365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 148: The Stepladder To Your Dream


What happens when the distance between where you are right now and where you want to be seems so big that you don’t even believe it is possible to achieve your dreams?

Most people give up on their dreams because they seem unattainable. Their dreams seem to be impossible to reach because they don’t know about the magic stepladder.

Do YOU know that there is a magic stepladder?

There is and this is how you use it, one dream at a time:

  1. Take a piece of paper and draw a diagonal line in the middle of it
  2. At the lower, left end of the line write “Now” and define where you are right now
  3. At the higher, right end of the line write “My Dream” and write down what that is
  4. And then start working your way backwards: what would your life look like right before you achieve your goal; what would need to be in place in order to be in that moment, just days or weeks before your dream comes true.  Write what that looks like, on the diagonal line, lower than your dream.
  5. Then, define the moment before the last one and where you would need to be to ensure the following steps; write is down too.
  6. Keep deconstructing and going backwards until you reach the present day
  7. Now imagine every thing you wrote down as being a step
  8. Voila! You now know exactly what your next step needs to be in order to achieve what you dream of. You have a plan, broken down in smaller pieces, that can be broken in smaller pieces still, if you need to.
  9. Take that first step and you are on your way.

It might take a couple of hours or maybe more to create your stepladder, but once you have it, all you need to do is take one step, and then another, and then another. And don’t stop until you create what you want.

If you need help with some steps, ask for it.

Don’t be shy: this is your dream we are talking about!



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 147: What I Know For Sure


What I know for sure is that I am in charge of my own life.

You are in charge of your own life as well; I believe that with every cell of my body.

Each one of us is creating our lives through our beliefs and through our day to day actions.

If until now you thought that you were at the mercy of others, or at the mercy of your circumstances, I want to invite you to ponder a different paradigm.

Right here and right now, consider that there is a possibility that YOU are in charge.

Even if you do not believe it in this very moment, even if people you trusted told you otherwise, I am inviting you to entertain the possibility that this might be true: you are the sole creator of your life.

Even if it is hard for you to believe it right now, even if so far you had experiences that you believe taught you otherwise, choose to consider that what I am saying might be true.

If the life you are living right now is not your desired one and if what you have tried so far in order to create something different has not worked, try a new perspective, as outrageous as it might now seem.

What if you were in charge?

What if you got to create what you really want?

What if you actually had the power to make it happen?

What if… what if… what if…?

Fill in the blanks and just ponder on them for now.

Your pondering has the power to shift your belief system.



What if?



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 137: What Stands Between You And The Life You Want?


The distance between where you are right now and where you desire to be is in direct proportion with a few things. Here’s a little list, and if you think is not complete, please feel free to add or subtract from it:

  • Unresolved emotional issues (anger, blame, shame, etc.)
  • Limiting beliefs (“I am not good enough”, “I do not deserve it”, “I can’t”, “Others are to blame for this, not me”, “Money is hard to come around”, “I am not lovable”, etc.)
  • Physical clutter (your desk, your office, your car and your home reflect your energy and can either help you or hinder your efforts)
  • Lack of clarity and goals (nothing can be achieved if you don’t sit down and decide to make a plan and follow it)
  • Lack of support (asking for help does not mean you are weak, but that you are determined to achieve what you want and if somebody can help you with that, then you will get their help; we are not meant to live in a vacuum or reinvent the wheel all the time)
  • Failing to acknowledge and celebrate your success (this is a big one! celebrating and being proud of your accomplishments lift you up and increase your energy and self esteem)

So start right here, right now.

Agree or disagree.

But do start thinking about it.

Contemplate it.

Have an opinion about it.

Start right now and right here.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 96: What If You Actually Chose Your Life?


OK, I know, you might be raising your eyebrows and get into a battle mood: “What do you mean: I chose my life? How could I have chosen this? Do you know what I have been through, what I had to endure? Do you know the pain, the hardship, the trauma that my life has given me?”.

Please do not be offended, and please do keep reading. I get it, I felt it, I know it. I’ve seen it. Life has been truly hard for some people and I cannot even begin to understand the trials and the tears some people experienced in their lives. What I want to offer you right now is a twist in the plot that might offer you a different perspective.

So stay with me on this. Just be open to look at things from a different perspective, just be willing to contemplate a different point of view.

What if you did choose all this? What would this mean? Where would that lead you?

If we stay in the paradigm that you actually chose your life, then there must be a reason behind your choosing. There must be something that made you decide to have the experiences you’ve been having. So if we stay on this reasoning path, what did these experiences teach you? How did you grow as a result of what you had to deal with? Where did your life take you? What were the gifts, the blessings and the extraordinary? Do think about it. Allow this perspective to open up the possibility of understanding your life in a completely different way. Ponder it, even if you don’t agree. Allow yourself to ponder, to wonder, to discover, to reframe, to rethink and to start understanding something deeper and more powerful than you have ever felt before.

Allow. Ponder. Contemplate. There are hidden gifts in doing that.


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