365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 42: Beyond Fear Part 10 – Temporal Fears


Wow! I’ve been writing about fear for 10 days in a row. You might wonder why do I write about it in such detail. The answer is simple: because I KNOW how it feels to be in the grip of fear, how to fear all the things I have shared with you over the past nine days. As 99.9% of the people on our planet, I have been raised in fear and, lived in fear, felt small, insignificant, unworthy, abandoned; got terrified by watching the news, bought into the fear culture that dominates our society. I want you to understand all this and then let it go, release it and live freely, fully, as yourself, without fear.

The last category is Temporal Fear and as the name suggests it has to do with the time when the fear got embedded in the subconscious mind.

Temporal Fears can be:

  • Past life fears
  • Pre-birth fears
  • Post birth fears

Well, you might roll your eyes right now, depending on your belief with respect to the concept of past lives. I will not go into it today, because in a future post I will share with you the experience I had in the tower of the Sacre Coeur Basilica in Paris, France, which I believe it was a past life insight. Today I want you to contemplate the possibility that such a thing might exist. Maybe it is possible that experiences from a far, far past carry a specific energetic print and are able to manifest in our lives today.

In Part 5 of the “Beyond Fear” series I wrote about the fact that in this life, the first experiences of fear are very powerful because are felt from with our mother’s womb. The fetus feels everything the mother feels, even though it does not have the capacity to categorize, define and analyze. It feels fear and it feels love and the two opposites have very clear responses in the mother’s tissues. Since the fetus is part of the mother’s tissues, it responds to her emotions like the rest of her cells. The fetus feels it all and can arrive into this life already instilled with fear.

The post-birth fears start to shape the new born’s understanding from day one. The slap that is so customary in maternity wards is the new-born’s first encounter with another human being in this world. And that human being causes pain and fear. It is a tremendous shock to come into life, having just left the mother’s womb and be slapped into crying. It is barbaric.

And it is down hill from that moment on. From that moment on, we learn to fear all the things I have been writing about for the last nine days.

So, do you understand now? We live in fear, we are shaped by it, molded by it to the point that we don’t even know how to live without it.

My next posts will teach you how to disintegrate these layers of fear. Get ready! It will be big!



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 41: Beyond Fear Part 9 – Lack of Trust in Life


The third universal fear that Gregg Braden talks about is the lack of trust in life. Most people believe that this world is not safe and that the processes of life are unsafe, scary and threatening.

This fear is expressed as the inability to surrender to our experiences and/or relationships. These relationships mirror our expectations of the world being unsafe and unworthy of our trust. We were taught to not trust ourselves, other people, other countries. As a result we lack trust in our own abilities, talents, knowledge and intuition; we lack trust in other people’s kindness, good intentions and gifts. We lack trust in life in general, in the day to day miracles of life.

Lack of trust and the fear stemming from it have such a strong grip on most people, that feeling happy or being successful become signs that something bad will happen. Have you ever heard someone say: “This is going too well now; I am sure it is doomed to fail”? Or have you tried to share a cherished dream with a friend only to hear all the reasons why it could not happen?

Or how about the saying: “Better safe than sorry”? Better stay in a secure job that you hate, in a relationship that is not what you desire, in a state of fear and low self-esteem rather than aspiring for more and living fully. Better stay where you are than risking getting hurt, or not succeeding.

The universal fears are very well embedded in our collective and individual consciousness. It is easy to overlook or rationalize them as something else, yet they are at the core of our fear based life. As you can see, it is no mystery now why we are afraid, why we live in fear, why it is such an accepted state in our society, in our families, among our friends and inside ourselves.

“You’re one with all of Life. The more you love yourself and trust Life, the more that Life will love you, support you, and guide you. You can trust in that which is invisible, instead of trusting only in the physical, material world. I’m not saying that we do nothing, yet if we have trust, we can go through life much easier. We need to trust that we’re being taken care of, even though we’re not physically in control of everything that’s happening around us.”

Louise Hay, “Let Go of Your Fears

Isn’t it LIBERATING to start understanding these fears and to have the knowledge that you can let go of all of them, simply because they hold no value? These fears are learned and practiced year after year after year and because of that we are more familiar with being afraid than with feeling free, fearless and trusting.





365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 40: Beyond Fear Part 8 – Fear of Not Being Worthy


In his book “The Divine Matrix”, Gregg Braden wrote:

The root of our ‘negative’ experiences may be reduced to one of three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-worth, or lack of trust.”

The second universal fear is the fear that we are not “good enough”.  Almost every person in our world has experienced low self-esteem at one point or another. Some people live their entire lives feeling unworthy of love, of a good career, of abundance, of respect, of friendship, of vibrant health or happiness. Our professional, friendship or romantic relationships will match our expectations of not being good enough. Worthlessness is a desperate feeling and it brings about the belief that we have nothing to offer to the world, that we are insignificant.

Several religions have taught us that we are imperfect, lesser beings who cannot begin to compare to the armies of saints and angels who are closer to God.

As a result, we express our beliefs through our expectations of our achievements, how much joy we allow ourselves, and the success of our relationships. Our fear of not being valuable enough to have love, acceptance, health, and longevity promises that every one of our relationships will reflect the fear of low worth. And it happens in ways that we would never expect in a million years.
“For example, how many times have you settled for relationships that aren’t what you really want but rationalize them by saying things such as: “This is good enough for now” or “This is a stepping-stone to something better”? Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’d love to share my life with a loving, compassionate, nurturing, and caring partner, but …” or “This isn’t the job where I can really express my gifts and talents, but …” followed by all the reasons why your greatest dreams can’t be realized in this moment?
“If these or similar scenarios have played out in your life, there’s a good chance that they are the skillfully created masks that you use to question your worth. Through your personal and business relationships, you remind yourself of your core beliefs about yourself, beliefs that ask for a greater healing.”

pages 156 – 158, The Divine Matrix, Gregg Braden

This is profound, don’t you think? How much of this do you recognize in yourself?

Thank you for following me on this journey of discovering the hidden roots of fear. We have a couple more categories to go through and then I will teach you what to do when you feel afraid. So, hang on for a couple more posts.





365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 39: Beyond Fear Part 7 – Fear of Abandonment


This next category of fears has been identified by the great visionary Gregg Braden. He says that these three Universal fears are at the base of all the fears and behaviors that are present within ourselves and others.

Universal fears:

  • Abandonment and Separation
  • Low Self-Worth
  • Lack of Trust

These three basic underlying fears are the roots of the sociological and perceptual fears. With few exceptions, our experiences of pain, suffering, illness, disease, and emotional trauma have their roots in these core universal fears.

In his book “The Divine Matrix”, Gregg Braden wrote:

The root of our ‘negative’ experiences may be reduced to one of three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-worth, or lack of trust.”

Let’s look at the fear of abandonment and separation first.

The fear of abandonment and separation stems from the ancient fear that we were abandoned by our creator without explanation or reason. Religions across the globe increase this feeling of separation, of abandonment as well as the belief that we need to repent and change if we are to be forgiven and loved by the creator again. Because of this long history of being left to fend for ourselves, while God/Creator judges from above, we feel alone in the world, in the Universe. We feel without support, without real caring and understanding; we are terrified.

This fear is expressed in our lives when we are devastated when our relationships fail, always being the one who gets “left” in the relationship, and/or being the first to leave a good relationship so that we are not hurt. The truth is that relationships do not fail; they CANNOT fail. They are taking their course as energy streams between people, they are the creations of people’s beliefs, fears and expectations.

If we fear abandonment we become clingy and needy or we go the other way and reject any meaningful connection with another.

What I want to tell you is that if you pay close attention to how you feel, you will know when the fear of abandonment is surfacing. Take a good look at the main relationships in your life: what do you feel? How do you perceive them? Do you allow others to be who they are or do you feel the need to know their every move and every thought? Do you wait for them to fulfill your needs? Are you afraid to open up and be who you are with your lover/partner?

What if you stopped being afraid of true sharing with another person? What if you stopped being afraid that you will be left by someone?

This is intense, I know. But by looking at all this aspects of how you engage others and life in general, by understanding where your choices come from and then make better choices for yourself, you will release fear and become free.

Until tomorrow, just sit with these thoughts, examine your closest relationships and see if you fear abandonment and separation.

Many hugs,



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 38: Beyond Fear Part 6 – Perceptual Fear


Hello! How are you doing so far with this concept of fear, broken into smaller pieces and explained from a different angle? Isn’t it true, that as you keep reading, you are starting to have a completely different understanding with respect to what fear really is? Do you feel like a curtain is lifting and you are able to see beyond it? Good, there’s more to come. By the time you and I are done with this series about fear, you will know what to do and how to free yourself from under all these layers and layers of fear.

Now you know what sociological fears are and how they affect you from different perspectives: collective, familial and individual.

The second category of fears is:

Perceptual fears, which in turn can be:

  • Factual fears
  • Imaginary fears

They are perceptual because they have to do with your perception versus real danger . Some dangers are real, but most of the things you are afraid of are not.

Dr. Janeen Detrick, talks about: IMAGINARY FEAR VERSUS FACT FEAR. She says that fact fear is based on things that are clearly dangerous, like venturing into a rough part of town alone after dark, like going swimming in a big storm, like driving a car you know is unsafe to drive. She says that fact fear is the actual “fight or flight response”. This fear is a powerful mechanism that keeps us safe and out of danger. So this IS a good fear.

Imaginary fear on the other hand, is, as the name clearly states: IMAGINED. There are no facts in it, except the ones fabricated by the mind to justify the fear. Thoughts such as: “What if it does not work?”, “What if I cannot do it?”, “What if they don’t like it?”, “What if I don’t find a life partner?”

You see what I mean? There is no reality behind imaginary fears. “What if I won’t find a job?”. You do not know as a clear fact that you will not find a job or a partner or a new house, do you?


Let’s say you are preparing a report to present in front of your peers, clients or board of directors and you start feeling afraid: “What if they don’t like it? What if it’s not good enough?“.

When these thoughts come to mind just say the exact opposite to yourself: “What if they like it? That would be great. What if they say that it is the best thing they were presented with on this topic?”.

All these so-called fears are very easy to dismantle and release fully. It takes practice, but it is easy to do. These thought patterns exist ONLY because you have been repeating this way of thinking for many years. But they are only thoughts and you can change your thoughts.

The important thing I want to tell you is that from now on, you can shift your mind from this kind of thoughts, from your imaginary fears. In fact, you must be very diligent about it. In order to change a habit of thought you simply repeat the new thought pattern until IT becomes the new habit.

Ok, come back tomorrow.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 37: Beyond Fear Part 5 – Individual Fear


So far I explained the collective and the familial fears, which are based on the interaction with society at large and with your own family. INDIVIDUAL FEARS are based on your own past experiences.

At some point in your life you took a chance and did something you were dreaming of (like opening a new business, falling in love or going on a trip) but it did not turn quite the way you expected, caused you suffering so now you are afraid to do it again.

You decided for example that because you fell in love once, opened up your heart but ended up being rejected and hurt, you would never fall in love again. So now you are afraid to connect with a potential lover. Or, you went for your dream to start a business, did everything you could to make it happen, but it did not take of the ground, you ended up losing money, so now you are playing it safe by not following your heart. You are afraid to live as yourself because something you once tried did not succeed.

These are individual fears. The first layers are embedded in your cells even before you were born. Your emotional lens was pre-conditioned by your mother’s own fears. Now, here is where we go DEEPER and here is where I need you to stay very open: when you were formed as a new life potential in your mother’s womb, your continuously growing number of cells were nestled at the core of your mother’s body, surrounded by HER CELLS. Your cells were PART OF HER BODY. Do you get this? This is BIG. This is POWERFUL. What it means is that your cells were already responding to emotions, to feelings of joy or despair, to fear or love.

YOUR CELLS were FEELING everything that your mother’s cells felt.

Ok, take a breath now and let that sink in. Since your cells were her cells until you were born, your cells responded to and felt everything that she was feeling. If you were exposed to feelings of love, compassion, understanding and passion for life then that is what went into the preparation of your own life. If, on the other hand, you were exposed – in utero – to deeply seated fears, pain, anger and despair, you took it all in and were born already afraid. I know, this is a lot to handle maybe, but please, do accept this as a possibility.

Do you now understand how from a sociological point of view, we are slathered in fear? We are first soaked in family fear; then societal fears weight-load our steps and fog our minds. And then, on top of that, our personally created individual fears stop us from living.

No wonder our world is the way it is now. Do you see how we come to think that there are so many real reasons for us to be afraid? And do you also see that these reasons are not real? That fears are not truly real? They are fabricated, knitted, colored, inflated, expanded, manufactured, embellished soap bubbles? They stem from lack of trust in ourselves, as Louise Hay says:

“Fear is a lack of trust in ourselves, and because of this, we don’t trust Life. We don’t trust that we’re being taken care of on a higher level, so we feel we must control everything from the physical level. Obviously, we’re going to feel fear because we can’t control everything in our lives.”

Tomorrow we’ll delve into another category of fears: the Perceptual Fears.