365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 42: Beyond Fear Part 10 – Temporal Fears

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Wow! I’ve been writing about fear for 10 days in a row. You might wonder why do I write about it in such detail. The answer is simple: because I KNOW how it feels to be in the grip of fear, how to fear all the things I have shared with you over the past nine days. As 99.9% of the people on our planet, I have been raised in fear and, lived in fear, felt small, insignificant, unworthy, abandoned; got terrified by watching the news, bought into the fear culture that dominates our society. I want you to understand all this and then let it go, release it and live freely, fully, as yourself, without fear.

The last category is Temporal Fear and as the name suggests it has to do with the time when the fear got embedded in the subconscious mind.

Temporal Fears can be:

  • Past life fears
  • Pre-birth fears
  • Post birth fears

Well, you might roll your eyes right now, depending on your belief with respect to the concept of past lives. I will not go into it today, because in a future post I will share with you the experience I had in the tower of the Sacre Coeur Basilica in Paris, France, which I believe it was a past life insight. Today I want you to contemplate the possibility that such a thing might exist. Maybe it is possible that experiences from a far, far past carry a specific energetic print and are able to manifest in our lives today.

In Part 5 of the “Beyond Fear” series I wrote about the fact that in this life, the first experiences of fear are very powerful because are felt from with our mother’s womb. The fetus feels everything the mother feels, even though it does not have the capacity to categorize, define and analyze. It feels fear and it feels love and the two opposites have very clear responses in the mother’s tissues. Since the fetus is part of the mother’s tissues, it responds to her emotions like the rest of her cells. The fetus feels it all and can arrive into this life already instilled with fear.

The post-birth fears start to shape the new born’s understanding from day one. The slap that is so customary in maternity wards is the new-born’s first encounter with another human being in this world. And that human being causes pain and fear. It is a tremendous shock to come into life, having just left the mother’s womb and be slapped into crying. It is barbaric.

And it is down hill from that moment on. From that moment on, we learn to fear all the things I have been writing about for the last nine days.

So, do you understand now? We live in fear, we are shaped by it, molded by it to the point that we don’t even know how to live without it.

My next posts will teach you how to disintegrate these layers of fear. Get ready! It will be big!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 41: Beyond Fear Part 9 – Lack of Trust in Life

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The third universal fear that Gregg Braden talks about is the lack of trust in life. Most people believe that this world is not safe and that the processes of life are unsafe, scary and threatening.

This fear is expressed as the inability to surrender to our experiences and/or relationships. These relationships mirror our expectations of the world being unsafe and unworthy of our trust. We were taught to not trust ourselves, other people, other countries. As a result we lack trust in our own abilities, talents, knowledge and intuition; we lack trust in other people’s kindness, good intentions and gifts. We lack trust in life in general, in the day to day miracles of life.

Lack of trust and the fear stemming from it have such a strong grip on most people, that feeling happy or being successful become signs that something bad will happen. Have you ever heard someone say: “This is going too well now; I am sure it is doomed to fail”? Or have you tried to share a cherished dream with a friend only to hear all the reasons why it could not happen?

Or how about the saying: “Better safe than sorry”? Better stay in a secure job that you hate, in a relationship that is not what you desire, in a state of fear and low self-esteem rather than aspiring for more and living fully. Better stay where you are than risking getting hurt, or not succeeding.

The universal fears are very well embedded in our collective and individual consciousness. It is easy to overlook or rationalize them as something else, yet they are at the core of our fear based life. As you can see, it is no mystery now why we are afraid, why we live in fear, why it is such an accepted state in our society, in our families, among our friends and inside ourselves.

“You’re one with all of Life. The more you love yourself and trust Life, the more that Life will love you, support you, and guide you. You can trust in that which is invisible, instead of trusting only in the physical, material world. I’m not saying that we do nothing, yet if we have trust, we can go through life much easier. We need to trust that we’re being taken care of, even though we’re not physically in control of everything that’s happening around us.”

Louise Hay, “Let Go of Your Fears

Isn’t it LIBERATING to start understanding these fears and to have the knowledge that you can let go of all of them, simply because they hold no value? These fears are learned and practiced year after year after year and because of that we are more familiar with being afraid than with feeling free, fearless and trusting.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 40: Beyond Fear Part 8 – Fear of Not Being Worthy

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In his book “The Divine Matrix”, Gregg Braden wrote:

The root of our ‘negative’ experiences may be reduced to one of three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-worth, or lack of trust.”

The second universal fear is the fear that we are not “good enough”.  Almost every person in our world has experienced low self-esteem at one point or another. Some people live their entire lives feeling unworthy of love, of a good career, of abundance, of respect, of friendship, of vibrant health or happiness. Our professional, friendship or romantic relationships will match our expectations of not being good enough. Worthlessness is a desperate feeling and it brings about the belief that we have nothing to offer to the world, that we are insignificant.

Several religions have taught us that we are imperfect, lesser beings who cannot begin to compare to the armies of saints and angels who are closer to God.

As a result, we express our beliefs through our expectations of our achievements, how much joy we allow ourselves, and the success of our relationships. Our fear of not being valuable enough to have love, acceptance, health, and longevity promises that every one of our relationships will reflect the fear of low worth. And it happens in ways that we would never expect in a million years.
“For example, how many times have you settled for relationships that aren’t what you really want but rationalize them by saying things such as: “This is good enough for now” or “This is a stepping-stone to something better”? Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’d love to share my life with a loving, compassionate, nurturing, and caring partner, but …” or “This isn’t the job where I can really express my gifts and talents, but …” followed by all the reasons why your greatest dreams can’t be realized in this moment?
“If these or similar scenarios have played out in your life, there’s a good chance that they are the skillfully created masks that you use to question your worth. Through your personal and business relationships, you remind yourself of your core beliefs about yourself, beliefs that ask for a greater healing.”

pages 156 – 158, The Divine Matrix, Gregg Braden

This is profound, don’t you think? How much of this do you recognize in yourself?

Thank you for following me on this journey of discovering the hidden roots of fear. We have a couple more categories to go through and then I will teach you what to do when you feel afraid. So, hang on for a couple more posts.

Love,

Rucsandra