Chapter 5 in the the book Holistic Wellness In The NewAge is entitled “The Willingness Process” and it is written by Jane Kirby.
Jane Kirby is a qualified therapist, international trauma counselor and the creator of The Willingness Process modality. She works full time as a counselor, public speaker, master workshop facilitator, author and master trainer of the NewAge Foundation. She lives in Zambia with her husband Chad. www.janekirby.info
“I would love to share with you a personal story about a meeting I had with the Dalai Lama. […] So my question was:
“How does one best help somebody if they are battling with low self-esteem and beating themselves up? What’s the best thing that one can do to be of assistance?” […]
I was lucky enough that my question got passed forward and the following is the Dalai Lama’s response:
“The first thing that you need to know is that even if Buddha himself came down to assist you with someone, if that person themselves is unwilling to heal, then there is really nothing that can be done to help them.”
She also says that within the truth of His Holiness’ words there was a beautiful dichotomy, which is that the opposite is also completely true:
“When anyone is really willing … then healing can happen and fights can end so rapidly that it can almost spin one’s head.”