365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 226: YOUR Emotions Matter

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The way you respond to other people’s actions, to events and circumstances, to challenges you come across and life in general is determined by your underlying emotional state. Your emotional state is in turn defined by the total sum of everything you’ve experienced in your life but not fully processed up to this point.

If we are to think in this paradigm, then you have to wonder what part of your actions is truly conscious and what part is just a reaction.

What I know for sure is this: unless you allow your emotions to come to the surface and be examined and then fully released, you will continue to react to outside stimuli in ways that you might not understand.

Here’s my invitation to you: express your emotions fully; allow yourself to feel, to have an emotional opinion. All you need to do is acknowledge your emotions, sit with them, allow them to be. As you do so, they will clear, dissipate and you will feel free.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 174: Listen To Yourself!

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You’ve been taught to listen to everybody else but yourself.

You disagree?

Let me say it this way: how many times have you been told to follow your heart, your intuition, your desires and your inner truth? If you are like most people, pretty much never!

Were you encouraged to honor who you are?

Were you taught emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, communication skills or self awareness?

I know I wasn’t.

But one day I decided to break free and find my own answers and my own path. I made a pact with myself to pay attention to how I felt and what I thought and to follow my inner guidance. And that was the best decision I have ever made.

It does not matter what we were taught!

What matters is that we have the power to choose to honor and follow our inner guidance system.

Pay attention.

You will discover that you are always guided by a power greater than all the advice your were even given.

No school and no teacher, no degree and no mentor will ever know more than your soul.

Listen to yourself.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 53: Emotional Cleansing Part 1

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Many years back I came to understand that the way I was responding to other people’s actions, to events and life in general was primarily determined by my general emotional state, which in turn was defined by the total sum of everything that I had experienced in my life up to that point. I started to wonder what part of my actions was truly conscious and what part was just unconscious reaction. As at the time I did not have the answer, I made a pact with myself to find the truth and in order to do that I had to wipe my emotional slate clean. And so I started a powerful, sometimes joyful but many times heart wrenching journey of emotional clearing and cleansing.

I am very grateful for taking the steps to create a state of emotional cleanliness and today I am starting to share with you what I mean by that. I want you to start the process of cleansing at the emotional level, so that your life is made of conscious actions. I want you to be the creator of your life, not just “be lived” by the events and circumstances in your life.

Yesterday I was writing about the importance of healing the relationship you have with yourself.

Today is Day 1 of your emotional cleansing process. I call it EM-CLEANSE. I developed a program I use with my clients to teach this concept and show them how to clear their emotional slate so that it does not define how they respond to challenges, events, circumstances and other people’s actions. I want to share this concept with you. This is my gift to you, as a way of expressing my gratitude.

So let’s start.

Do you believe in less chemicals and a cleaner environment?

Do you care about the foods you eat and the products you use on your skin?

Do you believe in being clean and toxin free inside and out?

How about your emotional cleanliness?

Have you ever heard about this concept before?

They do not teach in schools about it, but its lack creates stress and distress in your life.

Feelings of criticism toward yourself and others, anger towards yourself or others, fear, unworthiness, anger, frustration, judgment, defeat, despair with regards to your relationships, love life, work, family, finances, physical fitness or health create platform of distress in the body and the mind.

Left un-cleared, these feelings become emotional residues that create a build up which is detrimental to your general well-being and health and affects both your mental and physical states. If not fully expressed, emotions can and do create the emotional residues that remains in your body for days, weeks, months or years, until you fully release them.

“See” you tomorrow. Get ready!

Love,

Rucsandra

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 52: What about shame?

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Yesterday I received a question about allowing others to treat us with disrespect, even when we don’t want to be treated that way. The comment to my post said:

“I wonder if it’s even harder when you really knew you didn’t have to take it, but you did anyway. I guess that is a different emotion: shame.”

And my response was:

“I understand what you are saying, but think about it: if you were able to do it differently, you would have done it differently. Since you did not, it means that you were not really able to.”

Louise Hay says that at any given moment, we do what we think is best, with the understanding we have at the time and with the emotional intelligence we poses at the time. It all comes down to how much we value ourselves. When we truly value who we are, we are kind to ourselves and to other people. We do not treat ourselves unkindly, we respect everybody else and we do not allow others to do disrespect or treat us unkindly either.

Do you see? It is not about feeling shame because you let someone be unkind, mean, judgmental or controlling towards you. Shame is a very destructive emotion; shame chips away at your self-esteem and diminishes your life force. If you truly understand the level you were at in your opinion of yourself and what you thought you were worth and deserving of, then you do understand that you did the best you could at the time. At the time, you might have believed that you did not deserve to be treated with respect, with kindness and understanding. Feeling ashamed about it will not help you at all.

This is very powerful and I am grateful for having allowed this deep healing to take place. As I understood the fact that for many years I felt small, afraid and did not believe in my own value as a person, I started to heal my guilt, shame and feeling powerless. This is a process that we all need to go through in order to create the lives we desire. This process is not about feeling shame, it is about allowing our inner power to shine.

Today I am inviting you to look deep inside yourself and examine what was your belief about yourself at a time when you allowed another person to treat you with disrespect. As you heal your limiting beliefs, you will also heal your relationships.

But first, you must heal the relationship you have with yourself.

Love,

Rucsandra