365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 210: Ask For Help If You Need It!


It is spring and time for warmer weather (not that it feels like that today in Toronto, as it is snowing lightly) and fresh new beginnings.

Is there anything you would like to attempt, start or stop? It can be anything: spend time in nature more regularly, eat healthier, change your career, start that project you’ve been dreaming about, read that book, make new friends or heal your body.

This is the best time to choose to do something that you have been thinking about and make it happen.

And do ask for help if you don’t know how to go about it. Do not try to reinvent the wheel.

Asking for support, for expert advice or for connection with your friends is the healthy thing to do and allows you to move with ease in the direction you desire.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 146: The Truth About Helping People


I’ve been working in the fitness/health/well-being industry for 25 years. Throughout this time I taught many clients that there is always an answer to any physical problem they might have. There is always a solution and there is always someone who can help them. If that person is not me, then I refer my clients to other health practitioners, trainers and coaches.

I truly believe that there is always a solution.

But here’s something of value that I learned many years ago: you can only be of assistance to people who meet you half way. You can only help people who are willing to put in the time and work to help themselves.

I read this on Facebook a few days ago:

“Unfortunately, you can’t help people who won’t participate in their own rescue.”

It is absolutely true.

Is there anyone in your life who you have been trying to help? Someone you care about, who is struggling and for whom you are ready to put in your time, your money, your knowledge and experience to help them?

Ask yourself this first: are they willing to help themselves? Because if they are not, your help will fall flat on its face and you will become very frustrated.

Until they are ready to change and involve themselves in their own rescue, there is nothing you can do, except lead by example. When they are ready, they might ask for your help. Then you can truly help them, but not before. So, let them be. Live your own life in authentic ways and be mindful of investing your efforts in someone else’s life.

By doing so, you honor yourself and you also honor them and where they are at in the present moment.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 143: You Need Support!


So you are ready to take the steps that will create the life you desire. You now know what direction you want to go into and you have an initial plan ready to be followed (read my yesterday’s blog about making a plan).

Many people fail to reach their desired destination and live their dream, because they lose focus and concentration along the way and then lose faith. This happens often and it is a normal occurrence when one decides to reach for a great goal.

If you ever feel like giving up, just know that it happens to everybody. I certainly felt like that many times, but did not give up because I had the support I needed to be able to continue on my journey, even when I felt weaker.

Do you have the support you need in order to make the changes you want to make?

Asking for help does not mean that you are weak, but rather that you are determined to achieve what you want and if somebody can help you with staying on your path, then you will get their help. Getting the support you need will keep you going when you feel like stopping and will give you strength.

You are not meant to live in a vacuum and reinvent the wheel. Make use of the wisdom and knowledge gathered by others who went through the same process before you.

What kind of support do you think you need in order to achieve your goals? What area do you feel you need help with?

Define what you need and then ask for it.

If you need a mentor or a coach, start looking for one. If you need a good talk with a supportive friend, make the call and schedule to see them.

You need support.

We all do.