365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 101: What Do You Do In The Valley?

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Let’s talk about Valleys, now that we talked about Peaks in yesterday’s post. Valleys follow Peaks, but their depth depends on how you handled the Peaks. The more aware, conscious and authentic you remained when things were really, really good, the more prepared you are to handle the lows of your Valleys.

The truth is that Valleys are periods of time when we are given the great gift of re-assessing. You might think that they are there to bring us down, to slow us down, to break us. But that is not true at all. They appear in our lives, so that we can redefine what it is that we truly desire; so that we can connect with ourselves more truthfully than before. If we understand that, then we remain present and we open ourselves more to the gifts of a Valley.

So think about it: are you in a Valley right now? If you are, then go deeper inside yourself and allow yourself to cherish your experiences, your relationships, your wishes, your dreams. Connect with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Become more patient, more understanding. Take a deep breath. Choose to be who you are. Go beyond what you were told, what others expect of you, what you think you should be doing. Go deep inside yourself and allow your magnificence to come to the surface. Allow your true nature to show you the way, to offer you the next step.

All Valleys are there to SERVE YOU. Let go of fear and surrender to the wisdom held in a Valley. You will be transformed!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 100: What Do You Do On The Peak?

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100 days of gratitude so far! 100 days of sharing with you  every day. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Today I will continue on the theme of yesterday’s post. This is so important, that I feel the need to explain it more. What is a Peak, first of all? A peak is a period of time when things are very good, when you are successful, when your relationships are fulfilling, calm and on an the upswing. Things are going your way and you are happy, relaxed and optimistic. Life is good.

Life is so good sometimes that most people become careless. Has that ever happen to you? It certainly happened to me; that is why I know what Peaks are all about.

Let me explain. Let’s say that your romantic relationship (the one you dreamed about and you were ecstatic when it came into your life) has been really great for quite a while. In fact, it has been so great, that as you settle into your happiness, you become so relaxed that you are starting to take the marvel that it is for granted. You stop doing all the little things that fuel your romance and forget to acknowledge your blessings. You still love what you have, but you spend a lot less effort feeding the beauty of your connection, respecting the space and the desires of your partner.

You see, everything was going so wonderfully right because of the consciousness you put into your relationship, because of your day to day care, respect, compassion, deep listening and honest sharing. So, as your efforts lessen, so is the greatness of the moment. And then things start to bother you and you become upset.

Now, I am not saying that ups and downs do not occur, regardless of what you do. They do occur, but what matters is what you do in every single moment. Your passion, your attention, your compassion and your listening fuel your relationship. As you start doing less, the energy of your connection dissipates.

You experienced a great Peak, but you cherished it less.

Do you see? What you do on your Peak allows it to continue or starts to chip away at its magnificence.

I have been striving to remain present. I do not want to take anything for granted because life is precious and every moment is unique and completely unrepeatable. Every single Peak moment gives me a tremendous gift that I hold close to my heart, because I know how precious it is.

Cherish your Peaks and give even more of yourself, every single day.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 99: River Deep, Mountain High

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Yesterday I watched Celine Dion on YouTube. Her 2012 Las Vegas performance of “River Deep, Mountain High” made me want to go and watch Tina Turner perform the original song with Ike Turner, in 1966. The links here will allow you to watch them too. I think you will enjoy their voices and that you will be inspired by their inner power.

River Deep, Mountain High.

These words and the lives of Celine Dion and Tina Turner speak of the deepest lows and the most incredible highs of the human experience. I am moved by the triumph over adversity and the success they both created in their lives.

As I allowed myself to be transported from deep rivers to high mountains through their extraordinary voices, my mind linked the experience to a book called “Peaks and Valleys” by Spencer Johnson M.D. It is a book that I recommend you read, because it will teach you important things about life, things that were not and are not taught in school. I wish they were and I believe that one day they will.

“The purpose of the Peak is to celebrate life, and the purpose of the Valley is to learn about life.”

I wish that I was taught in grade one that Peaks are the moments when I appreciate what I have and the Valleys are the moments when I long for what I am missing. My life would have been easier and would have had less strife had I known about these peaks and valleys from very early on. But, I am grateful that I know now about them now.

“Peaks and valleys are connected. The errors you make in today’s good times create tomorrow’s bad times. And the wise things you do in today’s bad times create tomorrow’s good times.”

Powerful book. Buy it and read it. Give yourself this gift for Christmas this year.

Love,

Rucsandra