First of all, how do you know you have unresolved emotional issues?
Let me ask you these questions first:
- Are you angry with yourself, your mother or father, your teachers, your siblings or children, your spouse or ex-spouse?
- Do you feel like a victim?
- Are you unable to have a conversation with someone without having to prove yourself?
- DO you feel shame for something you did?
- Do you feel you’re not good enough?
- Are you jealous of other people’s success?
- Do you feel undeserving?
- Are you jealous of your partner/lover/friend/spouse?
- Do you get angry without any apparent reason?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you do have unresolved emotional issues. They prevent you from living your life the way you want it. They create stress and misery. Eventually, if uncleared, they will affect your health.
So what can you do?
Go to the list above and start writing down all the things, events and circumstances you feel that you have unresolved emotional ties to.
This is exactly what I did about 8 years ago: I took a full day of silence, I stayed home and kept writing everything I remembered. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, until I felt that there was nothing more to add to the list.
I then took two differently colored markers, one for big issues and one for small issues, and marked down my list. And then, I started to work through them.
Some days I could only deal with a small thing, and that’s what I did. If I had to tell someone that I was sorry for something I did, I called them or wrote them a note. If I had to tell someone how their actions made me feel hurt or angry, I connected with them and voiced my feelings. If I realized that I could let go of things right then and there, without further action, then I let them go.
And every once in a while, I chose to deal with a bigger issue on my list. If I needed the help and support of a good friend, I asked them to assist me. I also worked with teachers and mentors who helped me make sense of what I was feeling and showed me how to clear my unresolved emotions.
Bottom line is this: I did not stop until I worked through all the things on my list. Some were easy, some required strength and determination on my part, but I DID NOT STOP.
With every single thing crossed off my list, I felt stronger, clearer, more joyful.
I felt proud of myself. My life began to change and reflect my clearer emotional state.
I am now inviting you to take the same steps. You will never look back.
Ask for help when you need it and keep going.
I am holding a strong vision for you: I see you emotionally cleansed and FREE.
And I KNOW you can do it!