Your fears might feel real to you, but they are not. Your fears do not exist, except in your mind.
“Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.” – Napoleon Hill
A state of mind can be changed. Sometimes it might be easy to do so and sometimes it might requite your time and determination. But you CAN change your state of mind and release the grips of fear.
Years back I came across a few lines in a science fiction book that helped me let go of my fears. I wrote about the “Litany Against Fear” from the novel Dune by Frank Herbert in this blog before.
Here it is:
“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.”
You see, once you are willing to sit down with your fear and allow yourself to feel it fully, once you stop pushing it away and hiding from it, it starts to lose its power over you. As you make the decision to open yourself up to your feelings, your fear will pass through you and over you. And once it’s gone, only you will remain.
Take a look at the list of fears you made two days ago. Choose one fear that you can deal with right now. Sit down with it. Look at it. Feel it. Openly and fully. And feel it pass over you and through you until you become free of it.
In my post yesterday I invited you to put all your fears regarding your health on paper; to bring them to the surface and write them all down.
I know that looking this deeply inside yourself might be a difficult thing for you to do. I understand that there will be resistance to this process and I want to support you and help you with it, because it is important.
Until you become aware of your fears and make the effort to move beyond them, they will continue to chip away at your strength, emotional balance and your innate capacity to heal. Your fears do not allow you to heal and live a joyful life.
So, I will get you started and offer you an idea about what fears might make it to your list, in no specific order:
I am afraid of illness
I am afraid of cancer
I am afraid of germs
I am afraid that my body will not keep up
I am afraid that I cannot heal
I am afraid of physical pain
I am afraid of hospitals
I am afraid I will get sick
I am afraid something is not right with my body
I am afraid I will become bed-ridden
I am afraid that the quality of my life will diminish drastically
I am afraid my spouse will resent my illness
I am afraid I will not be able to do the things I love anymore
I am afraid to ask for help
I am afraid it will only get worse
I am afraid there is no cure for me
I am afraid nothing will work
I am afraid to try a new medication
I am afraid to give up my medication
I am afraid my joints will give out
I am afraid to live in my body
I am afraid to move my body
I am afraid to pay attention to my body
I am afraid to speak my mind
I fear loneliness
I am afraid of life in general
I fear death
I fear the death of my mother, father, spouse
I am afraid I’ll get sick
I fear emotional pain
I fear other people
I am afraid God will punish me
I am afraid to take a chance
Ok, you get the idea. Take from this list what is true for you and keep going. Keep going and do not stop until all your fears, great and small, are written down on paper.
Tomorrow I’ll share with you how I dealt with my list of fears.
Make a list: write down all your fears about your well-being, health and the future.
Don’t shy away from any of them; put them down on paper. Bring them up from deep inside yourself, and allow the sheet of paper to hold them. I will show you what to do next, but first, take the time to do this.
Even if it’s scary, do it. Even if you feel like running away, do it. Even if you feel like you never want to read this blog again, do it. This is just your fears talking, trying to stop you from healing your body.
Become aware of how afraid you really are is the first step in the healing process.
So take some time, allow your fears to surface and then write them down.
Factual fear is based on things that are clearly dangerous, like venturing into a rough part of town alone after dark, like going swimming in a big storm, like driving a car you know is unsafe to drive; is the actual “fight or flight response”. This fear is a powerful mechanism that keeps us safe and out of danger.
Imaginary fear on the other hand, is, as the name clearly states: IMAGINED. There are no absolute facts in it, except the ones fabricated by the mind to justify the fear. Thoughts such as: “What if it does not work?”, “What if I cannot heal?”, “What if this gets worse”, “What if I will be disabled by this (whatever it may be: you low back, a hip degeneration, terrible migraines, pain)”?.
You do not know as a clear fact that you will not get better, that you will not heal.
Why don’t you say instead: “What is this works? What if I can get better? What if I just need to let go of fear and start stating the opposite? What if I can fully heal?”
From now on, choose to shift your mind from your imaginary fears. Be very diligent about it. In order to change a habit of thought you simply repeat the new thought pattern until IT becomes the new habit.
Fear is everywhere. People take their first dose of daily fear with their morning coffee, while watching the news, reading the newspaper or listening to the car radio on their way to work. They start to feel the fists of fear in their guts right after brushing their teeth in the morning.
The truth is that fear sells. It is also true that for every sad and disconcerting thing that we hear about in the news, there is a beautiful, uplifting and empowering thing that is happening somewhere in the world in the exact same time. Unfortunately, that would not sell, so the accent is put on what sells: tragedy, pain, and fear.
A continuous stream of fear-creating news is bombarding us all day long.
Fear helps sell medication, invasive procedures and dangerous treatments.
I took this pick just before the lecture. It was a great night at the Vancouver Pilates Centre: 35 people attended my presentation and some stayed for the demo ELDOA class.
One person came to thank me at the end, saying that finally she understood what fascia is. Another person wanted to tell me that now she knows that she can heal and does not feel desperate for a solution anymore.
Quite a few of the attendees are considering signing up for the ELDOA 1 course in July.
My first official ELDOA lecture was a great success!
“The lifetime prevalence of non-specific (common) low back pain is estimated at 60–70% in industrialized countries.” – “Low Back Pain” by Béatrice Duthey, Ph.D. World Health Organization March 15th, 2013.