365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 167: Saying “YES” To Life

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As I was wondering what my today’s post will be about, an image popped into my head: Jim Carrey in the movie Yes Man, standing tall, with his arms outstretched widely towards the sky, shouting “YES!”.

The movie is funny and heart-warming, but its message is powerful: take a chance, say yes, accept life and living fully, be yourself and enjoy the experience.

The character played by Jim Carrey experiences a wonderful transformation. Low on life and depressed, he accepts a challenge to say yes to everything. He has a new motto “Yes is the new no!”. By deciding to open up to life, he finds himself and everything he always desired.

Remembering this movie, I started thinking about the times when I said no because of fear, feeling vulnerable, being afraid of other peoples’ judgment or the so perceived time limitations.

I also thought about all the times that I said yes, with courage and joy, like the idea of writing this blog that is enhancing my life every day through my connection with you!

What did you say no to that could have enriched your life, lifted you up and offered you joy and transformation?

Let’s say YES more, let’s get out of our shells more!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 166: Anger Eclipses The Mind’s Rationality

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I struggled with anger at certain times in my life. Every single time, once the anger was gone, I was left depleted, spent and physically weak.

So I understood in my bones, so to speak, that anger is a destructive force that eats us from the inside out and made a pact with myself to not allow anger to eat away my life force and well-being.

I can still get angry, but I do not stay angry; instead I turn inside, become still and aware and allow anger to wash over me and dissipate.

Anger does not serve me, so I choose to let it go.

From the same article I quoted from yesterday, comes another nugget of clarity and wisdom.

“We should begin by removing the greatest hindrances to compassion: anger and hatred. As we all know, these are extremely powerful emotions and they can overwhelm our entire mind. Nevertheless, they can be controlled. If, however, they are not, these negative emotions will plague us – with no extra effort on their part! – and impede our quest for the happiness of a loving mind.
 
So as a start, it is useful to investigate whether or not anger is of value. Sometimes, when we are discouraged by a difficult situation, anger does seem helpful, appearing to bring with it more energy, confidence and determination.
 
Here, though, we must examine our mental state carefully. While it is true that anger brings extra energy, if we explore the nature of this energy, we discover that it is blind: we cannot be sure whether its result will be positive or negative. This is because anger eclipses the best part of our brain: its rationality. So the energy of anger is almost always unreliable. It can cause an immense amount of destructive, unfortunate behavior. Moreover, if anger increases to the extreme, one becomes like a mad person, acting in ways that are as damaging to oneself as they are to others.
 
It is possible, however, to develop an equally forceful but far more controlled energy with which to handle difficult situations.
 
This controlled energy comes not only from a compassionate attitude, but also from reason and patience. These are the most powerful antidotes to anger. Unfortunately, many people misjudge these qualities as signs of weakness. I believe the opposite to be true: that they are the true signs of inner strength. Compassion is by nature gentle, peaceful and soft, but it is very powerful. It is those who easily lose their patience who are insecure and unstable. Thus, to me, the arousal of anger is a direct sign of weakness.”  – excerpt from Compassion and the Individual by Tenzin Gyatso, The Fourteenth Dalai Lama.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 165: Dalai Lama’s Words On Compassion

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I was pondering on compassion today, and searching the web for quotes and articles. I stopped at an article entitled Compassion and the Individual by Tenzin Gyatso, The Fourteenth Dalai Lama.

Below is an excerpt.

Simple. Clear. Powerful.

The best article I ever found on compassion, from me to you:

“True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.

Of course, developing this kind of compassion is not at all easy!

As a start, let us consider the following facts:

Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering.

Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own.

Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them.

Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.”

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 164: Back Pain? What About Your Thoughts?

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Do you know anyone who suffers from some sort of back pain? Do you?

I have been teaching people how to heal their bodies for 20 years and I have seen the same thing over and over: there is a very close relationship between the quality of the thoughts they have and the amount of pain they experience.

If you are indeed in a lot of back pain right now, you might get angry with what I am saying and refuse to read any further.

Please, let me invite you to keep reading.

There are many reasons why you have come to your current conclusions about your back pain, the ins and outs of it, the initial cause and your diagnostic.

As I wrote in my two last posts, your thoughts have the power to change your reality, including your back pain.

Of course, proper care, diet, hydration, exercises and treatment will help you heal.

But, if your thoughts are negative and dominated by fear, they will continue to create pain and the money you spend on medication and treatments will not be put to good work.

The part of you that is negative will fight the part of you that wants to heal.

Who wins in the end?

The one that you nourish with your thoughts day after day after day.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 163: Want Proof That Your Thoughts Create Your Life?

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Neville Goddard (you can Google him) said:

“Man’s chief delusion is his conviction that there are other causes other than his own state of consciousness.”

“For life makes no mistakes and always gives man that which man first gives himself.”

“Because of your belief in external things you think power into them by transferring the power that you are to the external thing. Realize you yourself are the power you have mistakenly given to outer conditions.”

Did you just read these three quotes and your mind said: blah, blah, blah?

You want some proof, right?

I wanted proof too. Many years ago, I started to ask for proof and I had it, over and over again; unquestionable and undeniable proof.

Let me introduce you a little book that might change your life: “E-Squared” by Pam Grout. Buy it. Read it. I wish I had this book 30 years ago. It would have made it a lot easier for me to understand and improve my practice of thought created experiences.

I am happy that this book has been written, and I hope you do get it.

It contains nine do-it-yourself energy experiments that prove that your thoughts create your reality.

You want proof?

Ask for it!

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 162: Thoughts Create Your Reality: Want Proof?

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I am sure you’ve heard many times that your thoughts have indeed the power to change your experiences.

Your day to day reality is determined by your day to day thoughts.

You might believe this or not, but here’s the thing: if you take an area of your life, say career, is it what you really want? If it is, examine what your thoughts are with respect to your career. You will find that they are uplifting, positive and self affirming thoughts: you love what you do, you are proud of your accomplishments, you are looking forward to new things and welcome every challenge with a light heart and trust that you will find the answer. Or something like that.

Now, let’s say that your relationships area is lacking or giving you trouble; one or more or more of your relationships are not what you want. Examine your thoughts with respect to these relationships and you will find them to be negative, diminishing and low energy: you are frustrated, you judge the other person, you want them to change, to do things differently, you resent certain behaviors they have, you lack patience, losing faith, etc.

Your thought are different with respect to the two area of your life, aren’t they?

You might now say that they are different because the situations are different.

I will disagree and say it the other way around: the situations are different – one that you like and one that you do not – BECAUSE your thoughts are different.

Ponder on this for today.

Tomorrow I will tell you how to find the proof you need in order to change your mind and start thinking your way to what you want.

Love,

Rucsandra

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 161: Gratitude Changes Everything!

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What do you usually do when you feel upset, discouraged or less than someone else?

I can tell you what I used to do before I understood how gratitude shifts the internal compass from doom and gloom to a lighter more uplifted state: I used to just sit in it, bathed in my own misery, felt sorry for myself and got exhausted.

This is exactly what most people do, not because they want to be miserable, but because they think that they do not have a choice. They do not know that there is an alternative and that they have the power to change their emotional state.

But, there is ALWAYS a choice: gratitude.

This is how it works: when you feel low and unhappy, start finding things that you can be grateful for and list them, in your mind or on paper.

It is not as hard as you might think: be grateful for a warm home in the winter, for a beautiful meal, for the store who provided the ingredients for your meal, for the stove that cooks your food, for the wood of your desk, for the computer you use every day, for a manicure, for a pair of sky boots, for a plant that brings you joy, for a book that someone wrote so that you can read, for a candle on the table, for a wonderful painting that you look at every day, for your toothbrush that keeps your teeth clean, for your favorite armchair, for the people who created and sold you the iPhone you love, for the vacation you took, for a kind word, for an embrace, for a smile, for a hand of help, for the electricity that keeps your life running, for your health, for a glass of champagne, for a mushroom, for an omelette, for a friend, for a lover, for a parent, for someone who inspired you, for your first kiss, your first orgasm, for the asphalt that make streets and highways possible, for a forest you love, or a sea you swam in, for a hair product or your favorite perfume, for an airplane and all the people who make your travelling possible.

You get the idea.

Does it seem hard to be grateful for such things?

Imagine your life without all of them.

Isn’t it easier now to be grateful?

And as you start to allow yourself to be filled with gratitude for everything in your life, can you feel your mood lightening up?

It works.

Every time.

Gratitude changes everything!

Love,

Rucsandra