365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 140: Stop Believing Your Limiting Beliefs

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I am following up on my post entitled What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?Yesterday I wrote about unresolved emotional issues. Today I want to talk to you about limiting beliefs, such as “I am powerless”, “I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, ” I am helpless”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.

Tony Robbins explains:

“What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means. The challenge is that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences.”

Your positive beliefs help you create what you desire. Your limiting, negative beliefs block the way to the life you want to create for yourself. If you want to achieve your goals and reach your dreams, you must break free from your limiting beliefs.

So, as Tony Robbins says, start to question your beliefs:

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing your old, dis-empowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.”

Do you know what your limiting beliefs are? Can you pinpoint them?

Examine your life, determine what is not working according to your liking and you’ve found the areas where you are led by limiting beliefs.

If you can’t figure it out by yourself, ask for help. Work with a personal coach. Find a mentor. But do what you need to do in order to free yourself up from what is holding you back.

Love,

Rucsandra

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 139: Unresolved Emotional Issues? Here’s What You Do.

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First of all, how do you know you have unresolved emotional issues?

Let me ask you these questions first:

  • Are you angry with yourself, your mother or father, your teachers, your siblings or children, your spouse or ex-spouse?
  • Do you feel like a victim?
  • Are you unable to have a conversation with someone without having to prove yourself?
  • DO you feel shame for something you did?
  • Do you feel you’re not good enough?
  • Are you jealous of other people’s success?
  • Do you feel undeserving?
  • Are you jealous of your partner/lover/friend/spouse?
  • Do you get angry without any apparent reason?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you do have unresolved emotional issues. They prevent you from living your life the way you want it. They create stress and misery. Eventually, if uncleared, they will affect your health.

So what can you do?

Go to the list above and start writing down all the things, events and circumstances you feel that you have unresolved emotional ties to.

This is exactly what I did about 8 years ago: I took a full day of silence, I stayed home and kept writing everything I remembered. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, until I felt that there was nothing more to add to the list.

I then took two differently colored markers, one for big issues and one for small issues, and marked down my list. And then, I started to work through them.

Some days I could only deal with a small thing, and that’s what I did. If I had to tell someone that I was sorry for something I did, I called them or wrote them a note. If I had to tell someone how their actions made me feel hurt or angry, I connected with them and voiced my feelings. If I realized that I could let go of things right then and there, without further action, then I let them go.

And every once in a while, I chose to deal with a bigger issue on my list. If I needed the help and support of a good friend, I asked them to assist me. I also worked with teachers and mentors who helped me make sense of what I was feeling and showed me how to clear my unresolved emotions.

Bottom line is this: I did not stop until I worked through all the things on my list. Some were easy, some required strength and determination on my part, but I DID NOT STOP.

With every single thing crossed off my list, I felt stronger, clearer, more joyful.

I felt proud of myself. My life began to change and reflect my clearer emotional state.

I am now inviting you to take the same steps. You will never look back.

Ask for help when you need it and keep going.

I am holding a strong vision for you: I see you emotionally cleansed and FREE.

And I KNOW you can do it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 138: Clear The Path And Change Your Life

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In yesterday’s post I wrote about things that stand between where you are now and where you desire to be. These things prevent you from creating the life you want. Here’s the little list again. You can add to it or subtract from it, as you please.

  • Unresolved emotional issues
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Physical clutter in your living and working space
  • Lack of clarity and goals
  • Lack of support
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success

I want you think about these things on the list as clutter. Pure clutter. Some emotional, some physical, some mental… but clutter non the less.

What do you think? How does it feel to view them as pure and plain clutter?

It diminishes their power, doesn’t it? It releases your apprehension, don’t you think?

What do you do with clutter?

You clear it!

It might take a few days, a few weeks, a few months or maybe a few years, depending on where you are starting.

But I want you to know that with every little piece cleared and out of the way, your life will change. A small change tomorrow, another one in a few days, a great breakthrough in  a few weeks. The sum of all these changes will increase its power day by day and the momentum will increase many fold.

You will start to notice your life flowing with more ease, you will feel less pressure and less stress, you will feel lighter and happier.

In a few months your life will be so different, that you will want to de-clutter even more.

Start now. Chose one little thing and clear it, let go of it or change your mind about it.

Don’t delay.

Your life is waiting!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 43: A Little Break

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I celebrated Thanksgiving today. Officially, Canadian Thanksgiving was last weekend, but I decided years ago to celebrate it a week later so that my friends can come over for brunch, and not have to eat two Thanksgiving meals, one with their families and one at my place.

So today’s post comes after a day of connecting and sharing food with very dear friends. My Thanksgiving brunches start early and end late, and I love the fact that me and my friends have time to talk, connect and share with each other

I am grateful for Thanksgiving and the abundance I experienced today.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 42: Beyond Fear Part 10 – Temporal Fears

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Wow! I’ve been writing about fear for 10 days in a row. You might wonder why do I write about it in such detail. The answer is simple: because I KNOW how it feels to be in the grip of fear, how to fear all the things I have shared with you over the past nine days. As 99.9% of the people on our planet, I have been raised in fear and, lived in fear, felt small, insignificant, unworthy, abandoned; got terrified by watching the news, bought into the fear culture that dominates our society. I want you to understand all this and then let it go, release it and live freely, fully, as yourself, without fear.

The last category is Temporal Fear and as the name suggests it has to do with the time when the fear got embedded in the subconscious mind.

Temporal Fears can be:

  • Past life fears
  • Pre-birth fears
  • Post birth fears

Well, you might roll your eyes right now, depending on your belief with respect to the concept of past lives. I will not go into it today, because in a future post I will share with you the experience I had in the tower of the Sacre Coeur Basilica in Paris, France, which I believe it was a past life insight. Today I want you to contemplate the possibility that such a thing might exist. Maybe it is possible that experiences from a far, far past carry a specific energetic print and are able to manifest in our lives today.

In Part 5 of the “Beyond Fear” series I wrote about the fact that in this life, the first experiences of fear are very powerful because are felt from with our mother’s womb. The fetus feels everything the mother feels, even though it does not have the capacity to categorize, define and analyze. It feels fear and it feels love and the two opposites have very clear responses in the mother’s tissues. Since the fetus is part of the mother’s tissues, it responds to her emotions like the rest of her cells. The fetus feels it all and can arrive into this life already instilled with fear.

The post-birth fears start to shape the new born’s understanding from day one. The slap that is so customary in maternity wards is the new-born’s first encounter with another human being in this world. And that human being causes pain and fear. It is a tremendous shock to come into life, having just left the mother’s womb and be slapped into crying. It is barbaric.

And it is down hill from that moment on. From that moment on, we learn to fear all the things I have been writing about for the last nine days.

So, do you understand now? We live in fear, we are shaped by it, molded by it to the point that we don’t even know how to live without it.

My next posts will teach you how to disintegrate these layers of fear. Get ready! It will be big!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 41: Beyond Fear Part 9 – Lack of Trust in Life

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The third universal fear that Gregg Braden talks about is the lack of trust in life. Most people believe that this world is not safe and that the processes of life are unsafe, scary and threatening.

This fear is expressed as the inability to surrender to our experiences and/or relationships. These relationships mirror our expectations of the world being unsafe and unworthy of our trust. We were taught to not trust ourselves, other people, other countries. As a result we lack trust in our own abilities, talents, knowledge and intuition; we lack trust in other people’s kindness, good intentions and gifts. We lack trust in life in general, in the day to day miracles of life.

Lack of trust and the fear stemming from it have such a strong grip on most people, that feeling happy or being successful become signs that something bad will happen. Have you ever heard someone say: “This is going too well now; I am sure it is doomed to fail”? Or have you tried to share a cherished dream with a friend only to hear all the reasons why it could not happen?

Or how about the saying: “Better safe than sorry”? Better stay in a secure job that you hate, in a relationship that is not what you desire, in a state of fear and low self-esteem rather than aspiring for more and living fully. Better stay where you are than risking getting hurt, or not succeeding.

The universal fears are very well embedded in our collective and individual consciousness. It is easy to overlook or rationalize them as something else, yet they are at the core of our fear based life. As you can see, it is no mystery now why we are afraid, why we live in fear, why it is such an accepted state in our society, in our families, among our friends and inside ourselves.

“You’re one with all of Life. The more you love yourself and trust Life, the more that Life will love you, support you, and guide you. You can trust in that which is invisible, instead of trusting only in the physical, material world. I’m not saying that we do nothing, yet if we have trust, we can go through life much easier. We need to trust that we’re being taken care of, even though we’re not physically in control of everything that’s happening around us.”

Louise Hay, “Let Go of Your Fears

Isn’t it LIBERATING to start understanding these fears and to have the knowledge that you can let go of all of them, simply because they hold no value? These fears are learned and practiced year after year after year and because of that we are more familiar with being afraid than with feeling free, fearless and trusting.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 40: Beyond Fear Part 8 – Fear of Not Being Worthy

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In his book “The Divine Matrix”, Gregg Braden wrote:

The root of our ‘negative’ experiences may be reduced to one of three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-worth, or lack of trust.”

The second universal fear is the fear that we are not “good enough”.  Almost every person in our world has experienced low self-esteem at one point or another. Some people live their entire lives feeling unworthy of love, of a good career, of abundance, of respect, of friendship, of vibrant health or happiness. Our professional, friendship or romantic relationships will match our expectations of not being good enough. Worthlessness is a desperate feeling and it brings about the belief that we have nothing to offer to the world, that we are insignificant.

Several religions have taught us that we are imperfect, lesser beings who cannot begin to compare to the armies of saints and angels who are closer to God.

As a result, we express our beliefs through our expectations of our achievements, how much joy we allow ourselves, and the success of our relationships. Our fear of not being valuable enough to have love, acceptance, health, and longevity promises that every one of our relationships will reflect the fear of low worth. And it happens in ways that we would never expect in a million years.
“For example, how many times have you settled for relationships that aren’t what you really want but rationalize them by saying things such as: “This is good enough for now” or “This is a stepping-stone to something better”? Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’d love to share my life with a loving, compassionate, nurturing, and caring partner, but …” or “This isn’t the job where I can really express my gifts and talents, but …” followed by all the reasons why your greatest dreams can’t be realized in this moment?
“If these or similar scenarios have played out in your life, there’s a good chance that they are the skillfully created masks that you use to question your worth. Through your personal and business relationships, you remind yourself of your core beliefs about yourself, beliefs that ask for a greater healing.”

pages 156 – 158, The Divine Matrix, Gregg Braden

This is profound, don’t you think? How much of this do you recognize in yourself?

Thank you for following me on this journey of discovering the hidden roots of fear. We have a couple more categories to go through and then I will teach you what to do when you feel afraid. So, hang on for a couple more posts.

Love,

Rucsandra