365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 69: The Willingness to Contemplate

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The willingness to contemplate is extremely powerful. I love these words: the willingness to contemplate. Dr. Wayne Dyer says:

“The law of flotation was not discovered by contemplating the sinking of things. […] The Wright brothers didn’t contemplate the staying on the ground of things. Alexander Graham Bell didn’t contemplate the non-communication of things. Thomas Edison didn’t contemplate the darkness of things. In order to float an idea into your reality, you must be willing to do a somersault into the inconceivable and land on your feet, contemplating what you want instead of what you don’t have.”

I AM INVITING YOU TO HAVE THE WILLINGNESS TO CONTEMPLATE the possibility that in every event, circumstance and interaction with other people there is something to be grateful for. I am not trying to convince you. I am simply inviting you to be willing to contemplate something different and to be willing to look at things in a different light.

Even if it seems quite impossible to you to release something painful or forgive someone who has hurt you and made you suffer, if you open yourself up to the possibility that there might be more to it than what meets the eye, you will soon start to see that there was a touch of grace in that situation and a reason for you to feel grateful.

You do not need to struggle with this; just be willing to see it from a different angle and your openness and willingness alone will create the space for deeper awareness.

I believe that one can only teach from one own’s individual experience, so tomorrow I will tell you about a time in my life when I realized that even in the hardest of times, we have the choice to find that spark of gratitude or be consumed by anger. pain or grief.

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 68: Emotional Cleansing Part 14 – Be the Hero of Your Life

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You can change what you think and what you feel to resonate with the powerful and high vibration of GRATITUDE.

Buddha said:

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”

Every day and in every circumstance there is something to be grateful for. This way of thinking might initially create a lot of resistance. Some people refuse to find a reason to be thankful and so they choose to be victims. They believe that things happen to them, are being done to them. “How can I be grateful for the fact that I have this illness, or lost a loved one, or lost my job, or had parents who abused me, or that my alcoholic husband spent all my money?”

Even if you feel some resistance to the thought of feeling grateful for everything in your life, start with a small grateful step and keep going. Even in the darkest of times there is always something that you can be grateful for. I know this for a fact and from personal experience.

Gratitude has the power to cleanse your emotional lens. Think of gratitude as the master cleanser for your emotional life. When you are grateful for something that occurred in your life despite the fact that other people might think of it as a failure, tragedy or hardship, you are raising your vibration to the level of the Source Energy.

Nora Ephron says:

“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”

The truth is that life will only look, feel and be the way you are willing to see it.

Life never treated you unfairly. Life offers you extraordinary opportunities to grow, in every single moment, with every single challenge. Gratitude pulverizes victimhood; it frees you up. The instant lift and rush of energy created by changing your thinking from victimhood to gratitude opens the door to your soul. You become the powerful creator of your own life, of your own reality. You become the hero of your life.

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 67: Emotional Cleansing Part 13 – Feeling Like a Victim?

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During the last 12 days I wrote about the concept and necessity of emotional cleansing; I offered you powerful emotional clearing techniques that I use all the time for my own emotional balance and health; I invited you to look deeper inside yourself.

Today I want to tell you that one of the greatest tools that you can employ to clear your emotional being is GRATITUDE. I know you have heard this before and probably you are already using the power of gratitude in your life.

When you are grateful, your whole energetic field clears; the powerful vibration of gratitude in that very moment clears away emotional turmoil, shame, anger, pain, sorrow and grief. This process requires awareness and the willingness to accept  a deeper part of who you truly are. Gratitude requires you to go and reach that part of you which is Universal and eternal and which has great knowledge and understanding of all life’s processes.

Brian Tracy says:

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Maybe this is a harder concept  to wrap your head around or maybe you are already employing the full power of gratitude. The truth is that by being grateful, entirely and truly grateful for everything that happens in your life, you refuse to be a victim. 

I want you to take a moment and think about a time when you felt like a victim, when you felt like things were happening to you, when you felt victimized. Ok, take a moment and do just that.

Good. Now I want you to find one good thing around that situation, one good outcome within the event that hurt you and hold it in your awareness.

Is this hard for you to do?

The truth is that for as long as you feel like a victim, gratitude will be out of your reach.

Victimhood binds you with ropes that are impossible to cut. Victimhood keeps you in situations that you do not want to be in. You feel like life happens to you, you are lost in suffering and cannot see that life is happening FOR YOU.

I want you to be free. I want you to be grateful. I want you to feel powerful, because you are. You are unique. Your special set of gifts and talents can help many people. But first, you must let go of feeling like a victim.

I’ll write more about this tomorrow.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 66: Emotional Cleansing Part 12 – My Gift to YOU

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How are you? Have you received my gift, the Sacred Oak Tree Meditation? I want you to have this meditation because I know its power. It helped me throughout the years and it helped my friends, family and clients. If you have not done so yet, email me at rucsandra@mitreawellness.com and I will send it to you in an MP3 format, so that you can listen to it on your phone, iPad or computer. My gift to you, to help you cleanse emotionally.

You will find many situations when the Sacred Oak Tree technique will help you. For example:

  • You are going to spend time with family and you are worried and starting to judge or be afraid of what might go wrong. Become an Oak Tree first, release everything that troubles you and then go meet your family with a clean slate.
  • You are concerned about your finances or your job. When you feel the first sign or concern or fear, visualize becoming the Sacred Oak Tree. Over and over and over. The less afraid you feel, the more you can see opportunities and invite the right people in your life.
  • You are ready to go to a meeting and you’re not sure about what to say, what others will say, you might be apprehensive or afraid of the other people’s reactions or judgment. Clear yourself with the Oak Tree technique first and then go into the meeting.

This meditation will clear your energy and release your stress. How will you know what the effects of using this technique really are? You will feel them. You will feel calmer, your mind will be clearer and you will start to deal with everything from a powerful stance of authenticity. In turn, every situation will resolve with more ease. You will find that people will come to you with solutions and responses and your relationships will improve.

To access the core of POWER inside yourself, you must be clear. Your emotional lens must be clean. The Sacred Oak Tree Meditation cleanses your lens. The more you use it, the faster it works. You will only need to think of the Oak Tree and your energy will clear, your fears will release and you will face any person or situations as YOU, the powerful and beautiful YOU.

For the next few weeks, set your phone or computer alarm to ring a two times a day and remind you about the Oak Tree. When the alarm rings, take two deep breaths, become the Magic Oak Tree and and let it do the work. Within a few minutes you will feel YOUR CORE OF POWER becoming stronger. You will feel lighter and clearer.

This is a technique that will assist you anytime you are starting to doubt yourself. Practice it as much as you can and it will become more effective and more powerful.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 65: The Sacred Oak Tree

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Three years ago I recorded a guided meditation entitled The Sacred Oak Tree Meditation. Professionally recorded, it benefits from the beautiful music specially composed by Meiro Stamm. The Oak Tree Meditation is a powerful emotional cleansing technique to use when you are emotionally overwhelmed, stressed out, feeling confused or drained.

This is one of my personal favorite techniques and I have been using the Sacred Oak Tree Meditation for many years now; I decided to record it because I know its power. It is a beautiful, light and soothing process.

I want you to have this meditation and use it to re-balance, to clear, to cleanse and to restore. It is my gift to you for following me on this 365 day journey of gratitude, for reading my posts and sharing them with others. Thank you. Simply email me at rucsandra@mitreawellness.com and I will send it to you in an MP3 format, so that you can listen to it on your phone, iPad or computer.

The more you practice it, the faster it works. This great tool can be used every day and in every situation, in order to restore your authentic self. Practice it as often as you can. It gets more powerful every time. All the negative energies will be drained away from your body and from your energetic field with ease, with no resistance. You will feel calm, clear and vibrant.

Thank you. I love you.

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 64: Emotional Cleansing Part 11 – The Domino Effect

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I am reading a great book entitled “All is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations and Intuition” written by Louise Hay and Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz. Dr. Schulz explains how science  is able to explain and back-up what Louise Hay started saying almost 40 years ago:

“Every thought we think, and every word we speak, is creating our future. Our thoughts go out into the universe.”

Here’s a quote from the book:

“The human body is an amazing machine, and as a machine it requires regular maintenance and care to run as efficiently as possible. There are a variety of reasons your body can break down and get sick: genetics, the environment, diet, and so on. But as Louise found in her career—and published in Heal Your Body—every illness is affected by emotional factors in your life.

And decades after Louise presented her conclusions, the scientific community has put forth studies that support them.

Research has shown that fear, anger, sadness, love, and joy have specific effects on the body. We know that anger makes muscles clamp down and blood vessels constrict, leading to hypertension and resistance to blood flow. Cardiac medicine tells us that joy and love tend to have opposite effect.

If you look at Louise’s little blue book, a heart attack and other heart problems are “squeezing all the joy” out of the heart, a “hardening of the heart,” and a “lack of joy.” And her affirmation to reverse these problems? “I bring joy back to the center of my heart,” and “I joyously release the past. I am in peace.”

Specific thought patterns affect our bodies in predictable ways, releasing certain chemicals in response to each emotion. When fear is your dominant mood over a long period of time, the constant release of stress hormones, specifically cortisol, triggers a domino effect of chemicals that lead to heart disease, weight gain, and depression.

As with fear, other emotions and thoughts follow a typical pattern as they are projected onto the body in the form of illness. In my work, I have also found that while emotions travel everywhere in the body, they affect organs differently depending on what is happening in your life. “

I fully recommend this book, as it spells out how important our inner peace and well-being really are. Science is backing-up the connection between what we feel and what we create in our lives on all levels: physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and energetic. This is no mystery anymore; it is not considered make-belief anymore in the medical and scientific circles. It is REALITY.

So, start clearing and cleansing. Release old fear and anger, let it all go.

Read my post tomorrow. I have a gift for you to help you cleanse.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 63: Emotional Cleansing Part 10 – You do not need to cope with anything!

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Here’s a question I received during one of my programs that brings to attention something very important:

“Life doesn’t always allow us to step back from a situation, breathe and assess our thoughts and feelings.  We often need to act and respond quickly, in the moment to someone or something that is happening.  How can the coping tools be condensed into a concise, manageable package so that we don’t end up in the same loop, possibly questioning our decision(s)?”

This is such a great question, because it addresses a very important issue: coping mechanisms. What I want to tell you right now and right here is that YOU DO NOT NEED COPING MECHANISMS. YOU do not WANT to cope with anything. Coping means managing, handling, surviving through something. What you want is to create, to co-create, to expand, to experience, to share, to give, to receive. You do not want to cope.

The more authentic we become, the more we respond to life’s events from a place of strength, with our own voice, from our own heart, in alignment with the life we want to live.

Here’s a quote from Dr. Lance Secretan:

“Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet – thinking, saying, feeling, and doing the same thing – consistently. “

The more authentic you become, the fewer chances you have to be caught in a loop. Behavioral loops happen when you continue to give away your power to other people, to circumstances and to various events in your life.

As you are allowing who you truly are to come to the surface, as you shed the fear of living life according to your own drum beat, as you release the need for others’ approval, your responses and actions will reflect your alignment with yourself.

Stepping back and assessing your feelings is a tool for you to use right now during the process of aligning yourself with YOU, the powerful, clear and magnificent YOU.

While it is true that we are required sometimes to act on the spot, in that very moment, it is also true that most times we can step back and breathe before we respond. If you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over again, it is because you are still working from the same perspective that allowed that situation to appear in your life in the first place.

Albert Einstein said:

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

By cleansing at an emotional level, by creating a more authentic life, day by day, your level of consciousness will shift continuously. You will find that the need for coping mechanisms will gradually disappear. The clearer and freer you become, the less managing, handling and surviving you will do. You will be too busy LIVING YOUR LIFE FULLY AS YOURSELF, CREATING AND DESIRING, CREATING AND DESIRING OVER AND OVER AGAIN, TO EVEN CONSIDER COPING with something.

THERE IS NOTHING TO BE COPED WITH IN AN AUTHENTIC LIFE.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 62: Emotional Cleansing Part 9 – Square Breathing

RUCSANDRA's PICTURETwo full months have passed since I started this gratitude blog and it has reached almost 2000 views!! Wow! I am so grateful that you have been reading my posts for 60 days and that you find value in them. It is wonderful to be in contact with you through my blog. Thank you. I love you.

Do you have a better understanding now of what I call Emotional Cleanliness? Can you see why it is extremely important to cleanse at the emotional level?

I want to give you the tools to do just that: start cleansing, releasing, letting go and healing your emotional body.

The first tool is called SQUARE BREATHING and the more you do it, the more powerful it becomes. It is a wonderful cleansing tool.

Imagine a square, right in front of your eyes, just floating there. Close your eyes and just imagine the square.

We are going to choose a count of five to do this breathing exercise. So start with five, but if you need to go with a lower count, please feel free to do so. Or you can go to higher count; six, seven or eight. Choose the level that is comfortable for you.

Ok, so as your eyes are moving up one side of the square, you are going to inhale to your chosen count. Then you are going to hold your breath and move your mind’s eyes across the top of the square. As you exhale, counting, you move down on the other side of the square and then you hold your breath at the bottom of the square.

It will be like this:

  • Up on one side of the square: inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the top of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Down the other side of the square: exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the bottom of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

And repeat this up to 10 times: 10 full squares.

Click on the link, print the script and use it when you need to calm down, connect with yourself and release negative emotions: Square Breathing.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 60: Emotional Cleansing Part 8 – Feeling-based Awareness

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Feeling-based awareness is the ability to know what it is that you are feeling, independent of the situation you are in and the person you are talking to; it is also the ability to identify and name your feelings (anger, happiness, frustration, hesitation, fear, love, loneliness, fearlessness, shyness, patience, impatience).

Feeling-based awareness is necessary in order to be in touch with yourself. It is not another person, the circumstances you are in or the world at large that create your world, it is YOU. By gaining full and unobstructed access to yourself, you will be able to create your life the way YOU want it to be.

In order to become feeling-based aware you can start by paying attention to what it is that you feeling in this moment. Through the feeling-based awareness you create a deeper and stronger connection to YOURSELF.

You probably already know and use some of these on a daily basis, but here’s a list of 7 different practices to help you become feeling-based aware:

  1. BREATHE DEEPLY when you feel a powerful emotion; make it a habit to focus on your breath.
  2. DECIDE NOT TO REACT to what you feel in the moment, when you are triggered. Observe what you feel and be curious about this whole process.
  3. PRACTICE NON-JUDGMENT towards what you feel, without discrimination. Feel what you feel and allow it to be. No judgment.
  4. Stop several times throughout the day to examine how you feel and what thought created the current feeling. Not what circumstance, event or person, but WHAT THOUGHT CREATED THAT SPECIFIC FEELING.
  5. Start practicing the 90-SECOND RULE. Do not get frustrated; just become aware of what makes it hard for you to fully apply it to your current circumstance or situation.
  6. MAINTAIN A LIGHT AND SOFT APPROACH towards this process, as you are learning to connect with yourself at a deeper level than ever before.
  7. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL. Whether it is a new feeling or a deeply buried one, if it comes to the surface, allow it and look at it with curiosity and patience.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 59: Emotional Cleansing Part 7 – Definition

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Not being able to let go of past hurt and emotional pain is not your essence, is not in your true nature. It is something that you learned through fear. As you now know, after reading my “Beyond Fear” series of posts, you were taught to fear almost everything around you. Every single event in your life caused you to have an emotional response that influenced the quality of your EMOTIONAL LENS.

Every time you felt loved, cherished, supported and encouraged your emotional lens became clearer, more focused and created a sharper, cleaner image of everything you looked at.

Every time you felt lonely, unloved, unsupported or mistreated your lens accumulated more dust and became more opaque, less transparent and created more distortion. That is, UNLESS you went beyond the circumstances and events that caused you to feel the negative emotions and CLEARED AWAY THE EMOTIONAL RESIDUES LEFT BEHIND.

Most people do not know A VERY IMPORTANT PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTH: once a feeling is triggered and felt, the physical body lets go of it in a matter of seconds. From a cellular and chemical perspective, you are done with it in less than 2 minutes. I wrote about this important fact on Day 9 : The 90 Second Rule.

The reason why emotions end up as emotional debris, created 5 or 10 or 30 years ago, is the fact that you chose to keep thinking thoughts that recreate that very same emotions over and over again. Yes, it is a choice. I know that this might be hard to hear (or read), but this is the absolute truth. It is YOUR CHOICE to let go, or go back in the loop and recreate with your thoughts the same chemical response that created the emotion in the first place. I found this fact to be truly powerful and life changing: IN LESS THAN 2 MINUTES THE BODY IS READY TO RELEASE A FEELING, ANY FEELING, and ANY EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.

And now, here is my definition of emotional cleanliness:

“EMOTIONAL CLEANLINESS can be defined as the capacity to see, hear and feel events, circumstances and other people’s words and actions, and to respond to these stimuli from a vantage point of love and inner power, unhindered, unconditioned and unlimited by the layers of past and present un-released emotional debris.”

This says it all.

Love,

Rucsandra