So far I explained the collective and the familial fears, which are based on the interaction with society at large and with your own family. INDIVIDUAL FEARS are based on your own past experiences.
At some point in your life you took a chance and did something you were dreaming of (like opening a new business, falling in love or going on a trip) but it did not turn quite the way you expected, caused you suffering so now you are afraid to do it again.
You decided for example that because you fell in love once, opened up your heart but ended up being rejected and hurt, you would never fall in love again. So now you are afraid to connect with a potential lover. Or, you went for your dream to start a business, did everything you could to make it happen, but it did not take of the ground, you ended up losing money, so now you are playing it safe by not following your heart. You are afraid to live as yourself because something you once tried did not succeed.
These are individual fears. The first layers are embedded in your cells even before you were born. Your emotional lens was pre-conditioned by your mother’s own fears. Now, here is where we go DEEPER and here is where I need you to stay very open: when you were formed as a new life potential in your mother’s womb, your continuously growing number of cells were nestled at the core of your mother’s body, surrounded by HER CELLS. Your cells were PART OF HER BODY. Do you get this? This is BIG. This is POWERFUL. What it means is that your cells were already responding to emotions, to feelings of joy or despair, to fear or love.
YOUR CELLS were FEELING everything that your mother’s cells felt.
Ok, take a breath now and let that sink in. Since your cells were her cells until you were born, your cells responded to and felt everything that she was feeling. If you were exposed to feelings of love, compassion, understanding and passion for life then that is what went into the preparation of your own life. If, on the other hand, you were exposed – in utero – to deeply seated fears, pain, anger and despair, you took it all in and were born already afraid. I know, this is a lot to handle maybe, but please, do accept this as a possibility.
Do you now understand how from a sociological point of view, we are slathered in fear? We are first soaked in family fear; then societal fears weight-load our steps and fog our minds. And then, on top of that, our personally created individual fears stop us from living.
No wonder our world is the way it is now. Do you see how we come to think that there are so many real reasons for us to be afraid? And do you also see that these reasons are not real? That fears are not truly real? They are fabricated, knitted, colored, inflated, expanded, manufactured, embellished soap bubbles? They stem from lack of trust in ourselves, as Louise Hay says:
“Fear is a lack of trust in ourselves, and because of this, we don’t trust Life. We don’t trust that we’re being taken care of on a higher level, so we feel we must control everything from the physical level. Obviously, we’re going to feel fear because we can’t control everything in our lives.”
Tomorrow we’ll delve into another category of fears: the Perceptual Fears.