DAY 304: The Only Lens You Need

 

camera lensYour emotional cleanliness is like a lens; one large, thick lens. The purpose of a lens, as you know, is to magnify the objects you are looking at. In order for you to see clearly the objects behind it, the lens must be clean.

When you feel strong, supported, loved and encouraged by yourself and others, your lens cleanses itself.

When you feel pain, shame, guilt, when you feel unsupported and unloved by yourself and others your lens becomes milky and opaque, as if dust has settled on it. The more negative feelings you have and hang on to throughout your life, the more dust your lens gathers.

 

In order to feel good, vibrant, alive and stay healthy, you must cleanse your lens!

It is easier than you think. You just meed to want to do it.

Once I understood the importance of the emotional lens, I was determined to keep mine sparkling clean.

I wish the same for you.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 303: Cleansing Your Emotional System

 

cleansingYou need to cleanse and rejuvenate your emotional system in the same manner that you cleanse your body through diet and exercise, through showers and bathing, through sweating and sleeping.

You can do it through meditation, keeping a journal, or simply by sitting alone in a room, relaxing, breathing and getting in touch with how you feel and why.

What matters most is that you are completely honest with yourself about what you feel.

The capacity to respond to life’s flow of events from a place of emotional cleanliness and internal balance exists within you and within everybody else.

Your interactions with others will stem from understanding and compassion, leading to powerful connections that are creative, healing and life changing for yourself and for the people around you.

In that quiet space of inner balance, synchronicity becomes the norm, things flow with ease, solutions present themselves to you and your inner struggle stops.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 302: Emotional Debris Will Get You!

 

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It is only a matter of time before unresolved emotional debris, clutter and distress will change the chemistry of your body, causing symptoms like high blood pressure, overeating or under eating, insomnia, depression, to name just a few.

Emotional debris can and will alter the quality of your life, at all levels: internal well-being, family life, work environment and community.

What creates your internal emotional debris?

Everything that you have not allowed to fully clear your system: childhood experiences, un-shared feelings, a job you do not like, a kid not doing well in school, not enough money, finances, the death of someone dear, not enough time, too much to do, too many requirements, an illness, moving from a house to another, from a city to another, not getting what you want, not having a life partner, something that happened 30 ago.

Un-cleared and unreleased, these stored emotions create many health problems and can ultimately cause a heart attack, depression or a chain of physical injuries.

So let go. Clear. Heal. Forgive. Move on…. And if you do not know how to do that, ask for help.

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 301: Start Fresh!

 

grassYou clean you home, car and office.

You take baths and showers to cleanse your body.

You workout and sweat to release toxins and maybe follow dietary cleansing protocols.

However, you might neglect your emotional cleanliness.

If in this very moment you do not feel good about yourself and your past or current circumstances, you will benefit tremendously from an emotional cleanse.

The cleaner your internal emotional environment is, the better you feel.

Your general, overall sense of fulfillment, well-being, ease and joy depends upon the level of emotional debris that you have been carrying around with you for months or even years.

So you must start fresh. You must cleanse at the emotional level. You must let go of what was or what could have been.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 140: Stop Believing Your Limiting Beliefs

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I am following up on my post entitled What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?Yesterday I wrote about unresolved emotional issues. Today I want to talk to you about limiting beliefs, such as “I am powerless”, “I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, ” I am helpless”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.

Tony Robbins explains:

“What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means. The challenge is that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences.”

Your positive beliefs help you create what you desire. Your limiting, negative beliefs block the way to the life you want to create for yourself. If you want to achieve your goals and reach your dreams, you must break free from your limiting beliefs.

So, as Tony Robbins says, start to question your beliefs:

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing your old, dis-empowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.”

Do you know what your limiting beliefs are? Can you pinpoint them?

Examine your life, determine what is not working according to your liking and you’ve found the areas where you are led by limiting beliefs.

If you can’t figure it out by yourself, ask for help. Work with a personal coach. Find a mentor. But do what you need to do in order to free yourself up from what is holding you back.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 139: Unresolved Emotional Issues? Here’s What You Do.

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First of all, how do you know you have unresolved emotional issues?

Let me ask you these questions first:

  • Are you angry with yourself, your mother or father, your teachers, your siblings or children, your spouse or ex-spouse?
  • Do you feel like a victim?
  • Are you unable to have a conversation with someone without having to prove yourself?
  • DO you feel shame for something you did?
  • Do you feel you’re not good enough?
  • Are you jealous of other people’s success?
  • Do you feel undeserving?
  • Are you jealous of your partner/lover/friend/spouse?
  • Do you get angry without any apparent reason?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you do have unresolved emotional issues. They prevent you from living your life the way you want it. They create stress and misery. Eventually, if uncleared, they will affect your health.

So what can you do?

Go to the list above and start writing down all the things, events and circumstances you feel that you have unresolved emotional ties to.

This is exactly what I did about 8 years ago: I took a full day of silence, I stayed home and kept writing everything I remembered. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote, until I felt that there was nothing more to add to the list.

I then took two differently colored markers, one for big issues and one for small issues, and marked down my list. And then, I started to work through them.

Some days I could only deal with a small thing, and that’s what I did. If I had to tell someone that I was sorry for something I did, I called them or wrote them a note. If I had to tell someone how their actions made me feel hurt or angry, I connected with them and voiced my feelings. If I realized that I could let go of things right then and there, without further action, then I let them go.

And every once in a while, I chose to deal with a bigger issue on my list. If I needed the help and support of a good friend, I asked them to assist me. I also worked with teachers and mentors who helped me make sense of what I was feeling and showed me how to clear my unresolved emotions.

Bottom line is this: I did not stop until I worked through all the things on my list. Some were easy, some required strength and determination on my part, but I DID NOT STOP.

With every single thing crossed off my list, I felt stronger, clearer, more joyful.

I felt proud of myself. My life began to change and reflect my clearer emotional state.

I am now inviting you to take the same steps. You will never look back.

Ask for help when you need it and keep going.

I am holding a strong vision for you: I see you emotionally cleansed and FREE.

And I KNOW you can do it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 138: Clear The Path And Change Your Life

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In yesterday’s post I wrote about things that stand between where you are now and where you desire to be. These things prevent you from creating the life you want. Here’s the little list again. You can add to it or subtract from it, as you please.

  • Unresolved emotional issues
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Physical clutter in your living and working space
  • Lack of clarity and goals
  • Lack of support
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success

I want you think about these things on the list as clutter. Pure clutter. Some emotional, some physical, some mental… but clutter non the less.

What do you think? How does it feel to view them as pure and plain clutter?

It diminishes their power, doesn’t it? It releases your apprehension, don’t you think?

What do you do with clutter?

You clear it!

It might take a few days, a few weeks, a few months or maybe a few years, depending on where you are starting.

But I want you to know that with every little piece cleared and out of the way, your life will change. A small change tomorrow, another one in a few days, a great breakthrough in  a few weeks. The sum of all these changes will increase its power day by day and the momentum will increase many fold.

You will start to notice your life flowing with more ease, you will feel less pressure and less stress, you will feel lighter and happier.

In a few months your life will be so different, that you will want to de-clutter even more.

Start now. Chose one little thing and clear it, let go of it or change your mind about it.

Don’t delay.

Your life is waiting!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 89: My Home

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Today, as I arrived home just a few moments ago, I loved the welcoming feeling that my home gives me. It is colorful, beautiful and it suits my needs. Today I am grateful for my wonderful home. I love everything about it and as I was looking around, I felt myself relaxing and feeling grateful for this space I live in. My home is an extension of me and my energy is reflected in it.

This got me to thinking how important it is to have a welcoming place to come home to after a long busy day.

How does your home feel to you? Is it what you need? Do you like it? Is it cluttered or does the energy flow with ease from room to room? Does it feel like a wonderful space where you can rest, recharge, think and feel at home? Or does your stress level increase when you look around because you see things in disrepair, clutter and lack of beauty?

I want you to feel at home in your own home. Beauty is important. It clears your energy, helps you relax, let go of stress and recharge.

What do you need to do in order to make your home beautiful? Choose a few things that are easy to do right away in order to make your home more welcoming to you. It will make a huge difference.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 88: Road Maps of Desires

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Today is my birthday and I am celebrating…. well, I am celebrating me! I am grateful for all the experiences I’ve had in my life so far, for all the knowledge that I have accumulated and for all the levels of transformation I have gone through until today. I am grateful that I am sharing all this with you. Thank you for being here with me.

There is no greater freedom than being who you are and living your life from a place of power and inner strength. There is so much joy in defining what you truly want and then start taking the steps to make it happen.

I take time to define my new desires and aspirations every year, sometimes even on my birthday, as part of my inner celebration. Why don’t you join me?

Take five sheets of paper and title them:

  • My relationships
  • My career
  • My finances
  • My internal/spiritual life
  • My health
  • My romantic life

I call these the 5 Road Maps Of Desires. On each page write your ultimate desires; do not hold back, start writing, get more paper if you need extra pages, juts keep writing what you would like to have and experience in your life. Keep writing. You can keep changing your mind over and over and add as many details as you can picture in your mind.

I want you to keep adding things to your 5 road maps all this week. Keep your 5 road maps papers handy so that you can keep writing things down.

Write at least 25 things in each one of them. This will start to flex your imagination muscles, so to speak. When I did this exercise for the first time many years back, I realized that it was not that easy to voice what I wanted. I had no idea that I could want many things and I thought that it felt like splurging.

Do you get that? Splurging? It was just writing what I wanted on a piece of paper. I was not in the habit of being clear about what I wanted and I censored my desires even in my thoughts, as if I was not entitled to them.

If this is hard for you right now, just think about this: how are you going to create your desired life, if you cannot even envision it? Let the imagination flow, flex your dreaming muscles and start writing what you want. Start working on your road maps of desires.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 87: Clearing Broken Promises

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There is an extraordinary gift of lightness and clarity that comes from clearing the energy of broken promises. I want you to have this powerful experience and witness the emotional strength and peace that come with it.

Are there any promises that you have made to others or to yourself that you have not kept?

Have you made your list? Good! Wonderful!

This list is not for you to start thinking about how many promises you have not kept and start judging yourself. The purpose of this list is to create the opportunity to go and clear your broken promises, one at a time.

Mark Twain said it so well in “What Is Man?”:

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

Going through your list and assessing, completing and finding ways to keep your promises to yourself and others will create a magnificent sense of inner well being.

You will feel instantly clearer with every promise you honor, because you will have YOUR OWN APPROVAL!

So go through your list and do what you need to do. If there are promises you made that you know you cannot keep, go and talk to the persons you made the promises to, including yourself and explain why you cannot keep your promise.

Find a way to clear the waters of your own conscience and do not let yourself and others wait in vain.

Go and say “I am sorry I promised such a thing to you when I knew I could not keep my promise.” or “I thought I could do it, but the truth is…. Please forgive me. Maybe I could do this for you instead?”

If there are things that you can do to honor some promises, but just did not get around to it, then make it a priority to do them one by one.

Emotional clutter stems partially from the energy of your broken promises. Go and restore the INTEGRITY of each and every one of your promises, one by one, until all your list is clear.

You will be surprised by the sheer power of honoring your word.

I will leave you today with a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.”

Live for yourself, with integrity, clarity and joy. I want you to have your own approval. This is my wish for you.

Love,

Rucsandra