“The root of our ‘negative’ experiences may be reduced to one of three universal fears (or a combination of them): abandonment, low self-worth, or lack of trust.”
The second universal fear is the fear that we are not “good enough”. Almost every person in our world has experienced low self-esteem at one point or another. Some people live their entire lives feeling unworthy of love, of a good career, of abundance, of respect, of friendship, of vibrant health or happiness. Our professional, friendship or romantic relationships will match our expectations of not being good enough. Worthlessness is a desperate feeling and it brings about the belief that we have nothing to offer to the world, that we are insignificant.
Several religions have taught us that we are imperfect, lesser beings who cannot begin to compare to the armies of saints and angels who are closer to God.
As a result, we express our beliefs through our expectations of our achievements, how much joy we allow ourselves, and the success of our relationships. Our fear of not being valuable enough to have love, acceptance, health, and longevity promises that every one of our relationships will reflect the fear of low worth. And it happens in ways that we would never expect in a million years.
“For example, how many times have you settled for relationships that aren’t what you really want but rationalize them by saying things such as: “This is good enough for now” or “This is a stepping-stone to something better”? Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’d love to share my life with a loving, compassionate, nurturing, and caring partner, but …” or “This isn’t the job where I can really express my gifts and talents, but …” followed by all the reasons why your greatest dreams can’t be realized in this moment?
“If these or similar scenarios have played out in your life, there’s a good chance that they are the skillfully created masks that you use to question your worth. Through your personal and business relationships, you remind yourself of your core beliefs about yourself, beliefs that ask for a greater healing.”
pages 156 – 158, The Divine Matrix, Gregg Braden
This is profound, don’t you think? How much of this do you recognize in yourself?
Thank you for following me on this journey of discovering the hidden roots of fear. We have a couple more categories to go through and then I will teach you what to do when you feel afraid. So, hang on for a couple more posts.