DAY 257: When Anger Stops Being Healthy…

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In yesterday’s post I explained that expressing your anger is healthy. There is nothing wrong with getting angry; we all do it and it is a normal occurrence in our human lives.

Acknowledging your feelings and expressing them without feeling guilty about them and without blame is what allows you to move past them.

Bu what happens when you feel that  you cannot let go of your anger?

HOW LONG do you intend to stay angry for?

Remember the 90 Second Rule? That is all the time that your body needs to feel, process and let go of anger. If you are still angry days, weeks, months or even years after the events causing your anger ended, you are doing so by choice.

Yes, you read it right: by choice. You are choosing to remain angry. Read about the 90 Second Rule again.

Anger stays alive when it is linked to blame. You are angry because you are blaming someone for your pain. You are caught in a vicious cycle and there are two options: you are angry with somebody else OR you are angry with yourself.

So which one is it? Somebody else or yourself?

Tune in, feel your anger and determine who are you really angry with.

Then come back tomorrow and let’s explore your findings.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 120: Your Energetic Body

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Your body emits an electromagnetic field. This is not news anymore. Measurable and distinct, this electromagnetic field has different readings when your body experiences disease, injuries or illness.

This is an excerpt from www.pemfglobal.com.

“An electromagnetic field is a physical field produced by electrically charged objects. Many things including the earth, our bodies and electronics emit these fields. Their interaction is called electromagnetism.

Like our planet, all natural things emit electromagnetic fields. When the fields produced by our bodies interact with the earth’s field we have more vitality or find that our pains no longer ail us. 

Man-made electromagnetic fields from cellphone towers, wi-fi and other electronic devices operate at higher levels and can make us feel lethargic or worse, develop chronic health issues.

PEMF therapy balances your electromagnetic field by transmitting pulsed electromagnetic frequencies tuned to the earth that counteract the negative fields caused by our environment, leaving you feeling alive and well.”

PEMF Therapy is a powerful and extremely effective method that will aid your healing efforts. There are many testimonials on www.pemfglobal.com, so if you are researching ways to heal your body, take the time to read some of them. Recently, Health Canada certified this PEMF device as a medical device.

I have been using this amazing technology for myself and with my clients for six years, with great results. I am thrilled to be part of a remarkable company (Swissbionic Solutions) whose goal is to change the world of healthcare.

If you want to know how this technology can help you, contact me. If you have questions and would like more information about PEMF devices, send me an email info@mitreawellness.com.

Love,

Rucsandra,

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 119: Your Emotional Body

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Think of your emotional body as an aspect or a level of who you are. Your capacity to have an extraordinary array of feelings is deeply embedded in who you are as a human being. We all have this capacity, whether we acknowledging its existence and power or not. We are equipped to feel the most subtle variations of joy and anger, pain and love, hope and despair. It is part of who we are. Also part of our makeup is the capacity to process our feelings, to allow them to run their course and to release them. I wrote about Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s 90 Second Rule in my post on Day 9. She determined that it takes only 90 seconds to have an emotional circuit triggered, ignite the physiological response through the body and then flush it completely out of the system. The emotional body is intelligent and efficient.

The most remarkable link between your physical body and your emotional body lies in this very capacity to process at the physical level every single feeling that you have and to fully release it. This is also the greatest weakness, because if you continue to hold on to past feelings of anger, shame, pain, guilt or any other diminishing feelings, your physical body will eventually be put as risk. The physical body cannot become the long-term container for such feelings because it is not equipped for it.

Are there any feelings that diminish your vitality and your life force? Are you holding on to anger, shame, blame, feeling like a victim, hate, guilt or any other feeling as such?

Are you ready to move on and create a healthy, vibrant, joyous life for yourself? Write down the past hurts and unresolved pains, let them pour out of your system and onto the paper. That is the first, most powerful step that you can take: bringing these feelings out in the open. You can only clear and release feelings that you  you are willing to admit you have.

Write them down and the paper will take away some of the heaviness that you feel.

Put this list together with the list you created yesterday.

Breathe.

These are your first few steps to change your body and your life.

Love,

Rucsandra,

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 49: Letting Go Of Anger

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Here’s another big thing that  I am very grateful for: I have learned that anger only hurts me. My being angry does not solve anything, but it can definitely poison my days and my nights. So I made a decision a long time ago to not spend any time on being angry; that is to not spend anymore time than the 90 seconds required for the anger to flush through my system. I wrote about the 90 second rule in my post on Day 9 .

I often talk to my clients about the healing power of letting go of anger. In one of my programs about emotional cleansing, I was asked the following question:

“Other people have really hurt me, how do I release this anger? How do I let it go? I am angry and I am hurting.”

Do you feel like this too? Are you angry because of something that someone else did? Ok, let’s talk about this. And when I am done answering this question, I will share with you one of the most powerful moments of my life. I will share with you the gift of my sister’s death.

Anger is what is left behind after circumstances, events and encounters that have not been easy for you and during which you felt that you were being hurt.

I want to tell you that there is nothing wrong with feeling anger. Since we are emotionally equipped for feeling it, it is meant to be part of our human existence. Anger puts us into motion, forces us to find answers and makes us take action. It is healthy to allow yourself to feel anger fully.

The important point is: HOW LONG are you going to stay angry for?

Remember the 90 Second Rule? That is all the time that your body needs to feel, process and let go of anger. If you are still angry days, weeks, months or even years after it all ended, you are doing so by choice.

Now, I need to stop here for a second, so that you can read the last sentence again.

Even though you might be feeling your anger rising right now at the very concept of your choosing your anger, think about it this way: anger is linked to blame. You are angry because you are blaming someone for your pain. You are caught in a vicious cycle of blame, in a burning ring of anger.

There are two options:

1. You are angry with SOMEBODY ELSE for something they did or did not do
2. You are angry with YOURSELF for something you did or did not do

I will explain these two options in my next post, so stay with me. This is important.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 9: The 90-Second Rule

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I am very grateful for having found out, a few years back about the 90-Second Rule in Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor‘s book “My Stroke of Insight”. I talked about this book before, in my post about my sister Ioana. Today I want to share with you the 90-Second Rule, because it changed how I deal with my emotions and maybe it will help you too.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained brain scientist, suffered a stroke at the age of 37. She had the rare opportunity as a scientist to study the working of her own brain at first-hand from the inside out. In her recovery process, she witnessed her emotional responses to different stimuli and she determined that it only took 90 seconds to have an emotional circuit triggered, flush a physiological response through the body and then flush it completely out of the system.

She calls it THE 90-SECOND RULE. She says: “We can all learn that we can take full responsibility for what thoughts we are thinking and what emotional circuitry we are feeling. Knowing this and acting on this can lead us into feeling a wonderful sense of well-being and peacefulness.”

Dr. Taylor goes on saying that it does not matter if it is the fear circuitry or the anger circuitry or even the joy circuitry: “…it is really hard to hold a good belly laugh for more than 90 seconds naturally. The 90-second rule is totally empowering. That means for 90 seconds, I can watch this happen, I can feel this happen and I can watch it go away. After that, if I continue to feel that fear or feel that anger, I need to look at the thoughts I am thinking that are re-stimulating that circuitry that is resulting in me having this physiology over and over again.”

Isn’t that something that you are glad to have found out? I know that for me it was like a lightning bolt struck my awareness and shifted my perception about emotional processes and releasing mechanisms.

In 90 seconds, the brain and the entire physiology are DONE with the emotional response to fear, joy, despair, happiness, anger and so on. It is what WE CHOOSE TO THINK AFTER THAT 90 SECOND PERIOD that determines our emotional cleanliness or the ever growing piles of emotional debris.

It takes less than two minutes to let go. Isn’t this remarkable? Isn’t this powerful and empowering? Try it. I have and it changed my awareness.

I will leave you today with a a quote from one of the first tenured women at the Harvard Business School, Shoshana Zuboff who earned her Ph.D. in social psychology from Harvard University and her B.A. in philosophy from the University of Chicago:

“Awareness requires a rupture with the world we take for granted; then old categories of experience are called into question and revised.”