365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 12: Awakening

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A client asked me a few days ago: “How do we help? There are so many people in the world who need help, it feels really  overwhelming. I contribute to a few charities; what else can I do? It is daunting.”

My response is the subject for today’s gratitude post. I am grateful for the understanding I have come to have that I must bring transformation and awareness in myself first if I want to contribute to our world in a positive and powerful manner.

Every single one of us is part of the grand tapestry of humanity. We are energetically connected, whether we believe it or not, and so we have an extraordinary power to influence our common energetic field. The key is to start with ourselves, to clear away what is negative and dark inside ourselves. We need to learn to unconditionally love ourselves before we can unconditionally love others. We must look at ourselves with compassion and understanding because if we cannot, we are not ready to be compassionate towards others.

We change the world by changing our inner selves. We help humanity by letting go of judgement toward ourselves and others, by being honest with ourselves and others; by showing compassion and kindness for ourselves and for others. If we do all that, then the energy we put out into our immediate world of family and friends becomes a healing energy, which will ignite transformation in those we love first.  And that will propagate in many directions, in waves and waves throughout larger communities, into the greater energetic field of humanity.

How appropriate it is that I found this quote on Facebook today: “If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation.”~Lao Tzu

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 11: Fork in the Road

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Yesterday I read these words: “Be not afraid of growing slowly. Be afraid only of standing still.” This got me thinking about what I call the Transformation Point and the Fork in the Road. A few years back I wrote a little article about these two concepts, because their importance once understood, allowed me to be more present during key moments in my life. Today I re-edited it for you.

Throughout my life I was stretched to the limit by certain circumstances and events. I am very grateful for all these moments, because each one held within a Transformation Point. A Transformation Point refers to what I chose in order to end my struggle to steady a rocking boat:

  • Repeat old behaviors and patterns and remain where I was, or
  • Abandon that sinking ship of limitation and transform my life

The Transformation Point, suspended in time and space, requires a leap of faith. Sometimes, out of fear, we remain at the fork for a long time, unable to move, but eventually life will force us to decide one way or another.

How do you know that you are making the decision that will lead to your transformation and growth? It is very simple. How you feel about it gives you the answer:

  • If you feel a sense of dread, exhaustion and heaviness, this is an indication that you are choosing the same thoughts and behaviors again. It feels safer to do and think what you have always done and thought, but by doing so you bypass the Transformation Point and remain where you were before the Fork in the Road appeared on your life’s path.
  • If you feel a sense of anticipation, excitement and ease, you are choosing to evolve, to transform, to move forward. Going through the Transformation Point requires determination and patience but all you need to do is take that first step and then big leaps become possible. All the pieces start fitting together and life gets easier and a lot more fun.

A FORK IN THE ROAD is a beautiful and powerful reminder that you can always choose what your next experiences will be. May you always choose to evolve and move towards a higher vibration of health and fulfillment, with joyous experiences and wide open hearts!

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 10: Big Leaps

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Today’s post is dedicated to all my teachers and mentors. Thank you for your knowledge, passion, compassion and dedication. You guided me, helped me see beyond my awareness and challenged me to grow, to be more to do more. Thank you!

Albert Einstein’s famous quote states that: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

My mentors helped me transcend my current state by expanding my awareness. I’ve had worked with many mentors in the past 17 years, in all aspects of who I am (physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and energetic) and in all areas of my life (business, personal, financial), depending on what my current challenge was at the time and what I wanted to achieve. Coming in contact with and learning from someone who is already where I am aspiring to be reveals a new horizon in front of my eyes.

Meeting the right mentor generates a powerful transfer of energy that takes me to the next level in my own evolution, in one big leap. Powerful mentors taught me how to go inside myself in places that I was not comfortable with. Skilled and compassionate mentors inspired me to boldly and simply live my life as ME.

It is absolutely true: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” A new mentor can reach my awareness, quite randomly it might seem, but I know that randomness has nothing to do with it. When I am ready to leave behind limiting beliefs, thoughts and habits that do not serve me anymore and to take one big step forward in the direction of my dreams, my intention/vibration reaches out and finds my new mentor.

I open myself up to avenues of action that are out of my comfort zone, because my mentors point out directions unknown to me before. And, it all happens in ONE BIG LEAP of awareness. Because my mentors have already transcended my current situation, they can teach me what I cannot yet see by myself.

Why do we need a mentor? To be able TO SEE BEYOND what we currently know!

Is there an area of your life that you want to shift in one big leap? Are you ready to move in the direction of your dreams? Then open yourself up to the possibility and when your mentor is revealed to you, take action! Follow your inner guidance right then and there. Leave fear behind and approach your mentor. Only wonderful things will come from your inspired action. Your life will be transformed.

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 9: The 90-Second Rule

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I am very grateful for having found out, a few years back about the 90-Second Rule in Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor‘s book “My Stroke of Insight”. I talked about this book before, in my post about my sister Ioana. Today I want to share with you the 90-Second Rule, because it changed how I deal with my emotions and maybe it will help you too.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained brain scientist, suffered a stroke at the age of 37. She had the rare opportunity as a scientist to study the working of her own brain at first-hand from the inside out. In her recovery process, she witnessed her emotional responses to different stimuli and she determined that it only took 90 seconds to have an emotional circuit triggered, flush a physiological response through the body and then flush it completely out of the system.

She calls it THE 90-SECOND RULE. She says: “We can all learn that we can take full responsibility for what thoughts we are thinking and what emotional circuitry we are feeling. Knowing this and acting on this can lead us into feeling a wonderful sense of well-being and peacefulness.”

Dr. Taylor goes on saying that it does not matter if it is the fear circuitry or the anger circuitry or even the joy circuitry: “…it is really hard to hold a good belly laugh for more than 90 seconds naturally. The 90-second rule is totally empowering. That means for 90 seconds, I can watch this happen, I can feel this happen and I can watch it go away. After that, if I continue to feel that fear or feel that anger, I need to look at the thoughts I am thinking that are re-stimulating that circuitry that is resulting in me having this physiology over and over again.”

Isn’t that something that you are glad to have found out? I know that for me it was like a lightning bolt struck my awareness and shifted my perception about emotional processes and releasing mechanisms.

In 90 seconds, the brain and the entire physiology are DONE with the emotional response to fear, joy, despair, happiness, anger and so on. It is what WE CHOOSE TO THINK AFTER THAT 90 SECOND PERIOD that determines our emotional cleanliness or the ever growing piles of emotional debris.

It takes less than two minutes to let go. Isn’t this remarkable? Isn’t this powerful and empowering? Try it. I have and it changed my awareness.

I will leave you today with a a quote from one of the first tenured women at the Harvard Business School, Shoshana Zuboff who earned her Ph.D. in social psychology from Harvard University and her B.A. in philosophy from the University of Chicago:

“Awareness requires a rupture with the world we take for granted; then old categories of experience are called into question and revised.”

 

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 8: Spider

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Day 8 today! I love the moment of inspiration that sent me on this journey of gratitude. I look forward to every day, to every post and never know ahead of time what the posts will be about, until they reveal themselves to me. I start writing about something only to be deterred by a different topic, that pushes its energy to the surface and takes over my post.

It happened again this morning. I was typing my first sentences of what I thought was going to be my post today, when my laptop decided it was time to install updates and proceeded to do just that, closing my browser and my post, before I could even save the last written paragraphs.

So, again, off I went to do something else and left my laptop to get up to date. That is when I saw the spider again, making its way down on a door frame. The tiny spider I first saw on the ceiling above the bed, when I woke up this morning. I live in a high rise building, spiders or other insects are not a common occurrence. Will I write about the spider today, I wondered? As I usually do in a situation like this, I decided that if I saw it again (for the third time, in less than an hour), I will write about it. And a few minutes later there it was again, not because I was searching for it, but because it popped into my field of vision on the ceiling in the hallway. This is it! The topic today is Spider, as in the energy and symbolism of the Spider.

The Native Indians believe that animals carry powerful lessons, signs, warnings and messages; they read the signs, translate their messages and take into account the knowledge embedded in them. I believe the same, because animals kept sharing their wisdom, messages, signs and symbolism with me. All I had to do is remain open minded, pay attention and do not ignore their appearance in my life. If this is something new for you, I will ask you to do the same: remain open minded. Today I am writing about Spider because it chose to show itself to me three times this morning.

The Spider is a powerful figure of feminine energy, creativity, power and growth. Spiders are skillfully weaving intricate webs and patiently awaiting their prey. When the Spider appears, it is a reminder to connect with life’s ebbs and flows and pay attention to the choices that construct our lives. Weave with skill and be patient – the spider told me this morning. A perfect message for me right now, as I was thinking about a couple of my projects and why they take longer to come to fruition. The animal kingdom and its powerful messages are always right on the topic. This blog provides a wonderful outlet for my creativity and I am grateful.

If you find yourself intrigued by this concept, make a decision to pay attention to signs such as this. Through my blog, Spider has a message for you as well and it is up to you to decipher it. There are many websites you can visit to find out about animal symbolism; just search the particular animal/bird/insect and next to it add the words “animal totem”. Read the information you find, but keep in mind that ultimately, it is a personal message that they carry for each one of us, so it is up to us to find the true meaning. Just stay open and entertain the possibility. If you don’t resonate with this at all, then do nothing.

I am grateful for the message from Spider. Everything has perfect timing, and our experiences are perfect just as they are. Thank you Spider, for the reminder to be playful and enjoy my creativity; to do my work, be mindful, present and patient.

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 6: My Body (part 1)

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My physical body proved to be my invaluable teacher. Given the fact that for 25 years I have been teaching people how to move better in order to get out of discomfort and pain and how to heal on all levels of their being, my personal lessons served my clients as well. If I were to write about it all today, it would make for a really long read, so these posts will be spread throughout the year.

Lesson 1

In the late ’90s, I studied Classical Pilates with Dianne Miller in Vancouver. During one of the morning workouts with my peers, my lower back started to release and move with more ease and freedom than I have ever felt before. In the afternoon we were in class, studying anatomy and practicing our teaching skills when my back seized up. I was in trouble and I was in pain. Not wanting to disturb the class, I made my way to the washroom; I did not know what to do, so I just stood there. My spine was locked, my lower back and hips throbbed with what felt like someone jabbing a sharp object into my muscles. I started to cry slowly, because I hurt and because initially I was scared. This was the beginning of a wonderful experience of emotional release brought about by a physical release.

My quiet crying soon became loud sobbing, interrupted only by the fact that I felt embarrassed and tried to make less noise. I could not stop sobbing, and gasped for air as tears flowed out of my eyes and down my cheeks in abundant streams; did not even know why I was crying and that was strange, but I discovered that my back was not hurting anymore and I could again move with ease. After a few more minutes the crying stopped. What had just happened? I  had no idea, but decided to accept it as it was and return to my class. All was fine until about an hour later when the whole cycle started again: back spasm and pain, trip to the washroom, uncontrolled and un-consolable sobbing, complete release of pain and discomfort and the return to my class in a calm, non-sobbing state. This happened over and over for three days, at larger and larger intervals of time. I only had two choices, it seemed: to cry and feel great in my body, or to be in pain. What a remarkable mechanism! My body initiated a powerful physical and emotional release and I allowed it to unfold without being afraid. When the process was complete my body felt light, mobile and at ease.

I am grateful for my body teaching me this method of multi-level, simultaneous release. It was an intense experience, but in the absence of fear, the realignment of the body took place unobstructed; the emotional residues trapped in the tissues were released without the need to be looked at or examined. This was a flawless process, orchestrated by the innate knowledge of the physical body. The only thing required was my awareness in action.