365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 48: Beyond Fear Part 15 – Are You Fearless Now?

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I am really grateful for everything I have learned about my own fears and for being able to share it all with you. Thank you for coming with me on this journey to let go of fear and live joyously, freely, fearlessly. It will take you a few weeks to go through your list and let your fears go one by one, but you will get it done and you will feel FREE. The fear series has reached its end. Today is day 15 of the “Beyond Fear” posts and so, I will close with a few powerful quotes:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness,  that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

 

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

 

“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” – Dale Carnegie

 

“To fear is one thing.  To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” – Katherine Paterson

 

“FEAR IS BECOMING RAMPANT on the planet. We can see it every day in the news. Fear is a lack of trust in ourselves, and because of this, we don’t trust Life. We don’t trust that we’re being taken care of on a higher level, so we feel we must control everything from the physical level. Obviously, we’re going to feel fear because we can’t control everything in our lives. Trust is what we learn when we want to overcome our fears. It’s called “taking a leap of faith” and trusting in the Power within that’s connected to Universal Intelligence. Remember, the Power that supplies our breath is the same Power that created the Universe.” – Louise Hay

 Love,

Rucsandra

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 47: Beyond Fear Part 14 – Out-Sitting Your Fears

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I can’t wait to show you how simple it is to dismantle your fears. It is intense, you will feel your fears intensely, but it is not hard and it does not last a long time. What might feel like hours to you is in fact mere minutes.

What I am teaching you today will have powerful effects in all the aspects of your life. You will have the tools to deal with your fears and CHOOSE TO MOVE PAST THEM and into the life YOU DESIRE.

Are you ready to live FEARLESSLY?

Let’s start! Let’s start! Life is meant to be lived with joy, with courage and with passion.

So here is my invitation to you right now. Set some time aside, when you will not be disturbed. Sit in your favorite chair or armchair, get comfortable and close your eyes. Sit quietly and breathe for a few minutes. If you feel fear and apprehension coming up, read the Litany Against Fear as many times as you need until you feel its calming, soothing power.

Or, repeat the Ho’oponopono words over and over until you feel calmer:

I love you

I’m sorry 

Please forgive me

Thank you

If that does not resonate with you, use Louise Hay’s words:

“I am not my fears. It is safe for me to live without guarding and defending myself all the time. When I feel afraid, I open my heart and let the love dissolve the fear.”

You can also search the Internet and find a quote that resonates with you.

Or, better yet: WRITE YOUR OWN LITANY AGAINST FEAR.

Once you have the words that work for you, use them so that you release the fear of facing your fears.

Then bring out the list you created with all the things and situations you are afraid of. Choose one of the fears on your list and sit with it. Feel it fully. Allow it to become as big, as strong, as frightening as it is. Sit there. Feel it. Look at it. Allow it. Feel it FULLY. Do not pull back, do not retreat, just sit and feel it, in its full intensity.

Repeat your litany against fear over and over if you need to, but do not move. DO NOT MOVE. Breathe deeply and sit in that fear. You are strong, calm and NOTHING can make you move.

The calmer you remain, the weaker the grip your fear will have on you. And after a while, it will dissolve. Once the fear is gone, only YOU, capital letters YOU will remain.

It is this simple and YOU DO have the strength to let go of ALL YOUR FEARS.

Go through your entire list of fears. It might take you a few days, or a few weeks, but you will get it done. And once this task is complete, you will experience a sense of calm and strength inside yourself that you never knew resided there.

This is a powerful cleansing process. It will leave you feeling more YOURSELF than ever before.

Isn’t this exhilarating? Isn’t it empowering to know that YOU can achieve all this in a few days or a few weeks?

I am very excited for you because I know how powerful and clear you will feel very, very soon!

And from then on, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says:

“Hit the delete button every time fear appears.”

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 46: Beyond Fear Part 13 – Facing Your Fears

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OK. How many fears have you put on paper so far? How long is your list? It does not matter. What matters is that you are starting to acknowledge that all these fears exist within you. Awareness is the first step and it is the most important one because, unless you understand what you are really dealing with you cannot do anything to free yourself from it.

You were taught to keep your fears hidden, to never speak about them. Sometimes the fears are so deeply buried, that you do not even know that they are there; and that is dangerous, because you suffer without knowing why, you cannot connect with who you truly are, you react rather than act and you can even get sick.

So what do you do now? How DO YOU deal with YOUR FEARS?

Remember the “Litany against Fear” in the novel Dune by Frank Herbert?

“I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.

Only I will remain.”

Isn’t that powerful? There are no corners to cut and there is no running in circles: THE ONLY WAY TO DEAL WITH FEAR IS TO FACE IT DIRECTLY.

How do you feel now that you just read that?

THE ONLY WAY TO DEAL WITH FEAR IS TO FACE IT DIRECTLY.

Are you afraid of how this will feel? We are talking after all about facing your fears and looking them straight in the eye.

If you haven’t done that before, then you might feel scared right now. You are fearing your fears, so to speak.

But it is a lot lighter and easier than you think!

This is GREAT moment. This will change everything!.

Follow me for the next couple of posts and let me show you how to face your fears, one by one.

I am talking about feeling your fear snapping at your heels and instead of running away from it, choosing to turn around and face it straight in the face.

You can do it. I know you can; and I will show you how. Until tomorrow, copy and paste the Litany Against Fear, print it out and read it to yourself over and over and over.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 45: Beyond Fear Part 12 – The List

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After I published my post yesterday, I started thinking that it might be difficult for you to bring out all the fears hidden in your being. Sometimes, we do not want to look at something and we are so determined to ignore it, that it appears it is not even there.

What I want you to know is that until you become aware of your fears and make the effort to move beyond them, they will continue to chip away at your joy, confidence and capacity to connect with others, as well as your ability to take the great opportunities life brings to you. Your fears do not allow you to live fully as yourself.

I know that this might be a difficult thing for you to do. I understand that there will be resistance to this process and I want to support you and help you with it, because it is important. So, I will get you started and offer you an idea about what fears might make it to your list, in no specific order:

  • I am afraid to speak my mind
  • I am afraid to be who I am, so I modify my behavior to please others
  • I fear loneliness
  • I don’t deserve to have money
  • I’m afraid I’ll be alone for the rest of my life
  • I fear death
  • I fear the death of my mother, father, spouse
  • I am afraid I’ll get sick
  • I fear love
  • I am afraid I will be poor all my life
  • I am afraid my children won’t respect me
  • I am afraid my lover will leave me
  • I am afraid people don’t like me
  • I fear other people
  • I fear judgment
  • Who am I to have it all?
  • I fear emotional pain
  • I am afraid my children will not succeed
  • I am afraid my mother/father/spouse/children will not approve
  • I am afraid my art/work/writing is not good enough
  • I don’t deserve to be love
  • I am afraid I will never find someone to love me
  • I am afraid I’ll lose my job/position if I am myself
  • I am afraid I will not manage my money well
  • I am afraid there will be a major cataclysm
  • I am afraid of illness
  • I am afraid of cancer
  • I am afraid of germs
  • I am afraid of the consequences of telling the truth
  • I am afraid to know the truth
  • I am afraid of suffering
  • I am afraid something bad will happen
  • I am afraid God will punish me
  • I am afraid I will get punished for speaking my truth
  • I am afraid to be vulnerable
  • I am afraid to be seen by others as who I am
  • I am afraid I will not raise up to the occasion
  • I am afraid of failure
  • I am afraid of success
  • I am afraid of making a mistake
  • I am afraid of making a decision
  • I am afraid to make money
  • I am afraid to spend money
  • I am afraid to take a chance
  • I am afraid to trust other people
  • I am afraid to take time off
  • I am afraid to ask for what I want
  • I am afraid someone will find the truth about that thing I did 20 years ago
  • I am afraid I won’t measure up
  • I am afraid to try new things
  • I am afraid to get hurt
  • I am afraid my spouse/children will get hurt
  • I am afraid of life in general

Ok, do you get the idea? Take from this list what is true for you and keep going. Keep going and do not stop until all your fears, great and small, are written down on paper.

Tomorrow I’ll share with you how I dealt with my list of fears.

I love you,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 44: Beyond Fear Part 11- Your Fears on Paper

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Hello! Are you ready to be fearless? If you are, then let’s get started. If you are not, then continue reading anyway, because you will get inspired and build the emotional stamina necessary to start contemplating living your life without fear.

I want to share with you what I did many years ago, when I decided to not allow my life to be shaped by fear. One Sunday, when I had the day to myself, I took a few sheets of paper and started listing all the things I was afraid of. The more I wrote, the more fears were there to unearth, so I kept writing. I wrote down small fears and large fears, fears that initially I was afraid to put down on paper because they felt to big for me to even look at them. But in the end I got them all down on paper and I felt a great sense of release. Even though I did not know what to do with what I had just brought to the surface, I felt lighter; a great calmness set over me and I remember the extraordinary restful night that followed.

With all my fears out in the open so to speak, written down on a physical sheet of paper, I allowed myself a few good days to go about my work and my day-to-day life, before starting to face them one by one. I took a few days off from my emotional work to rest and build up the strength to start dismantling my fears.

Today, I am grateful for that whole process. Sometimes it took me a couple of hours to release one fear; other times, it took me days or even weeks to look at my limiting beliefs, to understand where they came from and how they were creating a certain fear. This was not an overnight process, but it transformed me and freed me up. I am sharing all this with you, because I want the same for you. I want you to live with complete trust in life and in yourself.

Make your list, write down all your fears. Don’t shy away from any of them; put them down on paper. Bring them up from deep inside yourself, and allow the sheet of paper to hold them. I will show you what to do next, but first, take the time to do this. Even if it’s scary, do it. Even if you feel like running away, do it. Even if you feel like you never want to read this blog again, do it. This is just your fears talking and trying to stop you from living life fully as YOURSELF.

Wonderful, powerful, magnificent YOU: feel the fear and do it ANYWAY!

Let me know how you’re doing with this task. Write me a comment or send me a message.

I love you,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 43: A Little Break

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I celebrated Thanksgiving today. Officially, Canadian Thanksgiving was last weekend, but I decided years ago to celebrate it a week later so that my friends can come over for brunch, and not have to eat two Thanksgiving meals, one with their families and one at my place.

So today’s post comes after a day of connecting and sharing food with very dear friends. My Thanksgiving brunches start early and end late, and I love the fact that me and my friends have time to talk, connect and share with each other

I am grateful for Thanksgiving and the abundance I experienced today.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 42: Beyond Fear Part 10 – Temporal Fears

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Wow! I’ve been writing about fear for 10 days in a row. You might wonder why do I write about it in such detail. The answer is simple: because I KNOW how it feels to be in the grip of fear, how to fear all the things I have shared with you over the past nine days. As 99.9% of the people on our planet, I have been raised in fear and, lived in fear, felt small, insignificant, unworthy, abandoned; got terrified by watching the news, bought into the fear culture that dominates our society. I want you to understand all this and then let it go, release it and live freely, fully, as yourself, without fear.

The last category is Temporal Fear and as the name suggests it has to do with the time when the fear got embedded in the subconscious mind.

Temporal Fears can be:

  • Past life fears
  • Pre-birth fears
  • Post birth fears

Well, you might roll your eyes right now, depending on your belief with respect to the concept of past lives. I will not go into it today, because in a future post I will share with you the experience I had in the tower of the Sacre Coeur Basilica in Paris, France, which I believe it was a past life insight. Today I want you to contemplate the possibility that such a thing might exist. Maybe it is possible that experiences from a far, far past carry a specific energetic print and are able to manifest in our lives today.

In Part 5 of the “Beyond Fear” series I wrote about the fact that in this life, the first experiences of fear are very powerful because are felt from with our mother’s womb. The fetus feels everything the mother feels, even though it does not have the capacity to categorize, define and analyze. It feels fear and it feels love and the two opposites have very clear responses in the mother’s tissues. Since the fetus is part of the mother’s tissues, it responds to her emotions like the rest of her cells. The fetus feels it all and can arrive into this life already instilled with fear.

The post-birth fears start to shape the new born’s understanding from day one. The slap that is so customary in maternity wards is the new-born’s first encounter with another human being in this world. And that human being causes pain and fear. It is a tremendous shock to come into life, having just left the mother’s womb and be slapped into crying. It is barbaric.

And it is down hill from that moment on. From that moment on, we learn to fear all the things I have been writing about for the last nine days.

So, do you understand now? We live in fear, we are shaped by it, molded by it to the point that we don’t even know how to live without it.

My next posts will teach you how to disintegrate these layers of fear. Get ready! It will be big!

Love,

Rucsandra