365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 64: Emotional Cleansing Part 11 – The Domino Effect


I am reading a great book entitled “All is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations and Intuition” written by Louise Hay and Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz. Dr. Schulz explains how science  is able to explain and back-up what Louise Hay started saying almost 40 years ago:

“Every thought we think, and every word we speak, is creating our future. Our thoughts go out into the universe.”

Here’s a quote from the book:

“The human body is an amazing machine, and as a machine it requires regular maintenance and care to run as efficiently as possible. There are a variety of reasons your body can break down and get sick: genetics, the environment, diet, and so on. But as Louise found in her career—and published in Heal Your Body—every illness is affected by emotional factors in your life.

And decades after Louise presented her conclusions, the scientific community has put forth studies that support them.

Research has shown that fear, anger, sadness, love, and joy have specific effects on the body. We know that anger makes muscles clamp down and blood vessels constrict, leading to hypertension and resistance to blood flow. Cardiac medicine tells us that joy and love tend to have opposite effect.

If you look at Louise’s little blue book, a heart attack and other heart problems are “squeezing all the joy” out of the heart, a “hardening of the heart,” and a “lack of joy.” And her affirmation to reverse these problems? “I bring joy back to the center of my heart,” and “I joyously release the past. I am in peace.”

Specific thought patterns affect our bodies in predictable ways, releasing certain chemicals in response to each emotion. When fear is your dominant mood over a long period of time, the constant release of stress hormones, specifically cortisol, triggers a domino effect of chemicals that lead to heart disease, weight gain, and depression.

As with fear, other emotions and thoughts follow a typical pattern as they are projected onto the body in the form of illness. In my work, I have also found that while emotions travel everywhere in the body, they affect organs differently depending on what is happening in your life. “

I fully recommend this book, as it spells out how important our inner peace and well-being really are. Science is backing-up the connection between what we feel and what we create in our lives on all levels: physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and energetic. This is no mystery anymore; it is not considered make-belief anymore in the medical and scientific circles. It is REALITY.

So, start clearing and cleansing. Release old fear and anger, let it all go.

Read my post tomorrow. I have a gift for you to help you cleanse.




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 63: Emotional Cleansing Part 10 – You do not need to cope with anything!


Here’s a question I received during one of my programs that brings to attention something very important:

“Life doesn’t always allow us to step back from a situation, breathe and assess our thoughts and feelings.  We often need to act and respond quickly, in the moment to someone or something that is happening.  How can the coping tools be condensed into a concise, manageable package so that we don’t end up in the same loop, possibly questioning our decision(s)?”

This is such a great question, because it addresses a very important issue: coping mechanisms. What I want to tell you right now and right here is that YOU DO NOT NEED COPING MECHANISMS. YOU do not WANT to cope with anything. Coping means managing, handling, surviving through something. What you want is to create, to co-create, to expand, to experience, to share, to give, to receive. You do not want to cope.

The more authentic we become, the more we respond to life’s events from a place of strength, with our own voice, from our own heart, in alignment with the life we want to live.

Here’s a quote from Dr. Lance Secretan:

“Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet – thinking, saying, feeling, and doing the same thing – consistently. “

The more authentic you become, the fewer chances you have to be caught in a loop. Behavioral loops happen when you continue to give away your power to other people, to circumstances and to various events in your life.

As you are allowing who you truly are to come to the surface, as you shed the fear of living life according to your own drum beat, as you release the need for others’ approval, your responses and actions will reflect your alignment with yourself.

Stepping back and assessing your feelings is a tool for you to use right now during the process of aligning yourself with YOU, the powerful, clear and magnificent YOU.

While it is true that we are required sometimes to act on the spot, in that very moment, it is also true that most times we can step back and breathe before we respond. If you find yourself repeating the same thing over and over again, it is because you are still working from the same perspective that allowed that situation to appear in your life in the first place.

Albert Einstein said:

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

By cleansing at an emotional level, by creating a more authentic life, day by day, your level of consciousness will shift continuously. You will find that the need for coping mechanisms will gradually disappear. The clearer and freer you become, the less managing, handling and surviving you will do. You will be too busy LIVING YOUR LIFE FULLY AS YOURSELF, CREATING AND DESIRING, CREATING AND DESIRING OVER AND OVER AGAIN, TO EVEN CONSIDER COPING with something.





365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 62: Emotional Cleansing Part 9 – Square Breathing

RUCSANDRA's PICTURETwo full months have passed since I started this gratitude blog and it has reached almost 2000 views!! Wow! I am so grateful that you have been reading my posts for 60 days and that you find value in them. It is wonderful to be in contact with you through my blog. Thank you. I love you.

Do you have a better understanding now of what I call Emotional Cleanliness? Can you see why it is extremely important to cleanse at the emotional level?

I want to give you the tools to do just that: start cleansing, releasing, letting go and healing your emotional body.

The first tool is called SQUARE BREATHING and the more you do it, the more powerful it becomes. It is a wonderful cleansing tool.

Imagine a square, right in front of your eyes, just floating there. Close your eyes and just imagine the square.

We are going to choose a count of five to do this breathing exercise. So start with five, but if you need to go with a lower count, please feel free to do so. Or you can go to higher count; six, seven or eight. Choose the level that is comfortable for you.

Ok, so as your eyes are moving up one side of the square, you are going to inhale to your chosen count. Then you are going to hold your breath and move your mind’s eyes across the top of the square. As you exhale, counting, you move down on the other side of the square and then you hold your breath at the bottom of the square.

It will be like this:

  • Up on one side of the square: inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the top of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Down the other side of the square: exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
  • Across the bottom of the square: hold your inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

And repeat this up to 10 times: 10 full squares.

Click on the link, print the script and use it when you need to calm down, connect with yourself and release negative emotions: Square Breathing.




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 61: Captain Jack Sparrow’s Wisdom


There is a great quote that brings me back to alignment every single time. It belongs to a fictional character but that does not diminish its truth.

Captain Jack Sparrow from the movie Pirates of the Caribbean says:

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?”

This quote makes me laugh, lightens me up and has a quick re-balancing effect on me. It holds such deep truth and wisdom and it is delivered in such a light and fun way. This is a powerful emotional cleansing and re-balancing tool and the more you ponder on it, the better it will work. Try it! Emotional release does not have to be complicated.  Keep reading Captain Jack Sparrow’s words and remind yourself of them often.

It is not the problem, the person, the event or the circumstance creating your discomfort, fear, pain or disappointment, but your attitude towards what is happening. It is that simple.

I love this quote and I remind myself of it whenever I start to feel that I have a… problem.

Do YOU have a problem?




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 60: Emotional Cleansing Part 8 – Feeling-based Awareness


Feeling-based awareness is the ability to know what it is that you are feeling, independent of the situation you are in and the person you are talking to; it is also the ability to identify and name your feelings (anger, happiness, frustration, hesitation, fear, love, loneliness, fearlessness, shyness, patience, impatience).

Feeling-based awareness is necessary in order to be in touch with yourself. It is not another person, the circumstances you are in or the world at large that create your world, it is YOU. By gaining full and unobstructed access to yourself, you will be able to create your life the way YOU want it to be.

In order to become feeling-based aware you can start by paying attention to what it is that you feeling in this moment. Through the feeling-based awareness you create a deeper and stronger connection to YOURSELF.

You probably already know and use some of these on a daily basis, but here’s a list of 7 different practices to help you become feeling-based aware:

  1. BREATHE DEEPLY when you feel a powerful emotion; make it a habit to focus on your breath.
  2. DECIDE NOT TO REACT to what you feel in the moment, when you are triggered. Observe what you feel and be curious about this whole process.
  3. PRACTICE NON-JUDGMENT towards what you feel, without discrimination. Feel what you feel and allow it to be. No judgment.
  4. Stop several times throughout the day to examine how you feel and what thought created the current feeling. Not what circumstance, event or person, but WHAT THOUGHT CREATED THAT SPECIFIC FEELING.
  5. Start practicing the 90-SECOND RULE. Do not get frustrated; just become aware of what makes it hard for you to fully apply it to your current circumstance or situation.
  6. MAINTAIN A LIGHT AND SOFT APPROACH towards this process, as you are learning to connect with yourself at a deeper level than ever before.
  7. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL. Whether it is a new feeling or a deeply buried one, if it comes to the surface, allow it and look at it with curiosity and patience.




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 59: Emotional Cleansing Part 7 – Definition


Not being able to let go of past hurt and emotional pain is not your essence, is not in your true nature. It is something that you learned through fear. As you now know, after reading my “Beyond Fear” series of posts, you were taught to fear almost everything around you. Every single event in your life caused you to have an emotional response that influenced the quality of your EMOTIONAL LENS.

Every time you felt loved, cherished, supported and encouraged your emotional lens became clearer, more focused and created a sharper, cleaner image of everything you looked at.

Every time you felt lonely, unloved, unsupported or mistreated your lens accumulated more dust and became more opaque, less transparent and created more distortion. That is, UNLESS you went beyond the circumstances and events that caused you to feel the negative emotions and CLEARED AWAY THE EMOTIONAL RESIDUES LEFT BEHIND.

Most people do not know A VERY IMPORTANT PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTH: once a feeling is triggered and felt, the physical body lets go of it in a matter of seconds. From a cellular and chemical perspective, you are done with it in less than 2 minutes. I wrote about this important fact on Day 9 : The 90 Second Rule.

The reason why emotions end up as emotional debris, created 5 or 10 or 30 years ago, is the fact that you chose to keep thinking thoughts that recreate that very same emotions over and over again. Yes, it is a choice. I know that this might be hard to hear (or read), but this is the absolute truth. It is YOUR CHOICE to let go, or go back in the loop and recreate with your thoughts the same chemical response that created the emotion in the first place. I found this fact to be truly powerful and life changing: IN LESS THAN 2 MINUTES THE BODY IS READY TO RELEASE A FEELING, ANY FEELING, and ANY EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.

And now, here is my definition of emotional cleanliness:

“EMOTIONAL CLEANLINESS can be defined as the capacity to see, hear and feel events, circumstances and other people’s words and actions, and to respond to these stimuli from a vantage point of love and inner power, unhindered, unconditioned and unlimited by the layers of past and present un-released emotional debris.”

This says it all.




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 58: Emotional Cleansing Part 6 – The Emotional Lens


People react to the same day-to-day events and challenges in different ways; these events and challenges have different meanings and create different stress levels for different people.

Here’s an example: for one person, an unfair and moody boss is an absolute and substantial stressor, seeming to create a situation without solution. For another person, the same boss creates only a minor aggravation, as they plan to find a better working environment.

These are two completely different responses to the same stimulus. So what is then, the determining factor in how we respond to the events in our lives? The determining factor is THE LEVEL of emotional cleanliness. That’s right: the level of emotional cleanliness is what makes all the difference.

I will define tomorrow what I really mean by EMOTIONAL CLEANLINESS.

For now let’s just start creating an image for it: the image is a lens; one large, thick lens. See this lens with your mind’s eye. The purpose of a lens, as you know, is to magnify the objects we are looking at. In order for us to see clearly the objects behind it, the lens must be clean.

When you feel strong, supported, loved and encouraged by yourself and others, your lens cleanses itself.

When you feel pain, shame, guilt, when you feel unsupported and unloved by yourself and others your lens becomes milky and opaque, as if dust has settled on it. The more negative feelings you have and hang on to throughout your life, the more dust your lens gathers.

Keep the lens image in your mind and let’s move to the next topic. Every cell in the body recognizes what you feel and immediately translates your feelings into physical responses. If this is a concept harder to relate to, just think of something that you are afraid of and see how your body responds. If you are afraid of an illness… just allow that fear to surface for a moment. If you are afraid of losing your job or ending an important relationship in your life, just feel that fear… allow it to come to the surface and stay in that feeling for a second.

Do not worry: this exercise will not create more stress. You are just allowing something that is already there to come to the surface.

Now scan your body quickly. Are your shoulders raised and tense, are you frowning? Is there a knot in your stomach or is the pain in your lower back increasing? Is your mouth dry? How much tension are you feeling?

The physical response was instant, wasn’t it?

Here’s another situation: think of something you did at some point in your past that you were, or maybe still are, ashamed of. If you haven’t processed that shame yet, you will feel it all over again, right now: flushed cheeks, sweaty palms and a knot in your stomach. Right? Can you feel that? Feeling ashamed makes your body perspire. What this means is that every cell in your body responds to your feeling ashamed. I will repeat that, because this is very important for you to understand: EVERY CELL IN YOUR BODY RESPONDS TO YOUR FEELING OF SHAME.

On Day 37 of this blog I wrote about the fact that your emotional lens was pre-conditioned even before your birth by your mother’s fears, because YOUR CELLS were FEELING everything that your mother’s cells felt as a result of her emotional state. So go back to Day 37 and read that post again.

I am excited about sharing all this with you! Once I understood the importance of the emotional lens, I was determined to keep mine sparkling clean. And you will too!




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 57: Emotional Cleansing Part 5 – Without Struggle


Excerpt from Brandon Bays’ book  “Freedom Is”:

“Unfortunately, most of us became conditioned to the idea that struggling is good and makes us strong, and we feel guilty if we take even a few spare moments to relax. But ironically, it is only when we completely let go into full relaxation that true genius and creativity become available.”

Struggling is not good and it diminishes your inner power. When you are in touch with yourself and honor who you are what you feel, there is no struggle.

I want you to arrive in a place without struggle inside yourself. The EM-CLEANSE posts will continue and I will teach you how to cleanse at the emotional level.

By paying equally close attention to the quality of the foods you eat and the water you drink, to the thoughts you think and to the methods of physical exercise you choose, to processing your feelings and clearing your emotional system you can create a more balanced body, inside and out and a more balanced life, inside and out.

You need to cleanse and rejuvenate emotionally in the same manner that you cleanse your body through diet and exercise, through showers and bathing, through sweating and sleeping. You can do it through meditation, keeping a journal, or simply by sitting alone in a room, relaxing, breathing and getting in touch with how you feel and why. What matters most is that you are completely honest with yourself about what you feel.

The capacity to respond to life’s flow of events from a place of emotional cleanliness and internal balance exists within you and within everybody else.Your interactions with others will stem from understanding and compassion, leading to powerful connections that are creative, healing and life changing for yourself and for the people around you. From that quiet space of INNER BALANCE, the power to create your desired life multiplies and you will find yourself in all the right places at all the right times. SYNCHRONICITY will become the norm, things will flow with ease, solutions will present themselves to you and your inner struggle will stop.

So what do you think? Do you believe now, as I do, that your emotional cleanliness is important and worth paying attention to?




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 56: Emotional Cleansing Part 4


Emotional stress, clutter and distress change chemistry of the body, causing symptoms like high blood pressure, overeating or under eating, insomnia, depression, to name just a few.

Emotional debris can and will alter the quality of your life, at all levels: internal well-being, family life, work environment and community.

What creates your internal emotional debris?

Everything that you have not allowed to fully clear your system: childhood experiences, un-shared feelings, a job you do not like, a kid not doing well in school, not enough money, finances, the death of someone dear, not enough time, too much to do, too many requirements, an illness, moving from a house to another, from a city to another, not getting what you want, not having a life partner, something that happened 30 ago.

We are equipped to experience a remarkably wide array of feelings, from despair and anger to elation and unconditional love.

However, we are not equipped to store painful and unresolved emotions for weeks, months, years or decades. Un-cleared and unreleased, these stored emotions create many health problems and can ultimately cause a heart attack, depression or a chain of physical injuries.

There is a book that I highly recommend if you tend to worry about your loved ones, diseases, work, relationships, weather, wars, money and everything else. Here’s and excerpt from Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” :

‘A few years ago, I spent my vacation motoring through Texas and New Mexico with Dr. O. F. Gober—one of the medical executives of the Santa Fe railway. His exact title was chief physician of the Gulf, Colorado and Santa Fe Hospital Association. We got to talking about the effects of worry, and he said: Seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they only got rid of their fears and worries.

Don’t think for a moment that I mean that their ills are imaginary,” he said. “Their ills are as real as a throbbing toothache and sometimes a hundred times more serious. I refer to such illnesses as nervous indigestion, some stomach ulcers, heart disturbances, insomnia, some headaches, and some types of paralysis. “These illnesses are real. I know what I am talking about,” said Dr. Gober, “for I myself suffered from a stomach ulcer for twelve years. “Fear causes worry. Worry makes you tense and nervous and affects the nerves of your stomach and actually changes the gastric juices of your stomach from normal to abnormal and often leads to stomach ulcers.”

Did you get what Dr. Gober said? “Seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they only got rid of their fears and worries.” So the events and challenging times of our lives do not create our emotional turmoil and pain. It is what we CHOOSE to do when faced with one of these challenges.

This understanding shifts the paradigm a little, doesn’t it?




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 55: Emotional Cleansing Part 3


Hello! I think the Emotional Cleansing series will be a long one because I have so much to share with you about feeling your emotions fully and releasing them fully and how important this is for your health. You must tend to your INNER emotional environment, because your life is your creation.

Our world is at a great moment of expansion. More and more physicians and scientists are aligning their beliefs and practices with the latest scientific discoveries: thoughts, emotions, intentions and feelings affect the physical body as much as, if not even more, than the foods and liquids ingested, the amount and quality of sleep and the levels of physical activity achieved.

You create your external world with your thoughts and feelings first, because your actions reflect how you feel and what you think.

You think, you feel, you act, you react… these processes create trails in our emotional system.The physical responses to your many emotions vary from well-being to distress, from tightness to release, from inner chemical balance to distortion, from proper organ function to impeded organ function. Every cell responds to your emotional state.

The late Dr. Candace Pert Ph. D. says in her remarkable book “Molecules of Emotion” in Chapter 13 entitled “Truth”:

“The tendency to ignore our emotions is old-think, a remnant of the still-reigning paradigm that keeps us focused on the material level of health, the physicality of it. But the emotions are a key element in self- care because they allow us to enter into the body-mind conversation. By getting in touch with our emotions, both by listening to them and directing them through the psychosomatic network, we gain access to the healing wisdom that is everyone’s natural biological right.

And how do we do this? First by acknowledging and claiming our feelings, not just the so-called positive ones. Anger, grief, fear – these emotional experiences are not negative in themselves; in fact, they are vital for our survival. We need anger to define boundaries, grief to deal with our loses, and fear to protect ourselves from danger. It’s only when these feelings are denied, so that they cannot be easily and rapidly processed through the system and released, that the situation becomes toxic, as discussed earlier. And the more we deny them, the greater the ultimate toxicity, which often takes the form of an explosive release of a pent-up emotion. That’s when emotion can be damaging to oneself and others, because its expression becomes overwhelming, sometimes even violent.

So my advice is to express all of your feelings, regardless of whether you think they are acceptable, and then let them go. Buddhists understand this when they talk about non-grasping, or non-attachment to experience. By letting all emotions having their natural release, the “bad” ones are transformed to “good” ones, and, in Buddhist terms, we are then liberated from suffering. When your emotions are moving and your chemicals flowing, you will experience feelings of freedom, hopefulness, joy, because you are in a healthy, “whole” state.”

This is profound. Read it again and again. We’ll continue tomorrow.