365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 14: Being Me

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Two weeks into my 365 Days of Gratitude. It is a thrilling experience for me, because I get to share my ideas, my beliefs, my experiences with you every day. What I am mostly grateful for today is the fact that I am allowing myself to be fully me, to express who I am and what I believe in, without the fear of being judged. But do not think that I have always been like that because I have not.

Living my life without being afraid of the judgment of others is relatively new. It did not happen over night and it is the result of many years of work within myself. It started to happen a few years back and it dissolved in layers, but I became acutely aware of this wonderful and life changing internal shift during the last couple of weeks. Writing every day, accepting the topics for my daily posts as they come and not censoring them at all, not being afraid of what you might think of me and knowing that you will probably disagree with some of my views brought to my awareness the fact that I am finally being me, fully me. This expands into a new sense of freedom for which I am truly grateful. Being me is not that bad after all. Actually it is wonderful!

Do you live fully as yourself or are you still monitoring your actions and behaviors through someone else’s beliefs and advice? I want you to start practicing life as you. In time, you will see who you truly are and you will fall in love with yourself: with your kindness, your humor, your wit; your compassion, your respect for others and for life, your grace.

Here’s to you! Wonderful, powerful, astonishing YOU!

Anite Moorjani‘s book “Dying to be Me” is such an inspiration and I recommend it wholeheartedly. Anita shares what she has learned through her experiences about illness, healing, fear and the true magnificence of each and every human being!

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 13: Money, Sex and the Black Cat

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Did the title grab your attention? Today is Day 13 and quite suited for this topic. To be honest, when I sat down to see what I was going to write about and the words of the title popped into my head, I raised my eyebrows and I asked out loud “Really???”. I wanted to dismiss the idea, but the words kept rolling in my mind over and over, so today I am writing about money, sex and black cats.

As we did with the number 13 in many parts of our world, we managed to create fear of money and fear of sex quite effectively. Our education did not include emotional intelligence or self love classes; it definitely did not include courses about the energy of money, about sexual energy and how to allow an unobstructed flow of both. Instead we were told all the wrong things that created unnecessary pain and suffering in our lives. I am convinced that many people feel the same. Today I am grateful because I have systematically worked to demolish the limiting beliefs brought about by my upbringing, schooling and living in today’s world.

Here’s a short list of the things many people have heard more than once. The number 13 brings bad luck and it is to be feared.  Money does not grow on trees. Sex is sinful. Rich people must be crooks to have that much money. Money is evil. Black cats are evil, do not let one cross your path. You must work hard for your money. There’s never enough. If I make more money, then someone else will have to make less. Sex is dirty. Money brings unhappiness. Black cats are linked to black magic. We cannot have a floor numbered 13, so let’s just jump from 12 to 14. You get the idea.I am sure you can add a few more sentences to my list of absurd, born from fear and fear creating examples.

Money is a neutral energy, it is not good nor bad. We give it one meaning or another and our relationship with money reflects exactly how we feel. Are you pleased with the amount of money flowing into your life and do not feel guilty for having it and spending it? If not, start looking at what is your real belief system about money. Sexual energy is actually creative, expressive energy and cannot be good or bad, it is neutral as well. Are you pleased with your sensuality and the sexual energy flowing through you? If not, take a deep breath and bring up what you really believe about sex. The more you examine your deep beliefs, the more awareness you will get and your relationship with money and your  expressive, creative sexual energy will improve.

As for black cats, having lived under the same roof with mine for almost 17 years, I can tell you that when Kiki crosses my path, she is asking for food or she wants attention. But that’s as black magic as it gets!

I have a lot more to share with you on these topics, and I am sure that they will appear again in my gratitude blog.. Until then, here are two fantastic books:

“The Wealth Chef” – by Ann Wilson – this is the education I wish I received when I was younger, but am very grateful to have found it now.

“The Honeymoon Effect” – by Dr. Bruce Lipton – the concepts explained in his book will allow you to improve the relationship you have with yourself and with others.

… and I imagine there is a book somewhere about the positive power of the number 13. If you know of one, comment on my post and let me know.

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 12: Awakening

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A client asked me a few days ago: “How do we help? There are so many people in the world who need help, it feels really  overwhelming. I contribute to a few charities; what else can I do? It is daunting.”

My response is the subject for today’s gratitude post. I am grateful for the understanding I have come to have that I must bring transformation and awareness in myself first if I want to contribute to our world in a positive and powerful manner.

Every single one of us is part of the grand tapestry of humanity. We are energetically connected, whether we believe it or not, and so we have an extraordinary power to influence our common energetic field. The key is to start with ourselves, to clear away what is negative and dark inside ourselves. We need to learn to unconditionally love ourselves before we can unconditionally love others. We must look at ourselves with compassion and understanding because if we cannot, we are not ready to be compassionate towards others.

We change the world by changing our inner selves. We help humanity by letting go of judgement toward ourselves and others, by being honest with ourselves and others; by showing compassion and kindness for ourselves and for others. If we do all that, then the energy we put out into our immediate world of family and friends becomes a healing energy, which will ignite transformation in those we love first.  And that will propagate in many directions, in waves and waves throughout larger communities, into the greater energetic field of humanity.

How appropriate it is that I found this quote on Facebook today: “If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation.”~Lao Tzu

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 11: Fork in the Road

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Yesterday I read these words: “Be not afraid of growing slowly. Be afraid only of standing still.” This got me thinking about what I call the Transformation Point and the Fork in the Road. A few years back I wrote a little article about these two concepts, because their importance once understood, allowed me to be more present during key moments in my life. Today I re-edited it for you.

Throughout my life I was stretched to the limit by certain circumstances and events. I am very grateful for all these moments, because each one held within a Transformation Point. A Transformation Point refers to what I chose in order to end my struggle to steady a rocking boat:

  • Repeat old behaviors and patterns and remain where I was, or
  • Abandon that sinking ship of limitation and transform my life

The Transformation Point, suspended in time and space, requires a leap of faith. Sometimes, out of fear, we remain at the fork for a long time, unable to move, but eventually life will force us to decide one way or another.

How do you know that you are making the decision that will lead to your transformation and growth? It is very simple. How you feel about it gives you the answer:

  • If you feel a sense of dread, exhaustion and heaviness, this is an indication that you are choosing the same thoughts and behaviors again. It feels safer to do and think what you have always done and thought, but by doing so you bypass the Transformation Point and remain where you were before the Fork in the Road appeared on your life’s path.
  • If you feel a sense of anticipation, excitement and ease, you are choosing to evolve, to transform, to move forward. Going through the Transformation Point requires determination and patience but all you need to do is take that first step and then big leaps become possible. All the pieces start fitting together and life gets easier and a lot more fun.

A FORK IN THE ROAD is a beautiful and powerful reminder that you can always choose what your next experiences will be. May you always choose to evolve and move towards a higher vibration of health and fulfillment, with joyous experiences and wide open hearts!

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 10: Big Leaps

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Today’s post is dedicated to all my teachers and mentors. Thank you for your knowledge, passion, compassion and dedication. You guided me, helped me see beyond my awareness and challenged me to grow, to be more to do more. Thank you!

Albert Einstein’s famous quote states that: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

My mentors helped me transcend my current state by expanding my awareness. I’ve had worked with many mentors in the past 17 years, in all aspects of who I am (physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and energetic) and in all areas of my life (business, personal, financial), depending on what my current challenge was at the time and what I wanted to achieve. Coming in contact with and learning from someone who is already where I am aspiring to be reveals a new horizon in front of my eyes.

Meeting the right mentor generates a powerful transfer of energy that takes me to the next level in my own evolution, in one big leap. Powerful mentors taught me how to go inside myself in places that I was not comfortable with. Skilled and compassionate mentors inspired me to boldly and simply live my life as ME.

It is absolutely true: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” A new mentor can reach my awareness, quite randomly it might seem, but I know that randomness has nothing to do with it. When I am ready to leave behind limiting beliefs, thoughts and habits that do not serve me anymore and to take one big step forward in the direction of my dreams, my intention/vibration reaches out and finds my new mentor.

I open myself up to avenues of action that are out of my comfort zone, because my mentors point out directions unknown to me before. And, it all happens in ONE BIG LEAP of awareness. Because my mentors have already transcended my current situation, they can teach me what I cannot yet see by myself.

Why do we need a mentor? To be able TO SEE BEYOND what we currently know!

Is there an area of your life that you want to shift in one big leap? Are you ready to move in the direction of your dreams? Then open yourself up to the possibility and when your mentor is revealed to you, take action! Follow your inner guidance right then and there. Leave fear behind and approach your mentor. Only wonderful things will come from your inspired action. Your life will be transformed.

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 9: The 90-Second Rule

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I am very grateful for having found out, a few years back about the 90-Second Rule in Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor‘s book “My Stroke of Insight”. I talked about this book before, in my post about my sister Ioana. Today I want to share with you the 90-Second Rule, because it changed how I deal with my emotions and maybe it will help you too.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained brain scientist, suffered a stroke at the age of 37. She had the rare opportunity as a scientist to study the working of her own brain at first-hand from the inside out. In her recovery process, she witnessed her emotional responses to different stimuli and she determined that it only took 90 seconds to have an emotional circuit triggered, flush a physiological response through the body and then flush it completely out of the system.

She calls it THE 90-SECOND RULE. She says: “We can all learn that we can take full responsibility for what thoughts we are thinking and what emotional circuitry we are feeling. Knowing this and acting on this can lead us into feeling a wonderful sense of well-being and peacefulness.”

Dr. Taylor goes on saying that it does not matter if it is the fear circuitry or the anger circuitry or even the joy circuitry: “…it is really hard to hold a good belly laugh for more than 90 seconds naturally. The 90-second rule is totally empowering. That means for 90 seconds, I can watch this happen, I can feel this happen and I can watch it go away. After that, if I continue to feel that fear or feel that anger, I need to look at the thoughts I am thinking that are re-stimulating that circuitry that is resulting in me having this physiology over and over again.”

Isn’t that something that you are glad to have found out? I know that for me it was like a lightning bolt struck my awareness and shifted my perception about emotional processes and releasing mechanisms.

In 90 seconds, the brain and the entire physiology are DONE with the emotional response to fear, joy, despair, happiness, anger and so on. It is what WE CHOOSE TO THINK AFTER THAT 90 SECOND PERIOD that determines our emotional cleanliness or the ever growing piles of emotional debris.

It takes less than two minutes to let go. Isn’t this remarkable? Isn’t this powerful and empowering? Try it. I have and it changed my awareness.

I will leave you today with a a quote from one of the first tenured women at the Harvard Business School, Shoshana Zuboff who earned her Ph.D. in social psychology from Harvard University and her B.A. in philosophy from the University of Chicago:

“Awareness requires a rupture with the world we take for granted; then old categories of experience are called into question and revised.”

 

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 8: Spider

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Day 8 today! I love the moment of inspiration that sent me on this journey of gratitude. I look forward to every day, to every post and never know ahead of time what the posts will be about, until they reveal themselves to me. I start writing about something only to be deterred by a different topic, that pushes its energy to the surface and takes over my post.

It happened again this morning. I was typing my first sentences of what I thought was going to be my post today, when my laptop decided it was time to install updates and proceeded to do just that, closing my browser and my post, before I could even save the last written paragraphs.

So, again, off I went to do something else and left my laptop to get up to date. That is when I saw the spider again, making its way down on a door frame. The tiny spider I first saw on the ceiling above the bed, when I woke up this morning. I live in a high rise building, spiders or other insects are not a common occurrence. Will I write about the spider today, I wondered? As I usually do in a situation like this, I decided that if I saw it again (for the third time, in less than an hour), I will write about it. And a few minutes later there it was again, not because I was searching for it, but because it popped into my field of vision on the ceiling in the hallway. This is it! The topic today is Spider, as in the energy and symbolism of the Spider.

The Native Indians believe that animals carry powerful lessons, signs, warnings and messages; they read the signs, translate their messages and take into account the knowledge embedded in them. I believe the same, because animals kept sharing their wisdom, messages, signs and symbolism with me. All I had to do is remain open minded, pay attention and do not ignore their appearance in my life. If this is something new for you, I will ask you to do the same: remain open minded. Today I am writing about Spider because it chose to show itself to me three times this morning.

The Spider is a powerful figure of feminine energy, creativity, power and growth. Spiders are skillfully weaving intricate webs and patiently awaiting their prey. When the Spider appears, it is a reminder to connect with life’s ebbs and flows and pay attention to the choices that construct our lives. Weave with skill and be patient – the spider told me this morning. A perfect message for me right now, as I was thinking about a couple of my projects and why they take longer to come to fruition. The animal kingdom and its powerful messages are always right on the topic. This blog provides a wonderful outlet for my creativity and I am grateful.

If you find yourself intrigued by this concept, make a decision to pay attention to signs such as this. Through my blog, Spider has a message for you as well and it is up to you to decipher it. There are many websites you can visit to find out about animal symbolism; just search the particular animal/bird/insect and next to it add the words “animal totem”. Read the information you find, but keep in mind that ultimately, it is a personal message that they carry for each one of us, so it is up to us to find the true meaning. Just stay open and entertain the possibility. If you don’t resonate with this at all, then do nothing.

I am grateful for the message from Spider. Everything has perfect timing, and our experiences are perfect just as they are. Thank you Spider, for the reminder to be playful and enjoy my creativity; to do my work, be mindful, present and patient.

 

 

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 7: Pâshi

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Many different things I am grateful for passed through my mind today, but none inspired me to sit down and start typing. So I waited, curious to find out which one was going to be the topic for my today’s gratitude post. A few minutes ago, out of the blue, the words “Simon’s Cat” popped into my head,  and I knew what I was going to write about. I once saw this short cartoon on Facebook that made me laugh because it was pretty much describing Pâshi, my oldest cat. Pâshi passed away three weeks ago; he was 17 and a half and had a really good life.

I am grateful for all the laughter and the joy he brought into my life. He had a loud voice that he liked to use often to ask for what he wanted and to tell me things that I did not always understand.

Here’s the cartoon: Simon’s Cat. If you have not shared your life with a cat, you will not get the same kick out of this, but if you know cats you’ll have a little laugh. Enjoy!

Pashi

This is the last picture I took of Pâshi, a couple of months ago. I always loved to watch him sleep and I felt a great sense of peace and well-being by seeing him so relaxed.  Today’s post honors Pâshi and his big and wonderful cat energy field. Cats have the ability to absorb and neutralize energy that affects us in a negative way. Being close to a cat can balance our energy field and restore the inner balance. Thank you Pâshi, for taking such good care of my energetic field.

But here’s a very interesting fact that I did not know was going to be included in today’s post: I found an article entitled “Why You Should NEVER EVER Sleep Where Your Cat Sleeps” on http://www.mercola.com. Here’s an excerpt:

“Cats, ants and termites have an unusual characteristic in common: they are all attracted to geopathic stress zones. Geopathic stress is natural radiation that rises up through the earth and becomes distorted by weak electro-magnetic fields, created by subterranean running water, certain mineral concentrations, fault lines, and underground cavities.

Electropathological energy created by modern technology such as high and low frequency energy from telecommunication towers, electricity pylons, transformers, radar and radio towers can also contribute to geopathic stress.

Potential health problems arising from geopathic stress in your environment include:

  • Cardiovascular problems
  • Neurological disabilities and learning difficulties
  • Immune deficiency disorders
  • Chronic fatigue and irritability
  • Body pains and headaches
  • Sudden signs of physical aging
  • Infertility and miscarriages
  • Restless sleep

Sleeping in a geopathic stress fault is particularly harmful to your body, as during sleep your brain is supposed to rest half the time and is busy healing your body the other half. However, if you are exposed to geopathic stress during sleep, your brain never receives the full rest it requires to repair and regenerate.

This is why it’s so important to avoid sleeping where your cat sleeps, as for if your home is located near a geopathic stress fault, your cat will likely find it and sleep near it. If you don’t have a cat, look for areas where plants do not thrive, ant hills are built or termites congregate. These are all signs of a geopathic stress zone.”

Now, isn’t that interesting? Nothing is coincidental, so my post about Pâshi brings into discussion the dangers of geopathic stress and the man made electrosmog. So, if you do not sleep well, maybe one cause is the distortion in the energetic field in the area of your bedroom. Worth investigating, don’t you think?

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 6: My Body (part 1)

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My physical body proved to be my invaluable teacher. Given the fact that for 25 years I have been teaching people how to move better in order to get out of discomfort and pain and how to heal on all levels of their being, my personal lessons served my clients as well. If I were to write about it all today, it would make for a really long read, so these posts will be spread throughout the year.

Lesson 1

In the late ’90s, I studied Classical Pilates with Dianne Miller in Vancouver. During one of the morning workouts with my peers, my lower back started to release and move with more ease and freedom than I have ever felt before. In the afternoon we were in class, studying anatomy and practicing our teaching skills when my back seized up. I was in trouble and I was in pain. Not wanting to disturb the class, I made my way to the washroom; I did not know what to do, so I just stood there. My spine was locked, my lower back and hips throbbed with what felt like someone jabbing a sharp object into my muscles. I started to cry slowly, because I hurt and because initially I was scared. This was the beginning of a wonderful experience of emotional release brought about by a physical release.

My quiet crying soon became loud sobbing, interrupted only by the fact that I felt embarrassed and tried to make less noise. I could not stop sobbing, and gasped for air as tears flowed out of my eyes and down my cheeks in abundant streams; did not even know why I was crying and that was strange, but I discovered that my back was not hurting anymore and I could again move with ease. After a few more minutes the crying stopped. What had just happened? I  had no idea, but decided to accept it as it was and return to my class. All was fine until about an hour later when the whole cycle started again: back spasm and pain, trip to the washroom, uncontrolled and un-consolable sobbing, complete release of pain and discomfort and the return to my class in a calm, non-sobbing state. This happened over and over for three days, at larger and larger intervals of time. I only had two choices, it seemed: to cry and feel great in my body, or to be in pain. What a remarkable mechanism! My body initiated a powerful physical and emotional release and I allowed it to unfold without being afraid. When the process was complete my body felt light, mobile and at ease.

I am grateful for my body teaching me this method of multi-level, simultaneous release. It was an intense experience, but in the absence of fear, the realignment of the body took place unobstructed; the emotional residues trapped in the tissues were released without the need to be looked at or examined. This was a flawless process, orchestrated by the innate knowledge of the physical body. The only thing required was my awareness in action.

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 5: Ho’oponopono

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I love you
I’m sorry 
Please forgive me
Thank you

Eight years ago I was gifted an eraser; not your regular desk eraser, but the most powerful eraser of all. Eight years ago I found out about Ho’oponopono – the emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual eraser that allows us to return to a state of true neutrality, of zero. In this clear state, we do not identify with our stories anymore, with the pain or fear, the past hurt, mistreatment, abandonment and everything else we came to think that shaped and changed our lives.

You see, NOTHING has power over us, unless we believe that it has.

NOTHING has the power to make us feel small, useless or not good enough, UNLESS we allow that destructive energy inside our own energetic field and we start to mold around it.

The word Ho’oponopono means to make right, to rectify an error; Ho’oponopono rectifies the error of living as if we are less than we really are. It is  based on an ancient Hawaiian method of stress reduction and problem solving and can erase all false data that we stored in our minds, hearts and energetic fields throughout our lives, since the moment of our conception until today.

Would you like to get this eraser for yourself and use it to return to the powerful, clear, magnificent state of zero? All you need to do is repeat four simple sentences over and over in your mind or with your words, until the stress, the emotional distress, the anger or the fear you feel in the moment start to fade and you become calmer and calmer and eventually reach emotional neutrality and balance.

I love you
I’m sorry 
Please forgive me
Thank you

This is it. So simple. The most powerful eraser I have ever used. I use it every day, I know it works and I want to invite you to try it out for a few weeks and see for yourself.

Read about Morrnah Simeona who is a native Hawaiian Kahuna Lapa’au. Kahuna means “keeper of the secret” and Lapa’au means “a specialist in healing”… “The process that is now brought forth is a modernization of an ancient spiritual cleansing ritual. It has proven so effective that she has been invited to teach this method at the United Nations, the World Health Organization and at institutions of healing throughout the world.” – http://www.self-i-dentity-through-hooponopono.com/

Morrnah Simeona taught Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len and he went on to teach others. Read about his powerful story in the book he co-authored with Dr. Joe Vitale “Zero Limits“. “This riveting book can awaken humanity. It reveals the simple power of four phrases to transform your life. It’s all based in love by an author spreading love. You should get ten copies of it – one for you and nine to give away. It’s that good.” Debbie Ford, New York Times bestselling author of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

Today I am grateful for Ho’oponopono.

I love you
I’m sorry 
Please forgive me
Thank you