365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 75: Positive Expectations

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What are your expectations about your relationships, your career, your love life, your finances, the fun in your life? Do you expect things to go well and in your favor or do you expect them to go wrong? The truth is that what you create depends a lot on what you expect.

Brian Tracy, Canadian author and speaker says that:

“Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.”

And here’s a quote from the famous basketball player, Michael Jordan:

“You have to expect things of yourselves before you can do them.”

Positive expectation is the act or state of looking forward or anticipating. It is what moves you from where you are in your life right now to where you want to be in the future. It is the capacity to trust your own inner guidance and to hold the image and the feeling of what you wants to create and attract.

This is powerful.

Positive expectation is not wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is longing for something that you do not believe it is possible for you to have, so you feel sad, upset or frustrated.

At the other end of the spectrum we find the positive expectation principle: an internal knowing that it is possible to have whatever you truly desire, as well as the discipline to hold alive the thoughts and the feelings of that which you want to create and attract in your life.

Look around at the people in your life and begin creating a connection between what they might be thinking in order to have the experiences they have. You will realize that their beliefs are indeed self-fulfilling prophecies.

What experiences do you want to have? Expect them with confidence!

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 74: How Do You Know It’s Working?

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What a wonderful question! You set your intention to achieve a goal, to let go of limiting beliefs and to transform your life.

Your intention to change your life has tremendous power! The intention alone can shift your awareness and bring old beliefs to the surface so that they can be examined and released. Your intention is only dependent upon the intensity with which you want things to change.

But how do you know that what you are doing is in fact working? You know by how you FEEL INSIDE:

  1. More determined, clearer, less afraid, lighter and more uplifted OR
  2. Unsettled, quite overwhelmed and overly tired

Both answers are a clear indication that it is working, that you are transforming, that you are releasing the old and embracing the new. I’ll explain.

The first answer is pretty clear: if you are feeling empowered and more aware, calmer, more confident and less afraid than when you started, you know that things are already changing. Simple.

But how about the second answer? To explain I will use an analogy. Imagine you decided to do a massive cleaning of your house. You want everything to be thoroughly cleaned: drawers, cupboards, closets, behind and under the furniture, rugs, windows and every corner. You take a week off work, go and buy cleaning supplies, new brooms, all the cleaning sponges you will need, put on clothes that you can soil and you are ready to tackle the task. You start rolling up the rugs, moving furniture away from the walls, emptying cupboards, preparing your bucket of water, your vacuum and your duster. You are getting into the thick of it, so to speak.

If a friend comes for an unannounced visit, what would she see? A total mess: stuff all over the floor, dust bunnies freed up from under the furniture, dirty windows that before you could not see behind window treatments, and you covered in dust and sweat and with your hair in disarray. Everything looks a lot worse now because before you started, all the dust and dirt were hidden. And now they’re not. Everything is right there, in plain view.

Even in the midst of all this apparent mess, YOU KNOW THAT IT IS WORKING. Your house is getting cleaner with every single task that you fully complete. Do you get the picture?

Ok, back to the initial question. You might feel unsettled, overwhelmed and tired because everything is coming up for you to look at. The more stuff was holding you down, the more effort your system is spending to release it.

All is well. With every clean, organized inner drawer your life is changing according to your desire. With every step you are getting closer to your dream. With every action you are increasing your momentum.

So, even if you are not certain, even if you have doubts, even if fear creeps up on you again, DO NOT STOP. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams. It is working.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 73: Dreams, Goals and Desires

RUCSANDRA's PICTUREIs there a GAP between your life in this very moment and your desired life? What do you think of it? Do you like it or do you feel discouraged by it?

My gap is constantly changing, because as I am constantly creating my life, I have new dreams, goals and desires. This gap is a very good thing, because it propels me into action, it makes me stretch my inner being, it makes me grow and transform.

How large is YOUR gap? You can take baby steps or giant leaps, but whatever you choose, if you truly want to close it, then you will. And then you can desire something else, have a new dream and set another goal to create a new gap.

The more focused you stay on what you want, the closer you are to getting it. When you first begin to examine your life and start to make the first few changes in the direction you want to go, you will feel even more imbalanced, maybe even more confused than before you started the process. This is a very good sign! It means that the dismantling of the old has already started.

Let me explain.

You cannot build a new house on a piece of land that is occupied by an old structure. You first have to demolish the old building, piece by piece sometimes, shattering entire floors at other times. Next you must clear the land of all the debris and then you are ready to start digging the new foundation.

It does take time and the larger the old structure, the more time you will need to dismantle it. You might get tired of the physical labor and sometimes feel discouraged by unforeseen problems, but you would not think that the day when you get to start building your new house will never come.

The same is true about your inner self; turning away from old concepts, fears and beliefs and building a new life takes time, dedication and work.

But every single action brings you closer to where you want to be.

How do you know that it is working, that you are making progress? I’ll tell you tomorrow.

Love,

Rucsandra

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 72: Shattering False Limits

RUCSANDRA's PICTUREHave you ever had the experience of creation? Of course you have. And so have I. The great question is what is it that you are creating? Are you creating what you truly want or are you allowing into your life experiences that you do not desire?

Scientists have proven over and over that all energy is interconnected with all energy everywhere. They have shown that this energy is receptive to the human thought and takes the form communicated to it by the beliefs of the observer. Quantum physics teaches us that we have the power to change the world around us through the thoughts that stem from our beliefs, meaning that our feelings are the fuel that powers our creative energies.

If we believe that healing the body is possible then we can direct our healing thoughts to the energy that is the physical body and the body will change according to our belief. If we believe that the diagnostic given to us is set in stone, then we will give in and believe that there is not much we can do. A fantastic book that I recommend whole-heartedly is Gregg Braden‘s “The Spontaneous Healing of Belief: Shattering the Paradigm of False Limits”. It is worth your time, especially if what you are reading right now is challenging your core beliefs.

If we believe that money is hard to make, the energy that creates the world around us will vibrate to match our belief and money will be hard to come across.

If we truly believe that we have the innate right to experience a wonderful, loving relationship, the world around us will start to shift and change and arrange in such way that the right person will be placed on our path. The belief that it is possible we’ll allow us to see and to feel our way towards the creation of that wonderful relationship with the person we attracted.

Do you see how much power we have? How magnificent our lives can be? How much joy and lightness we can experience in our day-to-day life and also share in our interactions with others?

Is it easier to picture this possibility? If not, taking a good hard look at your beliefs will bring some light into your creations. Sometimes we need help identifying what it is that our beliefs really are, so if you feel that you do, there are many resources to help you on your quest. Just set your intention to become aware of your beliefs and to understand what they are. Your thoughts and beliefs shape all your experiences. So, believe now that you can see where your creations have stemmed from and that if you don’t like them, then you can change your thoughts to change your experience.

Do you know the difference between a thought and a belief?

A belief is a thought repeated enough times and with enough conviction that it becomes a truth for your subconscious mind. From that moment on, you lead your life according to that specific truth as well as all other ideas that you hold to be true.

Here’s to new beliefs that will fuel your true desires!

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 71: Everything is a Miracle

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Yesterday I shared with you a traumatic time in my life that held the opportunity to forgive and be grateful. Today I am inviting you to choose an event in your life that is still raw in your memory and to sit with it in silence, with no expectation. Just sit and be willing to contemplate the fact that underneath it all, there might be a great gift for you. In silence, the answer will come and you will be able to see so much more that you ever did before.

Stay open, stay aware; allow the good things to come to the surface. What have you learned from that situation? How have you transformed? What gifts have you received that you have not considered before now? Who helped you? What was removed from your life in order to be replaced with something better? Who believed in you?

Gratitude will clear away deeply embedded thoughts, feelings and beliefs that have been keeping you away from letting go, from moving on. Gratitude will allow your Inner Child to feel loved and supported; the power of your subconscious mind will work for you and with you, not against you anymore.

As you feel the grace of gratitude descend upon you, your life will begin to transform.

The great healing power of gratitude will allow you to go through the unresolved hurt and pain from the past; you will sit in silence until their gifts are revealed to you.

I will close with a great quote. Albert Einstein said:

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Today I am inviting you to CHOOSE to live as though everything is a miracle!

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 70: Ioana’s Death

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On the third day of this gratitude journey, I wrote about my sister Ioana (read “Ewoana”; she would want you to pronounce her name correctly!) and her healing after a severe stroke left her paralyzed on the right side at the age of 31. Ioana was determined to heal and she did. She was witty, funny and sometimes outrageous.

The posts in my blog are all about gratitude and everything that I am grateful for. I truly believe that in every event or circumstance there is a golden truth that holds the gift of gratitude. This was indeed the case for me and my family four years ago.

Four years ago Ioana  was killed in a terrible motorcycle accident. She was 39. It was an extremely painful and trying time for me and my family; we struggled with the aftershock of this tragedy and for the first couple of weeks my life felt like a movie, unreal and with nothing to hold on to.

Ioana was the passenger and could not hold on when the man riding the motorcycle accelerated to 200 km per hour on the shoulder of the highway. She fell off the motorcycle and her body rolled into traffic. She was killed instantly. The man did not stop, he just continued on. Three weeks later he was arrested and eventually went to jail.

So you might now think: “So in this great tragedy, what was there for you to be grateful for?”.

During the weeks and months that followed, my family and I have known the hear-felt, continuous and compassionate support of friends, relatives and strangers. They out-poured their love, words of kindness and encouragement to us.

I was grateful for their love. I experienced great waves of healing energy generated by the people who came together with love to assist us.

The police officers and the investigators went beyond their job requirements to support and make it easier for us to go through the daily steps of the criminal investigation. Since my mother in Romania does not speak English, they went to the length of finding a Romanian speaking officer who could talk to my mother directly. They felt that she needed to talk to them herself and not only through me. This act of kindness helped my mother tremendously.

There were so many opportunities for gratitude. Gratitude made those first days easier.

A year later, I was present at the trial of the man who killed my sister. That is when I really understood the power of FORGIVENESS.  I realized that forgiveness is one of the greatest healing energies, a gift presented to me right then and there.

From deep inside myself I felt the power of true, unconditional forgiveness. To my awareness also came the fact that this very moment was one of my greatest forks in the road: I had the power to choose TOTAL FORGIVENESS right then and there or choose to remain angry, hurt and feeling like a victim.

In that courtroom, I was fully present in a heightened state of awareness. I was aware of the greatness of that very moment. I knew that it was my choice and my choice only. Life is truly made of what we choose to do with what we encounter.

I CHOSE FORGIVENESS, total and unconditional forgiveness.

I realized that out of the tragedy of my sister’s death my family and I had the opportunity to FORGIVE. We chose to forgive this man who is now serving a sentence for killing my sister.

My decision to forgive and my gratitude for this rare opportunity lifted the suffering veil and brought a new level of compassion and understanding.

My sister’s death taught me the power of love and support, taught me that people are truly kind AND that forgiveness is a choice. These are all true reasons to feel a deep sense of gratitude, even though they stemmed from such a tragedy.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 69: The Willingness to Contemplate

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The willingness to contemplate is extremely powerful. I love these words: the willingness to contemplate. Dr. Wayne Dyer says:

“The law of flotation was not discovered by contemplating the sinking of things. […] The Wright brothers didn’t contemplate the staying on the ground of things. Alexander Graham Bell didn’t contemplate the non-communication of things. Thomas Edison didn’t contemplate the darkness of things. In order to float an idea into your reality, you must be willing to do a somersault into the inconceivable and land on your feet, contemplating what you want instead of what you don’t have.”

I AM INVITING YOU TO HAVE THE WILLINGNESS TO CONTEMPLATE the possibility that in every event, circumstance and interaction with other people there is something to be grateful for. I am not trying to convince you. I am simply inviting you to be willing to contemplate something different and to be willing to look at things in a different light.

Even if it seems quite impossible to you to release something painful or forgive someone who has hurt you and made you suffer, if you open yourself up to the possibility that there might be more to it than what meets the eye, you will soon start to see that there was a touch of grace in that situation and a reason for you to feel grateful.

You do not need to struggle with this; just be willing to see it from a different angle and your openness and willingness alone will create the space for deeper awareness.

I believe that one can only teach from one own’s individual experience, so tomorrow I will tell you about a time in my life when I realized that even in the hardest of times, we have the choice to find that spark of gratitude or be consumed by anger. pain or grief.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 68: Emotional Cleansing Part 14 – Be the Hero of Your Life

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You can change what you think and what you feel to resonate with the powerful and high vibration of GRATITUDE.

Buddha said:

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”

Every day and in every circumstance there is something to be grateful for. This way of thinking might initially create a lot of resistance. Some people refuse to find a reason to be thankful and so they choose to be victims. They believe that things happen to them, are being done to them. “How can I be grateful for the fact that I have this illness, or lost a loved one, or lost my job, or had parents who abused me, or that my alcoholic husband spent all my money?”

Even if you feel some resistance to the thought of feeling grateful for everything in your life, start with a small grateful step and keep going. Even in the darkest of times there is always something that you can be grateful for. I know this for a fact and from personal experience.

Gratitude has the power to cleanse your emotional lens. Think of gratitude as the master cleanser for your emotional life. When you are grateful for something that occurred in your life despite the fact that other people might think of it as a failure, tragedy or hardship, you are raising your vibration to the level of the Source Energy.

Nora Ephron says:

“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”

The truth is that life will only look, feel and be the way you are willing to see it.

Life never treated you unfairly. Life offers you extraordinary opportunities to grow, in every single moment, with every single challenge. Gratitude pulverizes victimhood; it frees you up. The instant lift and rush of energy created by changing your thinking from victimhood to gratitude opens the door to your soul. You become the powerful creator of your own life, of your own reality. You become the hero of your life.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 67: Emotional Cleansing Part 13 – Feeling Like a Victim?

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During the last 12 days I wrote about the concept and necessity of emotional cleansing; I offered you powerful emotional clearing techniques that I use all the time for my own emotional balance and health; I invited you to look deeper inside yourself.

Today I want to tell you that one of the greatest tools that you can employ to clear your emotional being is GRATITUDE. I know you have heard this before and probably you are already using the power of gratitude in your life.

When you are grateful, your whole energetic field clears; the powerful vibration of gratitude in that very moment clears away emotional turmoil, shame, anger, pain, sorrow and grief. This process requires awareness and the willingness to accept  a deeper part of who you truly are. Gratitude requires you to go and reach that part of you which is Universal and eternal and which has great knowledge and understanding of all life’s processes.

Brian Tracy says:

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Maybe this is a harder concept  to wrap your head around or maybe you are already employing the full power of gratitude. The truth is that by being grateful, entirely and truly grateful for everything that happens in your life, you refuse to be a victim. 

I want you to take a moment and think about a time when you felt like a victim, when you felt like things were happening to you, when you felt victimized. Ok, take a moment and do just that.

Good. Now I want you to find one good thing around that situation, one good outcome within the event that hurt you and hold it in your awareness.

Is this hard for you to do?

The truth is that for as long as you feel like a victim, gratitude will be out of your reach.

Victimhood binds you with ropes that are impossible to cut. Victimhood keeps you in situations that you do not want to be in. You feel like life happens to you, you are lost in suffering and cannot see that life is happening FOR YOU.

I want you to be free. I want you to be grateful. I want you to feel powerful, because you are. You are unique. Your special set of gifts and talents can help many people. But first, you must let go of feeling like a victim.

I’ll write more about this tomorrow.

Love,

Rucsandra Continue reading

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 66: Emotional Cleansing Part 12 – My Gift to YOU

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How are you? Have you received my gift, the Sacred Oak Tree Meditation? I want you to have this meditation because I know its power. It helped me throughout the years and it helped my friends, family and clients. If you have not done so yet, email me at rucsandra@mitreawellness.com and I will send it to you in an MP3 format, so that you can listen to it on your phone, iPad or computer. My gift to you, to help you cleanse emotionally.

You will find many situations when the Sacred Oak Tree technique will help you. For example:

  • You are going to spend time with family and you are worried and starting to judge or be afraid of what might go wrong. Become an Oak Tree first, release everything that troubles you and then go meet your family with a clean slate.
  • You are concerned about your finances or your job. When you feel the first sign or concern or fear, visualize becoming the Sacred Oak Tree. Over and over and over. The less afraid you feel, the more you can see opportunities and invite the right people in your life.
  • You are ready to go to a meeting and you’re not sure about what to say, what others will say, you might be apprehensive or afraid of the other people’s reactions or judgment. Clear yourself with the Oak Tree technique first and then go into the meeting.

This meditation will clear your energy and release your stress. How will you know what the effects of using this technique really are? You will feel them. You will feel calmer, your mind will be clearer and you will start to deal with everything from a powerful stance of authenticity. In turn, every situation will resolve with more ease. You will find that people will come to you with solutions and responses and your relationships will improve.

To access the core of POWER inside yourself, you must be clear. Your emotional lens must be clean. The Sacred Oak Tree Meditation cleanses your lens. The more you use it, the faster it works. You will only need to think of the Oak Tree and your energy will clear, your fears will release and you will face any person or situations as YOU, the powerful and beautiful YOU.

For the next few weeks, set your phone or computer alarm to ring a two times a day and remind you about the Oak Tree. When the alarm rings, take two deep breaths, become the Magic Oak Tree and and let it do the work. Within a few minutes you will feel YOUR CORE OF POWER becoming stronger. You will feel lighter and clearer.

This is a technique that will assist you anytime you are starting to doubt yourself. Practice it as much as you can and it will become more effective and more powerful.

Love,

Rucsandra