DAY 291: Living From Your SOUL


Are you living your life or are you allowing yourself to be lived by life?

You see, if you believe that you are at the mercy of your surroundings, then you are “being lived” by them.

Your surroundings have only the power that you are giving them.

In every situation, regardless how challenging, trying or traumatic it might be, you have the power to choose your actions.

Living from your soul means that you show up every day with honesty, integrity, authenticity, compassion and love; without fear, without feeling like a victim, without blame or shame or guilt.

Every single moment of your life is an invitation to raise above the old, the small, and the fearful parts of you.

There is nothing that you cannot do when you live from your soul.

There is nothing to fear when you live from your soul.

There is nothing more that your SOUL desires than for you to live fully, vibrantly, as YOURSELF!



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 125: What Are You Looking Forward To?


Is there something that you are looking forward to? Is there anything scheduled later during this year that makes you feel excited? Something that you are planning or have been dreaming of for some time?

When you are excited and are genuinely looking forward to an event, such as a vacation to a wonderful place or a gathering with people you love and who love you, starting a business or changing your career, your system is flushed with hormones that improve your health and vitality. You are also sending your energy forward with excitement, positive expectation and optimism. As a result, life seems to flow with more ease and things get easier.

The opposite is also true, when you have nothing to anticipate and be excited about, or worse still, when you are dreading the upcoming events, the stress hormones released in your body diminish your well-being and can seriously damage your health; especially as your life situation stays the same over a long period of time. When you have nothing to look forward to, days seem to drag slowly one after the other, you wake up and don’t feel like starting your day, obstacles seem to be around every corner and life seems hard.

So my question for you today is: “What are you looking for in the next three months, six months, nine months? Anything?”.

If you have nothing to feel excited about, I want you to make a decision right now to start planning something next week. Decide what that is, choose a time frame and then start writing down the steps that will get you there.

The reason things stay the same and nothing exciting happens is because people do not take the time to envision and plan for a change.

So ask yourself what would bring you joy and excitement and then start moving in  that direction.

Do not say that you have no time or no money. The resources you will need will come to you as you send your desires into the Universe.

Send the desire out.

Make a plan.

Take the first step.

Then take the next.

Feel your excitement grow.

Start to notice the changes in your life.





I want you to be content with being YOU.

I want you to feel peace inside your mind, calmness within your emotional body, connection with your spiritual self, health in your physical body, balance and clarity in your energetic field. This is my pure, heart felt desire for you, because I want you to feel free, to unleash your beauty and your creative powers and to contribute your genius to the world!

From what I see everyday, most people are in such internal turmoil that nothing seems to work in their lives the way they truly want. Because they are consumed by their inner struggles they are too exhausted to ignite great transformation in their lives.

Healing your body, finding your perfect partner, healing your relationships, creating a successful and thriving business, clearing old hurt and pain, living with joy and with purpose require your energy, concentration and determination. If you are drained and worn out by fighting with yourself, you have no resources for creating your life your way.

What if you stop criticizing yourself, blaming yourself for one thing or another, judging and condemning your thoughts, your looks or your choices?

What if you start approving of yourself more?

What if you contemplate the possibility of being even content with yourself sometime soon?

How’s that sound?

Think about it.

What if?



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 123: Want Answers? Be OK With Not Having Them!


This is a very interesting fact: finding out what to do next, what path to take from now on or getting the solution you are looking for depends on how comfortable you are with not knowing.

Sounds paradoxical? It is not.

I know how you feel if you are under pressure to know what your next step will be. I know the feeling very well, because I used to toss and turn and drive myself exhausted by trying to figure out what I was supposed to do in various situations. I’ve learned a lot since those days of continuous turmoil.

What I found out is this: the more I relaxed into not knowing the answers just yet, the more I released resistance; and because I releases resistance what I wanted to know was revealed to me.

Try it. Relax. Start accepting that it is OK to not know for a while. Releasing resistance towards the “not knowing” state allows you be in a receptive state, where you are not going against the current of life and therefore solutions and answers are able to come to you with less obstacles.

Eckhart Tolle says:

“Being at ease with not knowing is crucial for answers to come to you.”

If you find it hard to accept and believe, start with what I always advise you to start with: take a first step; think of the first level you can accept and go from there. For example, start by saying to yourself: “Well, I do not believe this ‘feeling at ease with not knowing’ concept, but maybe I’ll read more about it; in the meantime, I will accept the fact that it works for other people. And if it works for them, maybe it can work for me as well. It would sure be nice to feel less stressed out in situations when I do not know what to do yet.”

As I always say: start somewhere.

Accept that there might be something that will work better, even if you haven’t heard about it before.

Entertain the new idea.

Contemplate the possibility, as Dr. Wayne Dyer says.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 122: Your Spiritual Body


Spirituality… Religion… Atheism… Or anything else that is in between… No one way is the right way, the only way. I have met atheists who are kind, centered, believe in the spirit of the humankind and conduct themselves in a truly authentic manner. I am sure you met them too. On the other hand, I have met people who are religious or spiritual and like to gossip, to get ahead of their fellow humans by all means necessary, who lie if it serves their purposes.

So I say that it does not matter what category we choose to adhere to, as long as we are authentic, we live our lives with integrity inside and out and we respect ourselves, all people and all living things. We might decide to go to church, or to chant mantras every Sunday and yet, disrespect ourselves and others. Or we might proclaim ourselves atheists and live lives of meaning and purpose, serving other people and leaving a powerful legacy as we pass on.

What I call the Spiritual Body is that part of you that has the choice. Will you choose to tell the truth or lie? Will you choose to be kind and compassionate or judgmental? Will you choose to treat yourself with respect or will you continue to use diminishing words towards yourself and others?

You can always raise above the current situation and think, act and behave with authenticity and integrity. You can always choose kinder words, softer actions, even when you feel hurt. YOU can always choose.

Your Spiritual Body is the part of you that knows the way.

Listen to it.

Pay attention.

Follow it.




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 108: Giving It Your All


Giving it your all in every moment does not mean that you work harder, push more, get more done and cross things off your list faster. What it means is that you open yourself up more, that you allow yourself to be fully present, that you decide to give yourself and others a break, that you choose to really hear what others say to you and what you say to yourself. It might seem like an easy thing to do, but from what I see, very few people are able to do that. Why? Because being present means that they become aware of themselves and what they are truly feeling. And that scares them.

How about you decide right now that you are willing to be more present? You do not need to make big promises to yourself, just be willing to do something different.

Your willingness to allow a different way of being will start to change things in your life. You will slowly start to feel more ease, more flow and less strife; your relationships will improve and you will experience synchronicity.

I say, go for it! It is worth giving it a try.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 107: Are You Giving It Your All?


Tonight I sat in front of my computer, ready to write my next entry and I started to relax (as I always do before I write my posts), because I trust the process of writing  my 365 days gratitude blog. As I sat quietly for a few moments, allowing inspiration to kick in, I realized that one of the reasons why life flows with grace and ease for me is because I am giving it my all, in every single moment.

What I want to share with you is this: one of the most powerful and effective ways to shift a situation, to change an outcome and to create what you truly desire is to acknowledge and appreciate what you are living right now; even when what you are going through in the moment is challenging, hurtful, hard or disheartening. If you are giving it your all, you are saying yes to life, you are appreciating that life has ups and down and most of all, you are committing yourself to living fully, authentically, without holding back, without laying blame, without feeling trapped.

In this very moment ask yourself: are you giving it your all? Are you fully present, are you acknowledging what is without fear, without judgment, without blame?

Just ask yourself these questions and allow the answers to come to you. Breathe. Ask. Allow. Hear the answers.

I will come back with more tomorrow.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 91: What do YOU want?


Do you know what you want? Do you sometimes look at your life and see if it is satisfying to you in all its aspects? Do you share love freely, are you of service to others, do you make enough money to be well taken care of, is your body healthy and vibrant? Is there anything you really want but have not even allowed yourself to think about how you can get it?

Start now. Think about what is working and what is not. Cherish what is working and look at what is not with compassion. And then make a plan to start changing what you want to be different.

The truth is that we do not have a lot of time here, on Earth. What we do have is the capacity to create our lives in such a way that one day, when we look back, we can feel at peace, happy and proud with our courage, tenacity, compassion and determination.

One day in the future, when I get to take my last breath I want to say to myself “Well done, Rucsandra. Well done.” and really mean it.

Think about it: what would you like to say to yourself on that day? And then go do what you need to do so that you will be able to say those words to yourself and really mean them.


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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 90: What Happens When You Raise The Bar For Yourself?


Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You have been part of my gratitude journey for three months! Today is day 90 and I am very grateful for your comments and questions and for sharing my blog with your friends and family.

So what happens when you decide to raise the bar for yourself? What I mean by raising the bar is not necessarily that you decide to set a new high goal for yourself, although I am not excluding this scenario. What I mean is deciding in this very moment to not be less than you are right now: to not allow other people to be disrespectful towards you and to not disrespect others with your words or actions, or even in your mind; to not allow yourself to be judgemental towards yourself and others; to not lie to yourself and to others anymore; in other words, to be authentic, honest and live this very moment with integrity.

When you raise the bar, effortlessly and gracefully your life starts to change. The extraordinary happens. You feel more ease, more lightness, more peace. You feel immediately stronger and even the strength of your physical body increases.

I raised the bar today. Will you join me?


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365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 86: Promises You Did Not Keep


There is a great tool that I have used to help me clear emotional clutter, doubts and fears. What I am sharing with you today is powerful and quite easy to do; all it requires is your desire to examine your life with no judgment, understanding and compassion.

I want to go back to the concept of authenticity I wrote about yesterday. Authenticity implies integrity. In order to honor yourself and be authentic you must learn to keep your promises to yourself and others.

You must be able to trust yourself.

Are there still areas of your life where you are not yet authentic? Make a list so that in the upcoming weeks and months you can do what you need to do in order to create full authenticity in your life. Take it one step at a time and clear everything that keeps you apart from your authentic self.

Are there any promises that you have made to others or to yourself that you have not kept? Make a list of all these things. Do not judge yourself for what you find. Make your list and set it aside. Being aware of your patterns and getting out of the habit of ignoring things that nudge at you will strengthen you emotionally and will clear away layers and layers of emotional clutter.

I will talk more about integrity and its sheer POWER in tomorrow’s post.