Hello! How are you doing so far with this concept of fear, broken into smaller pieces and explained from a different angle? Isn’t it true, that as you keep reading, you are starting to have a completely different understanding with respect to what fear really is? Do you feel like a curtain is lifting and you are able to see beyond it? Good, there’s more to come. By the time you and I are done with this series about fear, you will know what to do and how to free yourself from under all these layers and layers of fear.
Now you know what sociological fears are and how they affect you from different perspectives: collective, familial and individual.
The second category of fears is:
Perceptual fears, which in turn can be:
- Factual fears
- Imaginary fears
They are perceptual because they have to do with your perception versus real danger . Some dangers are real, but most of the things you are afraid of are not.
Dr. Janeen Detrick, talks about: IMAGINARY FEAR VERSUS FACT FEAR. She says that fact fear is based on things that are clearly dangerous, like venturing into a rough part of town alone after dark, like going swimming in a big storm, like driving a car you know is unsafe to drive. She says that fact fear is the actual “fight or flight response”. This fear is a powerful mechanism that keeps us safe and out of danger. So this IS a good fear.
Imaginary fear on the other hand, is, as the name clearly states: IMAGINED. There are no facts in it, except the ones fabricated by the mind to justify the fear. Thoughts such as: “What if it does not work?”, “What if I cannot do it?”, “What if they don’t like it?”, “What if I don’t find a life partner?”
You see what I mean? There is no reality behind imaginary fears. “What if I won’t find a job?”. You do not know as a clear fact that you will not find a job or a partner or a new house, do you?
THESE “WHAT IF…” IMAGINARY FEAR MOMENTS HOLD NO TRUE VALUE, EXCEPT FOR YOU TO PRACTICE GETTING OUT OF FEAR BY STATING THE EXACT OPPOSITE.
Let’s say you are preparing a report to present in front of your peers, clients or board of directors and you start feeling afraid: “What if they don’t like it? What if it’s not good enough?“.
When these thoughts come to mind just say the exact opposite to yourself: “What if they like it? That would be great. What if they say that it is the best thing they were presented with on this topic?”.
All these so-called fears are very easy to dismantle and release fully. It takes practice, but it is easy to do. These thought patterns exist ONLY because you have been repeating this way of thinking for many years. But they are only thoughts and you can change your thoughts.
The important thing I want to tell you is that from now on, you can shift your mind from this kind of thoughts, from your imaginary fears. In fact, you must be very diligent about it. In order to change a habit of thought you simply repeat the new thought pattern until IT becomes the new habit.
Ok, come back tomorrow.