365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 17: My Body (part 2)

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My body is healthy, free, strong and moving well; I live a good life in my body. But that is not how it started out. I was a clumsy child, with poor posture and hyper-extended knees. I hated gym class, and did everything I could to avoid it. Running was difficult and felt like a punishment, climbing up on things and ropes felt like climbing Himalaya, and since I had no interest in the spirit of competition, I did not like any games, such as handball or volleyball. Due to a wrong start with swimming classes, which deserves to be a post on its own, I hated going to the pool too. I was uncoordinated and felt like bunch of sticks put together with hard wire. And on top of everything, I sprained my ankles over and over, throughout my childhood and teenage years. I remember once I jumped to see over a fence and I sprained my knee! My ankles and knees were always inflamed, red, painful. Life was not fun in my body at that age.

So how did I manage to get from all that to where I am today in my body and in my business? I owe it all to one phys ed teacher in university. A friend took me to an aerobics class one day. Not quite the Jane Fonda style, but the teacher understood the body and taught in a fun way; I got hooked and for 5 years I went to my classes, three or four times a week, through heat, snow storm or rain. Consistency is key: I kept at it and started to learn how to move better, stretch more and get stronger.

My teacher’s first name was Mihaela and I am sorry I do not remember her last name. After about 3 years into my aerobics experience with her, she asked me if I was interested in subbing her classes while she went on a two weeks vacation. I was quite shocked that she would ask me: the clumsy, inflexible 20 something years old, but I did take the challenge. Sir Richard Branson says: ” If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”. And so I did.

I am grateful to Mihaela for seeing something in me that I did not know that I had and for creating the opportunities for me to grow in the direction that would take me to where I am today. When she came back from her vacation, she found me a job as an aerobics instructor at a health club in Bucharest, where I worked until I moved to Canada.

Mihaela: THANK YOU!


365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 16: Not Giving Up


This month marks the 12th Anniversary of Mitrea Wellness Centre. Twenty years ago, even before moving from Romania to Toronto, I had a dream about creating a centre that would provide the most remarkable services and care, that would be a sanctuary for healing the body, clearing the mind, and moving forward in life with joy. At the time I had no more knowledge than teaching aerobics and stretching classes (Romanian style, which was more self-taught then studied). But I could see this centre in my mind and I could feel the healing that it would provide to hundreds and hundreds of people. All I knew was that I wanted to be of service to others and to show them how wonderful life can be in their bodies and their inner selves, even though at the time I did not know how to create the very same things in myself. This is how it all started: with a dream, with a strong desire to do more, be more and help people. Today Mitrea Wellness Centre is at the forefront of preventative care, therapeutic exercise and lifestyle and emotional coaching.

I did stay on track and did not give up. And let me tell you, I did want to give up and close my business quite a few times throughout the years. Things were really challenging from different perspectives more times than one, but something made me remain open and move beyond the difficulties that arise while running a business.  I kept studying and studying, working and working, studying some more and improving my skills all the time; and I also kept working on myself, on my emotional/mental/physical/energetic/spiritual self. I asked for help when I needed it and I continued to run this business that asked so much of me, in all the aspects of my life.

I am grateful because the work I do transforms the lives of my clients. I am grateful because I had a dream and I did not give it up when things became tough. Achieving my dream required all of myself, all the time and because of it all, I grew. Because of it all I am more myself now than I was when I was dreaming my dream.





I just watched one of “America’s Got Talent” finalists, because my man told me it was worth it. And it was. I posted the links here for your delight. What a wonderful talent! Twelve years old, Quintavious Johnson, sang two of my all-time favorite  songs: the famous Beatles’ “Let it be” and Etta James’ “I’d Rather Go Blind“. He sang them flawlessly and with so much heart. Enjoy!

The Beatles’ song with its words  “And when the night is cloudy/ There is still a light that shines on me/Shine on until tomorrow, let it be” reminded me of a book for which I am truly grateful: “The New Message of a Master”, re-printed by Kristen Howe . There are many crystals of wisdom in this book. It is free, so sign up for it and get the PDF file. It is worth it.

Let it be: let go of worries and trust that there is a solution even when I do not see it. The books explains this concept and it truly changed my life. THERE IS a solution; always. All I need to do is relax, stop the struggle and trust that there is a way.

There is always a way! I know it, I feel it and I LIVE it.

Would you entertain the possibility that this might be true? Please do, and tell others too!

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 14: Being Me


Two weeks into my 365 Days of Gratitude. It is a thrilling experience for me, because I get to share my ideas, my beliefs, my experiences with you every day. What I am mostly grateful for today is the fact that I am allowing myself to be fully me, to express who I am and what I believe in, without the fear of being judged. But do not think that I have always been like that because I have not.

Living my life without being afraid of the judgment of others is relatively new. It did not happen over night and it is the result of many years of work within myself. It started to happen a few years back and it dissolved in layers, but I became acutely aware of this wonderful and life changing internal shift during the last couple of weeks. Writing every day, accepting the topics for my daily posts as they come and not censoring them at all, not being afraid of what you might think of me and knowing that you will probably disagree with some of my views brought to my awareness the fact that I am finally being me, fully me. This expands into a new sense of freedom for which I am truly grateful. Being me is not that bad after all. Actually it is wonderful!

Do you live fully as yourself or are you still monitoring your actions and behaviors through someone else’s beliefs and advice? I want you to start practicing life as you. In time, you will see who you truly are and you will fall in love with yourself: with your kindness, your humor, your wit; your compassion, your respect for others and for life, your grace.

Here’s to you! Wonderful, powerful, astonishing YOU!

Anite Moorjani‘s book “Dying to be Me” is such an inspiration and I recommend it wholeheartedly. Anita shares what she has learned through her experiences about illness, healing, fear and the true magnificence of each and every human being!


365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 13: Money, Sex and the Black Cat


Did the title grab your attention? Today is Day 13 and quite suited for this topic. To be honest, when I sat down to see what I was going to write about and the words of the title popped into my head, I raised my eyebrows and I asked out loud “Really???”. I wanted to dismiss the idea, but the words kept rolling in my mind over and over, so today I am writing about money, sex and black cats.

As we did with the number 13 in many parts of our world, we managed to create fear of money and fear of sex quite effectively. Our education did not include emotional intelligence or self love classes; it definitely did not include courses about the energy of money, about sexual energy and how to allow an unobstructed flow of both. Instead we were told all the wrong things that created unnecessary pain and suffering in our lives. I am convinced that many people feel the same. Today I am grateful because I have systematically worked to demolish the limiting beliefs brought about by my upbringing, schooling and living in today’s world.

Here’s a short list of the things many people have heard more than once. The number 13 brings bad luck and it is to be feared.  Money does not grow on trees. Sex is sinful. Rich people must be crooks to have that much money. Money is evil. Black cats are evil, do not let one cross your path. You must work hard for your money. There’s never enough. If I make more money, then someone else will have to make less. Sex is dirty. Money brings unhappiness. Black cats are linked to black magic. We cannot have a floor numbered 13, so let’s just jump from 12 to 14. You get the idea.I am sure you can add a few more sentences to my list of absurd, born from fear and fear creating examples.

Money is a neutral energy, it is not good nor bad. We give it one meaning or another and our relationship with money reflects exactly how we feel. Are you pleased with the amount of money flowing into your life and do not feel guilty for having it and spending it? If not, start looking at what is your real belief system about money. Sexual energy is actually creative, expressive energy and cannot be good or bad, it is neutral as well. Are you pleased with your sensuality and the sexual energy flowing through you? If not, take a deep breath and bring up what you really believe about sex. The more you examine your deep beliefs, the more awareness you will get and your relationship with money and your  expressive, creative sexual energy will improve.

As for black cats, having lived under the same roof with mine for almost 17 years, I can tell you that when Kiki crosses my path, she is asking for food or she wants attention. But that’s as black magic as it gets!

I have a lot more to share with you on these topics, and I am sure that they will appear again in my gratitude blog.. Until then, here are two fantastic books:

“The Wealth Chef” – by Ann Wilson – this is the education I wish I received when I was younger, but am very grateful to have found it now.

“The Honeymoon Effect” – by Dr. Bruce Lipton – the concepts explained in his book will allow you to improve the relationship you have with yourself and with others.

… and I imagine there is a book somewhere about the positive power of the number 13. If you know of one, comment on my post and let me know.

365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 12: Awakening


A client asked me a few days ago: “How do we help? There are so many people in the world who need help, it feels really  overwhelming. I contribute to a few charities; what else can I do? It is daunting.”

My response is the subject for today’s gratitude post. I am grateful for the understanding I have come to have that I must bring transformation and awareness in myself first if I want to contribute to our world in a positive and powerful manner.

Every single one of us is part of the grand tapestry of humanity. We are energetically connected, whether we believe it or not, and so we have an extraordinary power to influence our common energetic field. The key is to start with ourselves, to clear away what is negative and dark inside ourselves. We need to learn to unconditionally love ourselves before we can unconditionally love others. We must look at ourselves with compassion and understanding because if we cannot, we are not ready to be compassionate towards others.

We change the world by changing our inner selves. We help humanity by letting go of judgement toward ourselves and others, by being honest with ourselves and others; by showing compassion and kindness for ourselves and for others. If we do all that, then the energy we put out into our immediate world of family and friends becomes a healing energy, which will ignite transformation in those we love first.  And that will propagate in many directions, in waves and waves throughout larger communities, into the greater energetic field of humanity.

How appropriate it is that I found this quote on Facebook today: “If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation.”~Lao Tzu


365 DAYS OF GRATITUDE – DAY 11: Fork in the Road


Yesterday I read these words: “Be not afraid of growing slowly. Be afraid only of standing still.” This got me thinking about what I call the Transformation Point and the Fork in the Road. A few years back I wrote a little article about these two concepts, because their importance once understood, allowed me to be more present during key moments in my life. Today I re-edited it for you.

Throughout my life I was stretched to the limit by certain circumstances and events. I am very grateful for all these moments, because each one held within a Transformation Point. A Transformation Point refers to what I chose in order to end my struggle to steady a rocking boat:

  • Repeat old behaviors and patterns and remain where I was, or
  • Abandon that sinking ship of limitation and transform my life

The Transformation Point, suspended in time and space, requires a leap of faith. Sometimes, out of fear, we remain at the fork for a long time, unable to move, but eventually life will force us to decide one way or another.

How do you know that you are making the decision that will lead to your transformation and growth? It is very simple. How you feel about it gives you the answer:

  • If you feel a sense of dread, exhaustion and heaviness, this is an indication that you are choosing the same thoughts and behaviors again. It feels safer to do and think what you have always done and thought, but by doing so you bypass the Transformation Point and remain where you were before the Fork in the Road appeared on your life’s path.
  • If you feel a sense of anticipation, excitement and ease, you are choosing to evolve, to transform, to move forward. Going through the Transformation Point requires determination and patience but all you need to do is take that first step and then big leaps become possible. All the pieces start fitting together and life gets easier and a lot more fun.

A FORK IN THE ROAD is a beautiful and powerful reminder that you can always choose what your next experiences will be. May you always choose to evolve and move towards a higher vibration of health and fulfillment, with joyous experiences and wide open hearts!