere. You need to know the goal first.

Here are the steps to follow:

  1. Decide what is not working
  2. Decide what you want instead
  3. Be as precise as you can about what you want
  4. Take a piece of paper and write down 10 actions that, done sequentially, will take you there
  5. Start moving with the first action
  6. If it is too big, then break the first action down into smaller potions that can be done with ease
  7. Do not stop until you get to where you want to be
  8. Get help if you are not sure how to do certain things

Simple and doable, right?

Now go do it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 141: There Is No Such Thing As Just Clutter!

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As I continue with the topics in my post entitled What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?, today I’ll write about clutter.

I’ve written in detail about clutter before, in the posts on Day 79 and Day 80; I’ve also given you a very simple, easy to follow and stress free method to get rid of it.

Since there can be only that much sitting and talking about it, all I want to share with you today is a new point of view with respect to clutter: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS JUST CLUTTER!

Your environment is an extension of you; it can lift you up or create stress in your life.

Here’s a word from Peter Walsh, who is a professional organizer and an expert in organizational design:

“Clutter isn’t just the stuff in your closet. It’s everything that gets between you and the life you want to be living.”

How does this feel?

Don’t you feel like you need to start clearing, de-cluttering and organizing right now?

I started yesterday. I do this a few times a year and every single time it I am truly grateful when I am done: clearer and more relaxed, I am ready for the next stage with a clutter free home and a clutter free office.

Come on, join me!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 140: Stop Believing Your Limiting Beliefs

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I am following up on my post entitled What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?Yesterday I wrote about unresolved emotional issues. Today I want to talk to you about limiting beliefs, such as “I am powerless”, “I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, ” I am helpless”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.

Tony Robbins explains:

“What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means. The challenge is that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences.”

Your positive beliefs help you create what you desire. Your limiting, negative beliefs block the way to the life you want to create for yourself. If you want to achieve your goals and reach your dreams, you must break free from your limiting beliefs.

So, as Tony Robbins says, start to question your beliefs:

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing your old, dis-empowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.”

Do you know what your limiting beliefs are? Can you pinpoint them?

Examine your life, determine what is not working according to your liking and you’ve found the areas where you are led by limiting beliefs.

If you can’t figure it out by yourself, ask for help. Work with a personal coach. Find a mentor. But do what you need to do in order to free yourself up from what is holding you back.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 139: Unresolved Emotional Issues? Here’s What You Do.

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First of all, how do you know you have unresolved emotional issues?

Let me ask you these questions first:

  • Are you angry with yourself, your mother or father, your teachers, your siblings or children, your spouse or ex-spouse?
  • Do you feel like a victim?
  • Are you unable to have a conversation with someone without having to prove yourself?
  • DO you feel shame for something you did?
  • Do you feel you’re not good enough?
  • Are you jealous of other people’s success?
  • Do you feel undeserving?
  • Are you jealous of your partner/lover/friend/spouse?
  • Do you get angry without any apparent reason?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you do have unresolved emotional issues. They prevent you from living your life the way you want it. They create stress and misery. Eventually, if uncleared, they will affect your health.

So what can you do?

Go to the list above and start writing down all the things, events and circumstances you feel that you have unresolved emotional ties to.

This is exactly what I did about 8 years ago: I took a full day of silence, I stayed home and kept writing everything I remembered. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, until I felt that there was nothing more to add to the list.

I then took two differently colored markers, one for big issues and one for small issues, and marked down my list. And then, I started to work through them.

Some days I could only deal with a small thing, and that’s what I did. If I had to tell someone that I was sorry for something I did, I called them or wrote them a note. If I had to tell someone how their actions made me feel hurt or angry, I connected with them and voiced my feelings. If I realized that I could let go of things right then and there, without further action, then I let them go.

And every once in a while, I chose to deal with a bigger issue on my list. If I needed the help and support of a good friend, I asked them to assist me. I also worked with teachers and mentors who helped me make sense of what I was feeling and showed me how to clear my unresolved emotions.

Bottom line is this: I did not stop until I worked through all the things on my list. Some were easy, some required strength and determination on my part, but I DID NOT STOP.

With every single thing crossed off my list, I felt stronger, clearer, more joyful.

I felt proud of myself. My life began to change and reflect my clearer emotional state.

I am now inviting you to take the same steps. You will never look back.

Ask for help when you need it and keep going.

I am holding a strong vision for you: I see you emotionally cleansed and FREE.

And I KNOW you can do it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 138: Clear The Path And Change Your Life

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In yesterday’s post I wrote about things that stand between where you are now and where you desire to be. These things prevent you from creating the life you want. Here’s the little list again. You can add to it or subtract from it, as you please.

  • Unresolved emotional issues
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Physical clutter in your living and working space
  • Lack of clarity and goals
  • Lack of support
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success

I want you think about these things on the list as clutter. Pure clutter. Some emotional, some physical, some mental… but clutter non the less.

What do you think? How does it feel to view them as pure and plain clutter?

It diminishes their power, doesn’t it? It releases your apprehension, don’t you think?

What do you do with clutter?

You clear it!

It might take a few days, a few weeks, a few months or maybe a few years, depending on where you are starting.

But I want you to know that with every little piece cleared and out of the way, your life will change. A small change tomorrow, another one in a few days, a great breakthrough in  a few weeks. The sum of all these changes will increase its power day by day and the momentum will increase many fold.

You will start to notice your life flowing with more ease, you will feel less pressure and less stress, you will feel lighter and happier.

In a few months your life will be so different, that you will want to de-clutter even more.

Start now. Chose one little thing and clear it, let go of it or change your mind about it.

Don’t delay.

Your life is waiting!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 93: Tying Up Loose Ends

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Here’s a question: what do you usually do when you have off days? You know, those days when you feel slightly out of sorts, things don’t really flow and you’re not sure what to do. What do you tend to do on one of those days?

I am having an off day today and I’m loving it!

Did I get your attention? Yes, I am absolutely loving it! You know why? Because I do not think of this as an off day at all; I think of it as a little down time before the next adventure, the next idea, the next creative day. So instead of feeling bad, unproductive, sad, worried and stressed I relax into the feeling of it and do small task that are easy to complete, do not require a lot of energy and that I never really want to do on a busy, upbeat and exciting day.

Today I have been tying up loose ends: clearing some paper work, tidying up some client accounts, planning some payments for various things, clearing a desk drawer, making a few phone calls.

So today is a calm, stress free and very productive day that offers me the gift of getting organized and ready for what tomorrow will bring.

This is a better day to perceive an off day, don’t you think? Because it is not off at all, it is an absolutely perfect day!

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 87: Clearing Broken Promises

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There is an extraordinary gift of lightness and clarity that comes from clearing the energy of broken promises. I want you to have this powerful experience and witness the emotional strength and peace that come with it.

Are there any promises that you have made to others or to yourself that you have not kept?

Have you made your list? Good! Wonderful!

This list is not for you to start thinking about how many promises you have not kept and start judging yourself. The purpose of this list is to create the opportunity to go and clear your broken promises, one at a time.

Mark Twain said it so well in “What Is Man?”:

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

Going through your list and assessing, completing and finding ways to keep your promises to yourself and others will create a magnificent sense of inner well being.

You will feel instantly clearer with every promise you honor, because you will have YOUR OWN APPROVAL!

So go through your list and do what you need to do. If there are promises you made that you know you cannot keep, go and talk to the persons you made the promises to, including yourself and explain why you cannot keep your promise.

Find a way to clear the waters of your own conscience and do not let yourself and others wait in vain.

Go and say “I am sorry I promised such a thing to you when I knew I could not keep my promise.” or “I thought I could do it, but the truth is…. Please forgive me. Maybe I could do this for you instead?”

If there are things that you can do to honor some promises, but just did not get around to it, then make it a priority to do them one by one.

Emotional clutter stems partially from the energy of your broken promises. Go and restore the INTEGRITY of each and every one of your promises, one by one, until all your list is clear.

You will be surprised by the sheer power of honoring your word.

I will leave you today with a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.”

Live for yourself, with integrity, clarity and joy. I want you to have your own approval. This is my wish for you.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 82: The Truth is Setting You Free

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Today is a great day! I am excited to share with you this extraordinary tool that I used a few times when other methods did not seem to work.

Today, you will feel the power of a Truth Letter, written with full honesty and without judgment.

This is what you do: set aside some time for yourself in a quiet space in your home, in the woods, at the beach, wherever you are. The physical location is not important as long as you have privacy and you set aside about 6o minutes of undisturbed time. It is important to have enough time, so that you do not feel rushed, so that you can be fully present with yourself, your letter and your unique process in the moment.

I want you to stay open and release the resistance of your mind. This process will take place in your heart, in your emotional system, so ask your mind to watch but not interfere. You can do this. Have your Truth Letter handy.

Sit down, close your eyes and do the Square Breathing technique for a few good minutes. Take your time, this is important. Your body will relax; you will feel calmer, quieter, ready to release emotional clutter, ready to let go of what does not serve you. Anger, pain, shame, frustration and hatred eat away at your well-being and weaken your immune system. Breathe and get ready to release this emotional debris that has been holding you captive for a long time.

In this deeply relaxed state, imagine the person your Truth Letter was written to. I want you to close your eyes and call them to join you in their energy form. It does not matter if they are still on this earth or if they have passed away; if you call them from your heart, they will come without hesitation. Breathe and wait a few seconds and then remember them in great detail, as if they are physically right there with you: their face, their hair and their clothes; their posture and facial expression.

One important thing here: when you call this person to join you, he or she will arrive in their essence; there will be no anger, blame, finger pointing or judgment on their part either. They will be the observer and they will listen fully and with compassion. The connection you are creating in this moment is sacred and takes place at soul level, it is above blame and guilt and shame.

Thank them for how quickly they responded to your call and then, keeping eye contact with them in your mind, read them the letter from beginning to end. Read your letter out loud, as if they are right there with you. Keep breathing throughout and remain calm. After all, you are speaking the truth about how you feel. If your emotions become too strong and you start to feel overwhelmed, stop, close your eyes, return to the square breathing until your heart slows down and then continue reading. Read everything you wrote but do not judge them if you are remembering certain events and circumstances. They joined you at your request so that they can truly hear you and be a witness to how you feel, not to be told what they did wrong. Remember, this is not about them; this is about YOU and you alone. As you are reading your Truth Letter, do not get involved with the story, do not get sucked into the past drama of your pain and upset. Just read how you felt then and what you feel now.

Read them the entire letter and at the end hold their gaze. They heard you, they heard every word you said and they understood your pain. You will see it in their eyes; you will hear their words; they will say “I am sorry”; they will truly mean it. Thank them for coming and for listening to you fully and for being a willing witness to your deeply buried pain; then say good bye, thank them again and let them leave your awareness.

Remain in this sacred space of healing and allow the deep release to take place.

By speaking your truth, you are cleansing at a cellular level, releasing deep seated emotional residues.

Breathe.

The truth is setting you free.

Love,

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