DAY 304: The Only Lens You Need

 

camera lensYour emotional cleanliness is like a lens; one large, thick lens. The purpose of a lens, as you know, is to magnify the objects you are looking at. In order for you to see clearly the objects behind it, the lens must be clean.

When you feel strong, supported, loved and encouraged by yourself and others, your lens cleanses itself.

When you feel pain, shame, guilt, when you feel unsupported and unloved by yourself and others your lens becomes milky and opaque, as if dust has settled on it. The more negative feelings you have and hang on to throughout your life, the more dust your lens gathers.

 

In order to feel good, vibrant, alive and stay healthy, you must cleanse your lens!

It is easier than you think. You just meed to want to do it.

Once I understood the importance of the emotional lens, I was determined to keep mine sparkling clean.

I wish the same for you.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 80: De-clutter!!

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Yesterday I shared with you the importance of clearing your physical space at home and at your office. This does not have to be overwhelming. There is an easy approach to tackle this task, that I learned from a business coach I worked with. She was saying that a cluttered office, desk and home hinder our ability to focus on what is most important in business and in life, as well as the ability to stay focused until we fully complete a certain task.

The 10 minute method makes everything so much more manageable.

Here it is:

Buy a kitchen timer and set it up for 10 minutes. A few times throughout your day, start the timer and for 10 minutes clear and organize a drawer,  a pile of bills or laundry, a corner of your desk or a shelf of books.

Just do only 10 minutes at a  time. Be fully focused for 10 minutes on your de-cluttering task. You will be surprised by how much you get done in only 10 minutes.

By using the kitchen timer, going through your list becomes easier to handle and you get to see day after day after day the effects of what 10 minutes of full focus can accomplish.

There are greater benefits that you will be able to feel all along the way: a great sense of accomplishment, a quieter mind and less emotional turmoil.

Absolutely doable, right? Go get started! You will be grateful that you did.

Clearing physical clutter is a POWERFUL EMOTIONAL LENS CLEANER.

Love,

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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 66: Emotional Cleansing Part 12 – My Gift to YOU

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How are you? Have you received my gift, the Sacred Oak Tree Meditation? I want you to have this meditation because I know its power. It helped me throughout the years and it helped my friends, family and clients. If you have not done so yet, email me at rucsandra@mitreawellness.com and I will send it to you in an MP3 format, so that you can listen to it on your phone, iPad or computer. My gift to you, to help you cleanse emotionally.

You will find many situations when the Sacred Oak Tree technique will help you. For example:

  • You are going to spend time with family and you are worried and starting to judge or be afraid of what might go wrong. Become an Oak Tree first, release everything that troubles you and then go meet your family with a clean slate.
  • You are concerned about your finances or your job. When you feel the first sign or concern or fear, visualize becoming the Sacred Oak Tree. Over and over and over. The less afraid you feel, the more you can see opportunities and invite the right people in your life.
  • You are ready to go to a meeting and you’re not sure about what to say, what others will say, you might be apprehensive or afraid of the other people’s reactions or judgment. Clear yourself with the Oak Tree technique first and then go into the meeting.

This meditation will clear your energy and release your stress. How will you know what the effects of using this technique really are? You will feel them. You will feel calmer, your mind will be clearer and you will start to deal with everything from a powerful stance of authenticity. In turn, every situation will resolve with more ease. You will find that people will come to you with solutions and responses and your relationships will improve.

To access the core of POWER inside yourself, you must be clear. Your emotional lens must be clean. The Sacred Oak Tree Meditation cleanses your lens. The more you use it, the faster it works. You will only need to think of the Oak Tree and your energy will clear, your fears will release and you will face any person or situations as YOU, the powerful and beautiful YOU.

For the next few weeks, set your phone or computer alarm to ring a two times a day and remind you about the Oak Tree. When the alarm rings, take two deep breaths, become the Magic Oak Tree and and let it do the work. Within a few minutes you will feel YOUR CORE OF POWER becoming stronger. You will feel lighter and clearer.

This is a technique that will assist you anytime you are starting to doubt yourself. Practice it as much as you can and it will become more effective and more powerful.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 64: Emotional Cleansing Part 11 – The Domino Effect

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I am reading a great book entitled “All is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations and Intuition” written by Louise Hay and Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz. Dr. Schulz explains how science  is able to explain and back-up what Louise Hay started saying almost 40 years ago:

“Every thought we think, and every word we speak, is creating our future. Our thoughts go out into the universe.”

Here’s a quote from the book:

“The human body is an amazing machine, and as a machine it requires regular maintenance and care to run as efficiently as possible. There are a variety of reasons your body can break down and get sick: genetics, the environment, diet, and so on. But as Louise found in her career—and published in Heal Your Body—every illness is affected by emotional factors in your life.

And decades after Louise presented her conclusions, the scientific community has put forth studies that support them.

Research has shown that fear, anger, sadness, love, and joy have specific effects on the body. We know that anger makes muscles clamp down and blood vessels constrict, leading to hypertension and resistance to blood flow. Cardiac medicine tells us that joy and love tend to have opposite effect.

If you look at Louise’s little blue book, a heart attack and other heart problems are “squeezing all the joy” out of the heart, a “hardening of the heart,” and a “lack of joy.” And her affirmation to reverse these problems? “I bring joy back to the center of my heart,” and “I joyously release the past. I am in peace.”

Specific thought patterns affect our bodies in predictable ways, releasing certain chemicals in response to each emotion. When fear is your dominant mood over a long period of time, the constant release of stress hormones, specifically cortisol, triggers a domino effect of chemicals that lead to heart disease, weight gain, and depression.

As with fear, other emotions and thoughts follow a typical pattern as they are projected onto the body in the form of illness. In my work, I have also found that while emotions travel everywhere in the body, they affect organs differently depending on what is happening in your life. “

I fully recommend this book, as it spells out how important our inner peace and well-being really are. Science is backing-up the connection between what we feel and what we create in our lives on all levels: physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and energetic. This is no mystery anymore; it is not considered make-belief anymore in the medical and scientific circles. It is REALITY.

So, start clearing and cleansing. Release old fear and anger, let it all go.

Read my post tomorrow. I have a gift for you to help you cleanse.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 63: Emotional Cleansing Part 10 – You do not need to cope with anything!

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Here’s a question I received during one of my programs that brings to attention something very important:

“Life doesn’t always allow us to step back from a situation, breathe and assess our thoughts and feelings.  We often need to act and respond quickly, in the moment to someone or something that is happening.  How can the coping tools be condensed into a concise, manageable package so that we don’t end up in the same loop, possibly questioning our decision(s)?”

This is such a great question, because it addresses a very important issue: coping mechanisms. What I want to tell you right now and right here is that YOU DO NOT NEED COPING MECHANISMS. YOU do not WANT to cope with anything. Coping means managing, handling, surviving through something. What you want is to create, to co-create, to expand, to experience, to share, to give, to receive. You do not want to cope.

The more authentic we become, the more we respond to life’s events from a place of strength, with our own voice, from our own heart, in alignment with the life we want to live.

Here’s a quote from Dr. Lance Secretan:

“Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet – thinking, saying, feeling, and doing the same thing – consistently. “

The more authentic you become, the fewer chances you have to be caught in a loop. Behavioral loops happen when you continue to give away your power to other people, to circumstances and to various events in your life.

As you are allowing who you truly are to come to the surface, as you shed the fear of living life according to your own drum beat, as you release the need for others’ approval, your responses and actions will reflect your alignment with yourself.

Stepping back and assessing your feelings is a tool for you to use right now during the process of aligning yourself with YOU, the powerful, clear and magnificent YOU.

While it is true that we are required sometimes to act on the spot, in that very moment, it is also true that most times we can step back and breathe before we respond. If you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over again, it is because you are still working from the same perspective that allowed that situation to appear in your life in the first place.

Albert Einstein said:

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

By cleansing at an emotional level, by creating a more authentic life, day by day, your level of consciousness will shift continuously. You will find that the need for coping mechanisms will gradually disappear. The clearer and freer you become, the less managing, handling and surviving you will do. You will be too busy LIVING YOUR LIFE FULLY AS YOURSELF, CREATING AND DESIRING, CREATING AND DESIRING OVER AND OVER AGAIN, TO EVEN CONSIDER COPING with something.

THERE IS NOTHING TO BE COPED WITH IN AN AUTHENTIC LIFE.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 62: Emotional Cleansing Part 9 – Square Breathing

RUCSANDRA's PICTURETwo full months have passed since I started this gratitude blog and it has reached almost 2000 views!! Wow! I am so grateful that you have been reading my posts for 60 days and that you find value in them. It is wonderful to be in contact with you through my blog. Thank you. I love you.

Do you have a better understanding now of what I call Emotional Cleanliness? Can you see why it is extremely important to cleanse at the emotional level?

I want to give you the tools to do just that: start cleansing, releasing, letting go and healing your emotional body.

The first tool is called SQUARE BREATHING and the more you do it, the more powerful it becomes. It is a wonderful cleansing tool.

Imagine a square, right in front of your eyes, just floating there. Close your eyes and just imagine the square.

We are going to choose a count of five to do this breathing exercise. So start with five, but if you need to go with a lower count, please feel free to do so. Or you can go to higher count; six, seven or eight. Choose the level that is comfortable for you.

Ok, so as your eyes are moving up one side of the square, you are going to inhale to your chosen count. Then you are going to hold your breath and move your mind’s eyes across the top of the square. As you exhale, counting, you move down on the other side of the square and then you hold your breath at the bottom of the square.

It will be like this:

  • Up on one side of the square: inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the top of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Down the other side of the square: exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the bottom of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

And repeat this up to 10 times: 10 full squares.

Click on the link, print the script and use it when you need to calm down, connect with yourself and release negative emotions: Square Breathing.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 61: Captain Jack Sparrow’s Wisdom

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There is a great quote that brings me back to alignment every single time. It belongs to a fictional character but that does not diminish its truth.

Captain Jack Sparrow from the movie Pirates of the Caribbean says:

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?”

This quote makes me laugh, lightens me up and has a quick re-balancing effect on me. It holds such deep truth and wisdom and it is delivered in such a light and fun way. This is a powerful emotional cleansing and re-balancing tool and the more you ponder on it, the better it will work. Try it! Emotional release does not have to be complicated.  Keep reading Captain Jack Sparrow’s words and remind yourself of them often.

It is not the problem, the person, the event or the circumstance creating your discomfort, fear, pain or disappointment, but your attitude towards what is happening. It is that simple.

I love this quote and I remind myself of it whenever I start to feel that I have a… problem.

Do YOU have a problem?

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 60: Emotional Cleansing Part 8 – Feeling-based Awareness

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Feeling-based awareness is the ability to know what it is that you are feeling, independent of the situation you are in and the person you are talking to; it is also the ability to identify and name your feelings (anger, happiness, frustration, hesitation, fear, love, loneliness, fearlessness, shyness, patience, impatience).

Feeling-based awareness is necessary in order to be in touch with yourself. It is not another person, the circumstances you are in or the world at large that create your world, it is YOU. By gaining full and unobstructed access to yourself, you will be able to create your life the way YOU want it to be.

In order to become feeling-based aware you can start by paying attention to what it is that you feeling in this moment. Through the feeling-based awareness you create a deeper and stronger connection to YOURSELF.

You probably already know and use some of these on a daily basis, but here’s a list of 7 different practices to help you become feeling-based aware:

  1. BREATHE DEEPLY when you feel a powerful emotion; make it a habit to focus on your breath.
  2. DECIDE NOT TO REACT to what you feel in the moment, when you are triggered. Observe what you feel and be curious about this whole process.
  3. PRACTICE NON-JUDGMENT towards what you feel, without discrimination. Feel what you feel and allow it to be. No judgment.
  4. Stop several times throughout the day to examine how you feel and what thought created the current feeling. Not what circumstance, event or person, but WHAT THOUGHT CREATED THAT SPECIFIC FEELING.
  5. Start practicing the 90-SECOND RULE. Do not get frustrated; just become aware of what makes it hard for you to fully apply it to your current circumstance or situation.
  6. MAINTAIN A LIGHT AND SOFT APPROACH towards this process, as you are learning to connect with yourself at a deeper level than ever before.
  7. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL. Whether it is a new feeling or a deeply buried one, if it comes to the surface, allow it and look at it with curiosity and patience.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 59: Emotional Cleansing Part 7 – Definition

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Not being able to let go of past hurt and emotional pain is not your essence, is not in your true nature. It is something that you learned through fear. As you now know, after reading my “Beyond Fear” series of posts, you were taught to fear almost everything around you. Every single event in your life caused you to have an emotional response that influenced the quality of your EMOTIONAL LENS.

Every time you felt loved, cherished, supported and encouraged your emotional lens became clearer, more focused and created a sharper, cleaner image of everything you looked at.

Every time you felt lonely, unloved, unsupported or mistreated your lens accumulated more dust and became more opaque, less transparent and created more distortion. That is, UNLESS you went beyond the circumstances and events that caused you to feel the negative emotions and CLEARED AWAY THE EMOTIONAL RESIDUES LEFT BEHIND.

Most people do not know A VERY IMPORTANT PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTH: once a feeling is triggered and felt, the physical body lets go of it in a matter of seconds. From a cellular and chemical perspective, you are done with it in less than 2 minutes. I wrote about this important fact on Day 9 : The 90 Second Rule.

The reason why emotions end up as emotional debris, created 5 or 10 or 30 years ago, is the fact that you chose to keep thinking thoughts that recreate that very same emotions over and over again. Yes, it is a choice. I know that this might be hard to hear (or read), but this is the absolute truth. It is YOUR CHOICE to let go, or go back in the loop and recreate with your thoughts the same chemical response that created the emotion in the first place. I found this fact to be truly powerful and life changing: IN LESS THAN 2 MINUTES THE BODY IS READY TO RELEASE A FEELING, ANY FEELING, and ANY EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.

And now, here is my definition of emotional cleanliness:

“EMOTIONAL CLEANLINESS can be defined as the capacity to see, hear and feel events, circumstances and other people’s words and actions, and to respond to these stimuli from a vantage point of love and inner power, unhindered, unconditioned and unlimited by the layers of past and present un-released emotional debris.”

This says it all.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 58: Emotional Cleansing Part 6 – The Emotional Lens

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People react to the same day-to-day events and challenges in different ways; these events and challenges have different meanings and create different stress levels for different people.

Here’s an example: for one person, an unfair and moody boss is an absolute and substantial stressor, seeming to create a situation without solution. For another person, the same boss creates only a minor aggravation, as they plan to find a better working environment.

These are two completely different responses to the same stimulus. So what is then, the determining factor in how we respond to the events in our lives? The determining factor is THE LEVEL of emotional cleanliness. That’s right: the level of emotional cleanliness is what makes all the difference.

I will define tomorrow what I really mean by EMOTIONAL CLEANLINESS.

For now let’s just start creating an image for it: the image is a lens; one large, thick lens. See this lens with your mind’s eye. The purpose of a lens, as you know, is to magnify the objects we are looking at. In order for us to see clearly the objects behind it, the lens must be clean.

When you feel strong, supported, loved and encouraged by yourself and others, your lens cleanses itself.

When you feel pain, shame, guilt, when you feel unsupported and unloved by yourself and others your lens becomes milky and opaque, as if dust has settled on it. The more negative feelings you have and hang on to throughout your life, the more dust your lens gathers.

Keep the lens image in your mind and let’s move to the next topic. Every cell in the body recognizes what you feel and immediately translates your feelings into physical responses. If this is a concept harder to relate to, just think of something that you are afraid of and see how your body responds. If you are afraid of an illness… just allow that fear to surface for a moment. If you are afraid of losing your job or ending an important relationship in your life, just feel that fear… allow it to come to the surface and stay in that feeling for a second.

Do not worry: this exercise will not create more stress. You are just allowing something that is already there to come to the surface.

Now scan your body quickly. Are your shoulders raised and tense, are you frowning? Is there a knot in your stomach or is the pain in your lower back increasing? Is your mouth dry? How much tension are you feeling?

The physical response was instant, wasn’t it?

Here’s another situation: think of something you did at some point in your past that you were, or maybe still are, ashamed of. If you haven’t processed that shame yet, you will feel it all over again, right now: flushed cheeks, sweaty palms and a knot in your stomach. Right? Can you feel that? Feeling ashamed makes your body perspire. What this means is that every cell in your body responds to your feeling ashamed. I will repeat that, because this is very important for you to understand: EVERY CELL IN YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO YOUR FEELING OF SHAME.

On Day 37 of this blog I wrote about the fact that your emotional lens was pre-conditioned even before your birth by your mother’s fears, because YOUR CELLS were FEELING everything that your mother’s cells felt as a result of her emotional state. So go back to Day 37 and read that post again.

I am excited about sharing all this with you! Once I understood the importance of the emotional lens, I was determined to keep mine sparkling clean. And you will too!

Love,

Rucsandra