DAY 291: Living From Your SOUL

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Are you living your life or are you allowing yourself to be lived by life?

You see, if you believe that you are at the mercy of your surroundings, then you are “being lived” by them.

Your surroundings have only the power that you are giving them.

In every situation, regardless how challenging, trying or traumatic it might be, you have the power to choose your actions.

Living from your soul means that you show up every day with honesty, integrity, authenticity, compassion and love; without fear, without feeling like a victim, without blame or shame or guilt.

Every single moment of your life is an invitation to raise above the old, the small, and the fearful parts of you.

There is nothing that you cannot do when you live from your soul.

There is nothing to fear when you live from your soul.

There is nothing more that your SOUL desires than for you to live fully, vibrantly, as YOURSELF!

Love,

Rucsandra

DAY 287: Be Kind To Yourself

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How are you treating yourself?

Are you understanding, compassionate, loving and nurturing with yourself?

If you are like most people, compassion and understanding are probably not part of how you are dealing with yourself in your mind and in your heart.

But I want to invite you to change the way you talk to yourself, think of yourself, look at yourself and understand yourself.

Louise Hay teaches people mirror work as a powerful paradigm shifting tool. She teaches people to look at themselves in the mirror every day, look deeply into their own eyes and tell themselves “I love you. I really, really love you.”

I asked some of my clients to do this exercise and they reported back, saying that it was truly hard and some couldn’t even do it.

Can you?

Can you take a deep look into your own eyes every day and say “I love you. I really, really love you.”?

Try it. See what you discover about yourself.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 167: Saying “YES” To Life

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As I was wondering what my today’s post will be about, an image popped into my head: Jim Carrey in the movie Yes Man, standing tall, with his arms outstretched widely towards the sky, shouting “YES!”.

The movie is funny and heart-warming, but its message is powerful: take a chance, say yes, accept life and living fully, be yourself and enjoy the experience.

The character played by Jim Carrey experiences a wonderful transformation. Low on life and depressed, he accepts a challenge to say yes to everything. He has a new motto “Yes is the new no!”. By deciding to open up to life, he finds himself and everything he always desired.

Remembering this movie, I started thinking about the times when I said no because of fear, feeling vulnerable, being afraid of other peoples’ judgment or the so perceived time limitations.

I also thought about all the times that I said yes, with courage and joy, like the idea of writing this blog that is enhancing my life every day through my connection with you!

What did you say no to that could have enriched your life, lifted you up and offered you joy and transformation?

Let’s say YES more, let’s get out of our shells more!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 166: Anger Eclipses The Mind’s Rationality

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I struggled with anger at certain times in my life. Every single time, once the anger was gone, I was left depleted, spent and physically weak.

So I understood in my bones, so to speak, that anger is a destructive force that eats us from the inside out and made a pact with myself to not allow anger to eat away my life force and well-being.

I can still get angry, but I do not stay angry; instead I turn inside, become still and aware and allow anger to wash over me and dissipate.

Anger does not serve me, so I choose to let it go.

From the same article I quoted from yesterday, comes another nugget of clarity and wisdom.

“We should begin by removing the greatest hindrances to compassion: anger and hatred. As we all know, these are extremely powerful emotions and they can overwhelm our entire mind. Nevertheless, they can be controlled. If, however, they are not, these negative emotions will plague us – with no extra effort on their part! – and impede our quest for the happiness of a loving mind.
 
So as a start, it is useful to investigate whether or not anger is of value. Sometimes, when we are discouraged by a difficult situation, anger does seem helpful, appearing to bring with it more energy, confidence and determination.
 
Here, though, we must examine our mental state carefully. While it is true that anger brings extra energy, if we explore the nature of this energy, we discover that it is blind: we cannot be sure whether its result will be positive or negative. This is because anger eclipses the best part of our brain: its rationality. So the energy of anger is almost always unreliable. It can cause an immense amount of destructive, unfortunate behavior. Moreover, if anger increases to the extreme, one becomes like a mad person, acting in ways that are as damaging to oneself as they are to others.
 
It is possible, however, to develop an equally forceful but far more controlled energy with which to handle difficult situations.
 
This controlled energy comes not only from a compassionate attitude, but also from reason and patience. These are the most powerful antidotes to anger. Unfortunately, many people misjudge these qualities as signs of weakness. I believe the opposite to be true: that they are the true signs of inner strength. Compassion is by nature gentle, peaceful and soft, but it is very powerful. It is those who easily lose their patience who are insecure and unstable. Thus, to me, the arousal of anger is a direct sign of weakness.”  – excerpt from Compassion and the Individual by Tenzin Gyatso, The Fourteenth Dalai Lama.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 165: Dalai Lama’s Words On Compassion

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I was pondering on compassion today, and searching the web for quotes and articles. I stopped at an article entitled Compassion and the Individual by Tenzin Gyatso, The Fourteenth Dalai Lama.

Below is an excerpt.

Simple. Clear. Powerful.

The best article I ever found on compassion, from me to you:

“True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.

Of course, developing this kind of compassion is not at all easy!

As a start, let us consider the following facts:

Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering.

Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own.

Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them.

Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.”

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 128: And Because We Are All Connected…

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… the ONLY way to change what we see happening today in our world is to do our own inner work. Each and every one of us. The transformation starts inside, with how we feel and what we think.

Every action we take is driven by our inside world, even when the actions are charitable, well-intentioned and helpful to others.

We are powering our immediate life and our immediate world with our feelings and with our thoughts.

Are you judging yourself? Are you judging others? That judgment propagates outside of yourself and instills judgment in others. Change it inside yourself first, release all judgment. Your transformation will inspire your family, your friends, your co-workers, your neighbors.

I am inviting you right now to stop for a moment and look deep inside yourself, with complete honesty and see who, what and how you are judging yourself and others. Be honest. Just look. Make a commitment to yourself to see it all. You can only change something that you are aware of. So become aware first.

I don’t know what changing the world means: it is too vast; and where do we start; who is going to start; what do we need in order to do that?

But what I know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, is that I can change my inner world, so that there is no judgment.

And you can change your inner world, so that all judgment stops inside you.

And then… you and I together will teach others to release judgment.

Do you see it now?

It starts inside each one of us.

Feels like a lot?

It is not.

It works.

Let’s do it.

TOGETHER!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 127: Why I Am Writing These Posts

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I started this 365 Days of Gratitude blog because I believe that we are all connected in ways we cannot yet comprehend. I believe that as each one of us is shifting the inner perception from the lower vibration feelings (anger, fear, shame, hatred) to the higher vibration feelings (acceptance, love, compassion, forgiveness) we become more aware and we help raise the awareness level for everyone around us.

As I am writing my posts everyday I feel connected with you; because of this connection I write with ease.  My words might inspire you to be more, do more, create more; or my words might challenge your belief systems and offer you a different point of view.

Regardless of the fact that you agree with what I am saying or not, as I am writing, I am becoming more authentic and my inner essence becomes more visible to you; as you are opening yourself up to reading something new, as you are willing to contemplate the possibility of a different way of being you allow more of who you truly are to come to the surface.

Our connection allows us both to become less afraid of showing the world who we are and what we can do. Because we are connected, the subtle energy field between us becomes less opaque; it becomes stronger, clearer and more vibrant. And in turn, it starts to affect the people around me and the people around you.

These wonderful ripples of awareness and connection intensify the desire to transcend what we think are our limitations. We raise each other up.

So you see, I write my daily posts because I AM CONNECTED WITH YOU.

Love,

Rucsandra