365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 174: Listen To Yourself!


You’ve been taught to listen to everybody else but yourself.

You disagree?

Let me say it this way: how many times have you been told to follow your heart, your intuition, your desires and your inner truth? If you are like most people, pretty much never!

Were you encouraged to honor who you are?

Were you taught emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, communication skills or self awareness?

I know I wasn’t.

But one day I decided to break free and find my own answers and my own path. I made a pact with myself to pay attention to how I felt and what I thought and to follow my inner guidance. And that was the best decision I have ever made.

It does not matter what we were taught!

What matters is that we have the power to choose to honor and follow our inner guidance system.

Pay attention.

You will discover that you are always guided by a power greater than all the advice your were even given.

No school and no teacher, no degree and no mentor will ever know more than your soul.

Listen to yourself.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 173: The Rest Of My Life


The rest of my life will be the best of my life.

I have already decided that.

So what does that mean?

It means that I no longer allow the past experiences to define the present moment or my future.

It means that I no longer feel sorry that things went a certain way.

It also means that I have the full day today to expect the best for tomorrow.

I have today to get ready.

What would you need to think, how would you need to be and what would you need to feel if the rest of your life – which starts right now, by the way – was the best of your life?



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 172: Before “Eggs, Dinosaurs and Chicken Necks”…

RUCSANDRA's PICTUREBefore all of that came Digger…

I want you to enjoy some more fun and giggles with me.

Two days ago I wrote about Nicola Bird’s culinary endeavors and her blog “NIC’S KITCHEN: Food, Family, Life & Other Stuff”.

My post was thoroughly enjoyed so I know you will have fun with this one too; especially if you know and love dogs.

Let me introduce you to Nicola’s dog, Digger: “Uh Oh, I’m In Trouble Here…

Digger makes a cameo appearance every once in a while in Nic’s Kitchen. He actually has his own button at the top of the blog entitled “Digger’s Diary”.

Well, read his posts when you need an instant pick me up and some laughter.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 171: How Do You Handle Your Suffering?


Let’s face it, every single one of us has known multiple and various degrees of suffering.

Our world – it seems – is built on suffering: relying on suffering, advertising and selling suffering, worshiping suffering, constantly talking about suffering and generating it all around, day after day, for all living creatures, small and large.

Whether you suffered at the hands of the family you were born in or the society you are part of, or of a lover, a child or a friend, you know what suffering is.

Whether we suffered physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually you and I can describe our suffering  and its intensity with great accuracy.

But here’s my question: what do you do WITH it?

Do you allow it to become anger?

Do you bury it and fall into despair?

Do you allow it to annihilate and eat you alive?

Do you pour it into someone else’s ears over and over again?

Do you feed off it?

Or do you allow it to come to the surface and feel it so fully and with so much awareness that it starts to crumble and lose its power?

If you allow it and acknowledge its presence, you become stronger and your suffering starts to dissipate.

Don’t run away from it. If you are suffering it means that you feel hurt; running away won’t do.

Accepting that you are feeling pain and allowing your feelings to be expressed fully will help you heal.

Stop running.

Face it.

Accept it.

Breathe and sit with it.

You are stronger than your suffering.



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 170: Things That Make Me Giddy


I read a lot of things throughout the day and get inspired, challenged, thoughtful or introspective.

This is my area and I am comfortable with introspection and connection with myself and others.

However, there are very few things that make me instantly lighter with laughter.

I want to share one with you today, because I just read it right now and it made me giddy.

Meet Nicola Bird: Successful Entrepreneur, Blogger, Coach, Wannabe Chef, Wine-Drinker, Wife, Mother of 3 humans, 2 cats, 6 fish and 1 totally mental dog.

I met Nicola briefly over coaching calls as she was ending a business coaching program when I was just starting it, so we never really met face to face, but have been following her food blog, which brings me joy.

Nicola started her food blog as an experiment as she is taking cooking lessons.

It is entitled “NIC’S KITCHEN: Food, Family, Life & Other Stuff”. It is witty, funny, real and I enjoy reading it.

Today’s post is entitled “Eggs, Dinosaurs and Chicken Necks“.

How can you NOT read it?




365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 169: Can You Let Go?


In this very moment, can you?

Can you let go of your worrying thoughts?

Can you let go of the need to control an outcome?

Can you let go of someone who is trying to control you?

Can you let go of fear?

Can you let go of feeling small?

Can you let go of the need to be right?

Can you let go of the desire to be better than others?

Can you let go of diminishing thoughts?

Can you let go of anger?

Can you?

I know YOU CAN.

But do YOU?



365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 168: HOW Do You Love?


The question is not how much you love someone.

The real question is HOW do you love them?

And I am not only talking about romantic love, but about the love you have for your children, parents, siblings and friends.

Possessive love is about your unsatisfied need for attention; if you love possessively, you take from the other person, rather than give.

Jealous  love is about your feeling undeserving, small and insecure; you are afraid you will lose the person you love when someone better than you comes along.

Controlling love is attempting to over-ride or take away the other person’s choice. You want them to behave the way you want them to and disregard what they want and how they feel.

Desperate love is about giving away your power. Your belief that you cannot live without the other person gives your power away, and in the same time puts a great weight load on the other.

Doesn’t really sound like love, does it?

Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh said:

“You must love in such a way, that the other person feels free.”

Reading this made me stop with a gasp: do I love in such a way that the people I love feel free?

Do you?