Here’s a question I received during one of my programs that brings to attention something very important:
“Life doesn’t always allow us to step back from a situation, breathe and assess our thoughts and feelings. We often need to act and respond quickly, in the moment to someone or something that is happening. How can the coping tools be condensed into a concise, manageable package so that we don’t end up in the same loop, possibly questioning our decision(s)?”
This is such a great question, because it addresses a very important issue: coping mechanisms. What I want to tell you right now and right here is that YOU DO NOT NEED COPING MECHANISMS. YOU do not WANT to cope with anything. Coping means managing, handling, surviving through something. What you want is to create, to co-create, to expand, to experience, to share, to give, to receive. You do not want to cope.
The more authentic we become, the more we respond to life’s events from a place of strength, with our own voice, from our own heart, in alignment with the life we want to live.
Here’s a quote from Dr. Lance Secretan:
“Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet – thinking, saying, feeling, and doing the same thing – consistently. “
The more authentic you become, the fewer chances you have to be caught in a loop. Behavioral loops happen when you continue to give away your power to other people, to circumstances and to various events in your life.
As you are allowing who you truly are to come to the surface, as you shed the fear of living life according to your own drum beat, as you release the need for others’ approval, your responses and actions will reflect your alignment with yourself.
Stepping back and assessing your feelings is a tool for you to use right now during the process of aligning yourself with YOU, the powerful, clear and magnificent YOU.
While it is true that we are required sometimes to act on the spot, in that very moment, it is also true that most times we can step back and breathe before we respond. If you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over again, it is because you are still working from the same perspective that allowed that situation to appear in your life in the first place.
Albert Einstein said:
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
By cleansing at an emotional level, by creating a more authentic life, day by day, your level of consciousness will shift continuously. You will find that the need for coping mechanisms will gradually disappear. The clearer and freer you become, the less managing, handling and surviving you will do. You will be too busy LIVING YOUR LIFE FULLY AS YOURSELF, CREATING AND DESIRING, CREATING AND DESIRING OVER AND OVER AGAIN, TO EVEN CONSIDER COPING with something.
THERE IS NOTHING TO BE COPED WITH IN AN AUTHENTIC LIFE.